Post # 1
During your reception, around 11 at night (when the party goes until 1), your bridesmaid came up to you and thanked you and said she was going to be leaving now.
ETA: This didn’t happen to me. Just wondering how it would be handled.
Post # 3
I would say, “What’s wrong?”
Post # 4
@feelingfriendless1: Well – I guess I’d say, ‘okay, thanks so much for everything!’ give her a hug and promise to get in touch tomorrow or the next day.
There could be a lot of reasons why she was leaving early – did she give any context? Maybe she was just tired from the whole day – being a bridesmaid is hard work. Lots of people just go to bed early. It’s not a huge thing, I don’t think. If she was leaving immediately after dinner, I might be worried, but she stuck around for some of the party! Try not to read too much into it. 🙂
Post # 5
“I love you, thank you so much”
Post # 6
I’d give her another drink ? LOL
If she needs to go then it’s ok, I’d say thank you for everything 🙂
Post # 7
Just to clarify, this didn’t happen to me. I was reading a blog online about it. The person was saying that a big expectation of the bridal party is to stay to the end, help clean up, etc. Which kind of worries me because I don’t want my parents being the only ones left to clean up and take things home!
Post # 8
I’d be disappointed, but thank her for being there for me, hug her, and tell her you’ll talk to her soon. There are plenty of other people still there to party with! 🙂
Post # 9
Clean up? Your guests should not be expected to help clean up.
Post # 10
If they were expected to help clean up and knew that in advance, I’d be kind of unhappy but not let it ruin my mood. “Okay, is everything okay? We have a couple more hours and I was hoping you’d be able to help us clean up.” If she just said she was tired, I’d just say thanks and goodnight and not worry about it.
If she wasn’t supposed to clean up or didn’t know it, then it wouldn’t bother me.
That’s one reason our reception is only going until 11 (and I have information stating that, because I think people are more likely to stick around when they know there is an end time and event that signals the end, a send-off in our case). I don’t see our crowd being able to stick it out until 1 AM and I don’t want it getting really sparse.
I also have outside help (day of coordinator) to handle the cleanup. That is the biggest buzz kill at the end of the night.
Post # 11
@feelingfriendless1: I probably would have asked why. And not in a nasty way at all, but in an inquisitive way, since the bridal party tends to be the last people to leave the reception along with the newlywed couple.
Post # 12
@LGenz: lol no not guests. I said bridesmaid – or the bridal party.
Post # 13
I would be disappointed, but 1 am is late for some people.
I think it’s crazy to expect any of your friends or parents especially to clean up.
Post # 14
I had to leave to catch an early flight during one wedding. The bride understood. I made sure to say goodbye to the couple and their parents first.
Post # 15
- Wedding: June 2012 - Franklin Plaza
“Is everything okay?”
Our wedding party stuck it out with us til the bitter end (3 AM!), so knowing how much my group of friends likes to party I’d probably just be confused and/or think something was wrong.
Post # 16
@LGenz: Good point. I never thought about this topic until now but it certainly seems silly to think that anyone would have the mental capacity to clean after a night of celebrating. Is that common? For the bridal party to stay and clean up???