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to wear a specific color? I really want all the guests to wear either green, purple, or black (our colors are green, purple, and orange). What would you think as a guest?
I don't know. Other than white, I kind of like to wear my own colors of my own choosing when I'm going out. Not saying I wouldn't do it, but those colors don't work well on everyone.
I think unless you are famous, have boat loads of money (IE a Hilton) or both, this is tough to get away with without ruffling feathers.
My SIL asked us to wear white shorts to her Pre bridal spa day. I was annoyed because I didnt have any, I dont like shorts (I prefer skirts) and had to buy some. It totally annoyed me. Maybe because I have other problems with her. If I didnt maybe it would be a different story.
However, at least you have black in there which is typically a color most people have. But how strict are you being? I have a black and white dress, and not all black. Would I be against the rules? I definately do not have a green or purple dress.
@katiee0707: If you asked me to wear yellow, pink, or orange (Three colors I strongly dislike that also look terrible on me.), I probably wouldn't go. I think black is a decent fallback color for almost everyone, so that mitigates it somewhat. It feels like it's a bit much to ask, but, then again, I told my Matron of Honor to just pick her own dress, so I am pretty laid back about wedding attire.
@lefeymw: If someone asked me to buy clothes for a pre-bridal spa day, I would refuse - especially white shorts, which are something I would never wear again.
I think finding something green, purple or black is easy enough.... I don't think I would be annoyed, but I can see how others may be a tad offput by it.
In the end, do what you feel is best for the wedding that is within reason. Of course, to cannot *make* anyone do anything, so just keep an open mind!
I would think this was a teenage girl's slumber party. Adults have been dressing themselves for weddings and other similiar events for years. Telling them what to wear is presumptuous to put it nicely.
Those are all colors some people might not like to wear, I also would keep in mind that some guest probably already have formal wear and if you suggest colors they are going to have go out and buy new outfits, which is another added expense. I'm all for the bride having her day and doing what she wants however I do think telling your guest what the dress code like formal, black tie, is ok but colors takes it a big too far.
I would still come to the wedding and go along with it, but if I'm being totally honest, if I have to go out and buy new clothes when I would have been able to wear something I already owned, the cost is probaby coming off your gift.
I would be annoyed because I am the worst at shopping and I have a hard time finding things I like. When I do find something I like, I don't really want someone telling me I can't wear it and I have to go out and shop again. That would definitely make me annoyed. That being said, black is easy enough to work with, but I might not look my "best" given the requirements.
Can I ask why you feel it is important for the guests to wear certain colors?
I buy a new dress/outfit for each wedding and big event I attend, so I wouldn't be opposed to it. I am attending your wedding in order to be a part of your special day, so I would of course dress the way you asked. It really isn't going to harm me to wear a colour I don't super love for one day. Go with your gut and request it- but don't be too disappointed when some people don't comply.
I'd be like "What?"
Then I'd wear one of the colors if it coincided with my clothing already, or just ignore it and wear whatever if I didn't have something.
I think unless you're asking guests to wear black or white, its not going to work out how you expected it to in the first place. There are so many shades of green, purple and orange...especially the green. What about olive green? Seafoam green? Does teal count? As a guest I'd end up being like...come on now. Personally I just think its a lot of work for everyone involved, but thats just my opinion!
I would expect a bridesmaid's gift, as I would assume that being required to wear certain colors would only happen if I had agreed to be in the wedding party.
I would be annoyed and I would wear whatever I wanted and still attend. I think it's a bit silly to ask your guests to wear specific colurs just to achieve a certain look.
I would be kind of annoyed, but I would probably comply and still go.
Honestly, even though I have dresses in two of those colors, I'd probably still be annoyed. Unless I'm a bridesmaid, I wouldn't like someone dictating what I wear (my favorite wedding guest dress is neither of those colors.) I think some of your older guests could be really put off by this. Were you thinking of also asking the men to do this? Not every man has a black suit (my FI only has grey suits), or a shirt in one of those colors.
There isn't an option for 'annoyed, but still go the wedding........wearing whatever color you wish'
lol, cause I'm like @whitandrior:, I am no good at dress shopping, and even when I go out with the intention of getting a certain color, I almost always get something different. So if I don't already have a dress in the right colors, I'll just wear something different from the request, or not go.
I didn't vote because I was looking for an option that says I'd go, but I wouldn't go buy something just to comply. If I didn't have one, I'd just go and not comply with the color request. What happens if folks break the dress code?
I would be annoyed. I shouldn't be required to go out and buy something special for a wedding unless I'm in it or it's my own wedding. Idk I think that would be asking a lot of your guests...
I think its a cool idea but wouldn't work in reality. You have to look at your crowd, if its a bunch of old aunts and normal family members, maybe they don't have an outfit that fits your color code. Not everyone buys an outfit for a wedding. You really don't want someone skipping out because they can't buy an outfit.
I have a bunch of black dresses and I would still be annoyed. I went to a wedding recently where the bride specifically asked women not to wear black dresses and, even though I was already planning to wear a blue one, I was annoyed that she told me what to wear.
But, since I think most people have black dresses, most people would comply anyway, but they would definteily complain about it behind your back. At the wedding I mentioned, a LOT of people were grumbling in their different colored dresses.
hmmm...so it seems like most people would at least be a bit put-off by this. I thought it would be a fun and unique idea which would be different than others have done before. But I now DO see there would be too many random factors, like people refusing to wear the colors. Then it would look like a strange rainbow if most people complied and then random people wore red or pink or something.
I still like the idea but I do not want to anger my guests. After reading everyone's responses, i am now leaning towards not doing it.
Thank you everyone for the input
I think it also depends on how big your wedding is. I read an article in a magazine where the bride and groom asked everyone to wear purple. They didn't have attendants, and only had 20-30 guests (IIRC), so they explained that this way everyone could feel like part of the bridal party. Yes, there were many different shades of purple, but it worked in the end.
For anything more than an intimate wedding, it may not work so well. It also depends on why you want everyone to wear your colours. Explain your request to your guests and it might take away some if their frustration at having their wardrobe dictated to them.
We kinda did that too. We asked our guests if they were looking for something to wear to the wedding we would love the women to wear a red dress, but if they don't like wearing red (or a dress) we won't mind. So far no complaints ;)
(we're also not having a bridal party so no one will get mixed up and look like a bridesmaid...)
To be honest, I'd be annoyed. I don't have a lot of wedding-appropriate clothes as it is and kind of avoid certain colours. I'd still attend and try my best to comply with the dress code, though.
I would be really annoyed with it and probably wonder if you were copying Kim Kardashian's black-and-white required guest attire. I tihnk dictating your guest clothing choice is inapporpriate and very micro-managed. I would probably not attend the wedding if I was told what to wear ahead of time, to be completely honest.
I gave this a lot of thought and came to this conclusion- if you're a close friend of mine, and have been talking with me for the past few months about your wedding and have excitedly explained this idea of yours, I'd probably be excited right along with you and happily wear what you request. However, if I'm someone that doesn't talk to you on a regular basis, and your invitation arrives with a request of what to wear, I'd probably be pretty annoyed. I would begrudginly attend in whatever I have in my closet that closely fits your requirements.
I would be super annoyed that someone was trying to dictate how I dress. I also wouldn't feel compelled to comply with the request and definitely wouldn't buy new clothes to fit the dress code.
I agree with the previous posters: Grown-ups don't really take kindly to being told what to wear. Your guests are not your bridal party... You're bound to offend someone, particularly if you a lot of guests.
I would be annoyed. That being said, I'd be fine I have a purple dress and a black dress. However, Mr.TKE would have to get a new wordrobe for your wedding and that would annoy me even more because he would never wear it again as he looks horrible in purple and green and why would you wear black pants with a black shirt, they never match.
I would wonder what my FH should wear. He doesn't have a black suit, but could buy one. But would he also have to wear a black shirt? Or a purple or green shirt? Or would a white shirt be ok?
Currently I don't have an all black dress (I am pale and black does me no favors) or a purple or green dress, but could find one. I might be annoyed at having to spend the extra money. This sounds terrible but I'd just give a smaller gift.
I dont think you can ask your guests to wear a certain color. You must respect that some people cannot afford to buy a new dress for every wedding. It is not as bad since one of your colors is black, because most women have a black dress but its still really silly. And is this for men too? hmm...I just dont understand the purpose of it either...
green, purple, or black
i think its rude to try to tell guests what to wear but in saying that i know black would be an easy ask for most people (inc ourselves)
i do think if i got an invite asking us to wear a particular colour the words entitled, spoilt and/or precious might be said outloud in regards bride and their gift $$$ might go down because she annoyed me - depends on who/the relationship
I would be annoyed and If I didn't have the color dress that you requested I may or may not attend. The time to buy your gift, plus go out and find an outfit for both FI and I MIGHT be too much. So I guess it all depends I would definitely try at least!
Sorry, I wouldn't even attend. I don't have anything in my closet to comply with your requirements, and finances are tight enough I'd be too annoyed to buy something new for it. I would consider it, but then I wouldn't really have any left over to buy you a gift, which would make me too embarrassed/pissed to attend. I'm glad you're reconsidering it!
You should have an option for ignoring your request altogether. I'd go to your wedding, but if I didn't have a dress in that color, I would just ignore it and wear what I had.
I would be annoyed, and probably wouldn't go if I had to buy something new.
I think it would be fine.. I think certain people are passionate about colors and would love to look out at their audience and see a sea of purple or green or whatever. It would be fun to me! And ANYONE can borrow a specific color to honor the brides wishes =) It may be a little annoying to some people on a budget or those that HATE the color but I dunno... Once they are there and if it is a beautiful, fun wedding, anyone would get over it I think =) I dunno lol
ETA: I agree the guests should have an option to not wear it... Because some people are very opposed. But I think once the guests see what it looks like with a bunch of one color, they will wish they had worn that color. Maybe. LOL
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