(Closed) What would you have given as a gift?

posted 8 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: What gift value would you give this couple?
    $100 per person, so $200 total : (3 votes)
    6 %
    $100 total : (13 votes)
    26 %
    $50-$100 : (24 votes)
    48 %
    Under $50 because that's what they gave you : (10 votes)
    20 %
  • Post # 3
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    9057 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I’d probably go with 50-100.  Maybe 50 and a small tangible gift.

     

    Post # 4
    Member
    950 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I’d give a straight $50…maybe even give it as a GC to a restaurant you like or know they want to try.  I’m sorry she gave so little, but forgive and forget as it’s really not important.

    Post # 5
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    3162 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I voted $50-100 though I’m thinking closer to $50. I WANT to say I’d be the bigger person but I’llbe honest with myself and say I wouldn’t give as much as usual in light of what they gifted. Terrible terrible, I know. But it’s true.

    Post # 7
    Member
    532 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Personally, I’d give them $20. What can they say? They gave you the same.

    Post # 8
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    3709 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I didn’t vote b/c I think you should give whatever you feel comfortable giving. If that’s $20 or a gift off the registry, the couple should be appreciative either way.

    Post # 9
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    3162 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    @Miss Chapstick: LOL don’t hate yourself. We live in a tit-for-tat world.

    Post # 10
    Member
    120 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    i voted $50 to $100 because i sort of feel like that’s taking the high road.  $20 seems almost a little insulting, yet the usual $200 is way too much in this case.

    an actual gift is always a good idea too.  hit up a nordstrom rack type place.  you can get something for $20-$50 that seems like it cost a lot more 🙂

    Post # 11
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    5670 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I don’t know if I could ever give someone just $20, but at the same time I would be pissed if I gave $200 when I only got $20. I would say maybe $75-$100 for the two of you.

    Post # 12
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    6661 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    We would normally give $300, but our friends gave us $250 (which was obviously very generous and I”m not complaining) so for their wedding two weeks later we just gave the same amount right back.

    Also, I bought our other friends $150 worth of Riedel wine glasses off of their WS registry and they bought us the exact same thing for our wedding 8 months later.

    It’s a tough situation, but honestly in both situations we didn’t want to seem showy or make anyone feel bad. The friends who bought us the wineglasses to mirror the gift we bought them could have afforded a LOT more than that, but I didn’t hold it against them. It’s exactly what I would have done if I were them!

    Hope that helps!

    Post # 14
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    1315 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    It’s your own conscience you have to live with, chick. No matter their behaviour, you can cease feeling rotten if you give a decent but unremarkable gift, i.e $50-100.

    You never know, you could wind up being v close to them in the future, and it would be nice to not have this stuck in the back of your head.

    7 years ago, we went to the wedding of one of his school friends. We spent pretty much what we could at the time, but the present was crappy – 2 wedding print champagne flutes- because I really couldn’t have been bothered putting in any more effort than that! We’ve become closer to them since, and now I do feel bad, because they’re inclined to be generous people, and I’ll prob feel really bad if they give us something nice!

    Post # 15
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    6661 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Honestly, I”d buy them a small gift worth less than $50. That way it’s not so much apples-to-apples and you’re still getting them a nice gift.

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