Post # 1
Normally we go to Russia for xmas but we have 2 people in our immediate family who have cancer. They wouldn’t be able to come, so we are all staying in Canada.
Given one of the people with cancer is my dad, my husband and I will be hosting xmas eve and my crazy pregnant sister is taking on xmas day. My husband and I are debating the logistics for our event and I want to conduct a highly scientific and conclusive bee poll 🙂
Would you rather a formal sit down dinner on xmas eve or would you prefer a buffet style where you can mingle? Xmas eve will also include my husband’s family, who won’t be attending xmas day at my sister’s.
I won’t say what my preference is in case I skew the poll in my favour – or possibly not in my favour 😛 our families have conflicting preferences so either way someone will have to suck it up!
Post # 3
@MrsPanda99: When we have everyone together, there’s really no option other than buffet since we can’t all fit in one room. I think that makes it feel much cozier anyway. So I vote buffet 🙂
Post # 4
I prefer that even if you do a buffet line up for food, that everyone sit down at one table together and socialize and talk. It’s one of the few times per year that families REALLY all sit down together for a meal and to enjoy each other’s company.
Post # 5
- Wedding: July 2013 - The front lawn of our church
I love being able to mingle with all my family. A sit down dinner would limit me to those right around me.
Post # 6
@MrsPanda99: I would say if your sister is having the traditional, big sit down, then have a buffet unless you know your in laws would raise a stink (I know some people are fussy about that stuff).
I personally like buffet style meals 🙂
Post # 7
In between – a formal buffet. I’m not a fan of passing food around, I prefer it to stay on the counter with maybe a few small things, wine bottles, etc. actually at the table.
Post # 8
I prefer a buffet. I hate being called to the table for dinner and then having to sit there waiting for everyone to finish. I’m perfectly capable of socializing and talking to everyone without the formality of a sit-down dinner.
Post # 9
I’m generally in favor of more laid back meals during the holidays, regardless of when, so that’s what I voted. I’m not huge on the formal sit down dinner, especially with family.
Post # 10
@MrsPanda99: For big family get togethers I always prefer the serve yourself mingle buffet type of affair. I find it more comfortable. It also allows for people who have to excuse themselves early (or show up late) a little more freedom. Where you have ill family members, I feel like this option may be more comfortable for them as well. Allow them to eat at their own pace without feeling like they’re holding things up as well as allow them to excuse themselves without causing a scene if they’re not feeling well/overwhelmed etc.
Post # 11
X-mas eve is always at my parents house with my dad’s side of the family. Since there are usually at least 30-40 people we always do a buffet and sit wherever you can find space for you, your plate, and your drink. One memorable year as kids my cousin and I ended up eating in the bathroom because it was the only surface we could find to put our plates on. I always enoyed that kind of family gathering more than the stuffy formal dinners my mom’s side has.
Post # 12
@MrsPanda99: A casual buffet- easier for more mingling as pps ave said:)
Post # 13
I chose formal dinner. We usually have a formal X-Mas Eve dinner with the family and Christmas Day is more laid back.
Post # 14
I guess I don’t really understand the difference, unless you’re talking about you plating the food vs. the guests plating the food?
We always have all the food out on the island in the kitchen, then we fill our plates and sit in the dining room. Wine, rolls, butter are on the table. We just don’t have enough room for all the dishes. I suppose I would call what we do buffet, and if you had the dishes on the table, I’d call it “family style.”
I think of a formal, sit down dinner as the host(ess) plating the meals, which I don’t think I’ve ever experienced at someone’s home!
Post # 15
@megz06: You hit the nail on the head – my inlaws would cause a stink 😛 I revealed my bias pretty early but there you have it. @s2bmrscook: and @MsGinkgo: described how I feel and @MsJ2theZ: described my husband’s side.
I have 4 siblings and 3 of them have kids. Sit down meals don’t really happen in my family. My husband is an only child and that’s what they are used to. Unfortunately our formal dining room technically has room but I wish it didn’t 😛
Post # 16
@MrsPanda99: We always had a kids table and they have a lot more fun sitting there and eating/coloring playing. Could you do something like that?