Post # 1
Does anyone else have a tough time responding to this question? We really don’t need the traditional things one might register for and my entire life I have always hated being asked what I would like as a gift. It’s not that I don’t like getting gifts…I just wish people found a more tactful way to figure out what to get us. I personally don’t want to do a registry for the reasons I just described.
Is it me, or don’t you like to receive a gift thats thoughtful. That doesn’t read tacky or weird, but a I-know-this-gift-would-mean-a-lot-because-I-took-the-time not I-picked-this -out-because-you-told-me-to.
Anyone have this problem?
Post # 3
I’m not creating a registry. That wedding tradition is definitely not my style. I have my own personal wishlists, but I’m not showing them to anyone and like making out a list of things I want.
I don’t frown upon anyone who does do that, but I just know it doesn’t feel right to me.
What do I want … not sure!!!!!!!!! I haven’t even been asked! I don’t know what I’d say. Money? Hahaha. You can do whatever you want with it … it’s the perfect present. Who doesn’t like to open a card and see the green?
Post # 4
Its like the opposite problem for some brides!
I get the whole "from the heart" thing, my mom is great at choosing those gifts! She finds beautiful bowls, vases and other neat things as wedding gifts.
here’s a thought though – if you are having a shower people tend to prefer getting something off a registry. If you aren’t in need of traditional registry items, it might not hurt to register for a few basics. I always say fluffy white towels, an extra set of sheets, Brita filters are always things you are replacing. Or, you could register at a more "niche" marketing: REI, Home Depot or other similar stores.
Then, the wedding gift could be the "thoughtful, from the heart gift". Keep in mind that without a registry, you may just walk away with a lot of cash (which isn’t really a bad thing lol)
In response, I’d just say "You know our style (if they do), I’m sure whatever you come up with will be perfect!" Or, for already wed guests "Did you receive anything especially great at your wedding?" Or simply, "We aren’t looking to stock our house but we definitely would appreciate from the heart gifts! Surprise us!"
Post # 5
I had trouble answering that question, too, and eventually gave into pressure to make a registry, just because it was practical. But I’m glad when people give something that’s not on the registry just because they thought we’d like it.
Post # 6
Money. If we need something later we’ll buy it. Otherwise, it’s going into savings for baby, house, or other "big expenses."
Post # 7
- Wedding: May 2010 - Victorian Gardens of Two Sisters
We have so many out of country guests that I’m really just hoping they’ll show up.
That being said, I definitely wouldn’t mind a Kitchenaid mixer and a little bit of spending money for our honeymoon : )
Post # 8
We’re in the same boat, we don’t really need anything. Instead we registered for our honeymoon. Otherwise you could always suggest wine or suggest items from a decorating store you like.
Post # 9
oO we needed stuff. people WILL buy you stuff, regardless. But if you express your wishes (ie stuff from Lowes) you’ll MOST likely get gift cards.
Everybody knows we want hardwood floors in our house. So it does help.
We did receive some homemade blankets and such from people who are handy like that. Most of the poeple at our wedding didn’t know us THAT well, so I don’t expect my MIL’s cousin or whoever to put too much time into a gift. Fact of the matter, unfortunately.
Post # 10
I figure those who know us well enough will go for the from the heart gifts, and those that don’t will look to the registry for guidance. The gift that we really want is for everyone we love to be there and to have a good time. If I could stretch it into 2 days to get quality time with everyone I would.
Since we already have a house and stuff, so we went with camping gear, board games, and better kitchen stuff (we are using plates that his parents got at their wedding, pretty cool, but its time for a new set of every day plates that weren’t chipped by my future husband when he was 10 years old, lol). Aside from new stuff we also gave links on our website to three charities that we feel strongly about supporting. This way people had plenty of choices, but they know from the site that the biggest gift to us is just being there at the wedding since it is a destination wedding for everyone but us.
Post # 11
Well the reason I am not the registry type, really is besides only having a guest list of only 50 or so, (not like a large list) therefore not alot to pick out lol. I am a person who gets really good deals on things that are on sale, clearance or discontinued. I am going to register though and give people three options if asked, find something on the registry, give us cash (what ever amount works) or a gift card to a store I will choose. That is what I would suggest for you, heck it could be Fred Meyer- then you could go grocery shopping and or buy a night gown, diapers etc.
Post # 12
yeah I dont like clutter and I dont believe in registries–its like telling people what to give me, no surprise
my sis asked what did I want Isaid i cant tell you you have to surprise me
I like gifts to be surprises
I would definitely prefer cash gifts but cant tell my guests that maybe they will get the hint seemy card box on my facebook page
I would love gifts from my immediate family-I’m sentimental