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yikes! I think humor is good, but that's just degrading everything special about it. Sounds like something you might put more as a joke on facebook, but I don't think it would be appropriate for an actual invite...
I can see why this would be completely fitting for some people's personalities. BUT....if I received this, then I'd be a bit put off. Being invited to witness someone's wedding is an honor, and this trivializes it a bit. I'd be less likely to take time off work or make other sacrifices to come to it.
If you know your guests and think they'd get it, then it could work. But I wouldn't find it amusing. (I'd also take out the part of "if they remember").
I think it completely depends on your guests and your personal style as a couple. If you two are always joking around like this and your guests are expecting it from you, then you could probably get away with it. I know I personally wouldn't be comfortable sending something like this to my extended family, but maybe if your wedding is just close friends and family, then they might "get it."
I think its quirky & funny but there's something missing. It's really going to depend on the execution.
Honestly I would roll my eyes if I received this. It depends on your personality though- you said you are both very dry, so would your friends and family anticipate something like this? If so, it would probably make people laugh, but if no one is expecting this, it might just seem odd.
I'm going to go with would laugh but might be too far, especially if you have older relatives, because it seems to make a bit too much light of the whole thing and marriage in general. We didn't do traditional wording on ours, but our first version was:
You are invited to witness the unthinkable as Jinxstar & Hexsun intentionally fulfill numerous doomsday prophesies and become husband and wife.
which I sadly decided would be too much for some of my relatives, but would probably would have run with if we could have found the right invitation images. :D
I used http://offbeatbride.com/2007/12/wedding-invitation-wording-that-wont-make-you-barf for ideas for mine.
Good luck working the wording out. It took me a while to come up with something we both were happy to use.
@FutureMrsRugbee: love that second one. I agree that the OP's first draft is missing something. Makes it seem like you don't actually want people to come.
Our friends and family would not expect anything "normal" from us...we all kind of have a warped sense of humor. Thanks for the input! I will go with someone a little less self-deprecating!
I'm not sure; it does seem very derogatory about the whole wedding thing in the first place, and trivializes a really important event, like PP's have said. You can be funny without being negative about weddings; I'd try for that instead
I am going to disagree with PP's on this one because I think if it fits you and your FI's personalities and sense of humor ..... I say go for it!
I mean, I am sure no one who gets that would seriously think, " Well, they must not value the sanctity of marriage because they took a different approach with their invitations"
ebet24, while I totally respect your sense of humor and I can see you want something that isn't your run of the mill wedding invitation, I think there are other, perhaps better ways to accomplish this.
If I got this invitation in the mail, even if I knew you, I'd think to myself, "they are going to regret that in 15 years!" It loses hilarity in being so uncomfortable. Like FutureMrsRugbee points out, there are ways to make a wedding invitation funny, informal, edgy, quirky, and even a bit uncomfortable, yet not so nonchalant and ostracizing.
Good luck and let us know what you come up with!
@FutureMrsRugbee: I think these are better. The OPs wording is more awkward than funny.
@ebet24: You can do better ;-)
@DisneyBrideCKB: Would you regret the invitation wording that long into the future though? I mean I don't think I have ever actually read an invitation. They are usually all the same, so skimming through the information to get the important stuff is easy. Then it gets tossed and forgotten. Something like that would catch my eye and i'd laugh about it until the wedding, but after that, as a guest I don't think i'd care too much. I don't think if I saw the bride and groom 15 years later, that I would even bring up what was on the invite. (unless it was completely crazy).
I do agree with PP's, it could be worded differently and better.
I really don't like it. I think its great to have a sense of humor and an off beat wedding. But I think there are better ways or doing it or other creative invite ideas. The wording sounds to me like you aren't serious and are in fact making a mockery of a wedding. Its very off putting to me.
I would think you didn't like each other very much! BUT, I don't know you and your guests probably do. It's just not for me personally.
I don't think it's too funny personally - I see where you're trying to be quirky but I think it's just too negative.
OMG, I just read this to DH and we both think with that sense of humor, it would be a no miss function for us. That is bound to be a fun party.
If it fits your personality, go for it!! Maybe take off the very last line? I think the beginning is funny but then at the end sort of makes it sounds like you don't care if your guest comes or not...but overall its funny :)
I'm all for personalizing your wedding, but I really don't like this. For one thing, it seems more awkward than funny. Also, it makes it seem like you don't take the wedding very seriously, so as a guest I wouldn't make as much effort to come or buy a nice gift or get excited for you. I think you should keep trying and come up with something quirky but not awkward
I would love it, I have a very dry sense of humor. I say people get offended for everything these days. If someone seriously is not going to come to your wedding because they dislike the invite its their loss, and its most likly not the type of party they would enjoy anyways. My Fi probably would not like an invite like that, if he did I would go for it. You guys can set the tone for your party any way you like!
MissCallieJean If it was THIS invite, you better believe I'd remember it 15 years later!
I agree with the others... by all means do something funny and offbeat, but I'd try to skip the self-deprecating tone (although I did giggle at "due to pressure from their parents").
@DisneyBrideCKB: I guess I don't find it to be offensive, just off beat. If I did remember it, it would be more of a chuckle instead of a cringe. Personally, I wouldn't do it.
This comment may be harsh, but it's my honest opinion: I don't think it's funny in the slightest. I think it mocks a traditional wedding invitation and makes light of a very serious (albeit happy) day. A wedding is an important day, and I think the entire invitation is offensive, particualrly the line about "not doing any better." This is supposed to be your best friend and the man that you love with everything you have -- and that line makes it sound like you decided to settle. I think it's rude and offensive, and I'd be horrified if I received an invitation like that.
@TwoCityBride: That's kinda how I feel...I'm going to offend someone some way because everyone gets so offended these days.
It's hard to find funny invitations that we like so I think we will stick with traditional invite wording but do something funny/outlandish for the RSVP. We are only inviting family and very close friends to our reception who know our senses of humor and wouldn't be offended though.
It's hard to say because I dont know you and your FI. I think if this is something your guests would expect out of you, then it would be no problem. But if you're just randomly wanting to be funny and maybe isn't that typical...I'd feel strange about it lol. Ask someone you know and get their reaction maybe...not everything has to be super traditional you know :)
@FutureMrsRugbee: Oooh, love the second one! It might be too informal for my wedding invitations but that would be really fun for a Save the Date card.
Honestly? Just from the wording, I would assume you two are already having divorce papers drafted for when you find someone better! I think you can be funny without being disrespectful to your partner.
MissCallieJean I don't find it "offensive" at all. On the contrary, I commend her for her sense of humor and courage to step out of the normal and do something that more accurately reflects her personality. I do, however, think there are better ways to accomplish this.
ebet24 said: It's hard to find funny invitations that we like so I think we will stick with traditional invite wording but do something funny/outlandish for the RSVP.
I still like your idea for a unique invitation, don't give up on that. I definitely think you can find a creative and humorous way to display your personalities in your invitation. I just think you need to keep working at it. I did like the "pressure from the parents" bit. Keep that and work from there.
@ebet24 People getting offended at a wedding invitation is ridiculous, in my point of view, I mean there a ton of other things to be outraged and offended by. If its close friends and family and they know you are jokester go for it. One thing I like about seeing all different kinds of weddings is how people infuse their personalities into it. Some people are very romantic and sentimental, others like myself are not I don't think you have to conform to other peoples standards of what it means to be a bride and how a wedding should go.
I've also learned already at this stage in planning, there is no way I'm going to make everyone happy, so might as well do what I like.
You can still play around with it and see what works best, I like the first lines about your parents it is so funny and I think a good way to start!
@DisneyBrideCKB and @TwoCityBride: Thanks! We'll keep working on it...
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So my FI and I are very dry and want a funny, informal, slightly shocking wedding invitation. This is our first draft (and we have parental approval so no worries there)...is it going too far or would you laugh?
Due to pressure from their parents
Ebet24
&
Her FI
have realized that they are not going to do any better, and are attempting marriage
Sunday, May 20, 2012
at 3:00 in the afternoon
(if Ebet24's FI remembers)
Place
Address
If you have nothing better to do, please join us for an awkward but enthusiastic reception afterwards