(Closed) What would you think if you were a wedding guest and asked…

posted 6 years ago in Reception
  • poll: What would you think if you were asked to wear one of 3 colors to a wedding?
    I would think it was a fun, unique idea : (31 votes)
    16 %
    I would be a little annoyed I might have to buy a new dress but get over it : (56 votes)
    28 %
    I would be very annoyed but still go to the wedding and comply with the dress code : (69 votes)
    35 %
    I would be very annoyed and even not go to the wedding because of it : (44 votes)
    22 %
  • Post # 3
    9824 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    I don’t know. Other than white, I kind of like to wear my own colors of my own choosing when I’m going out. Not saying I wouldn’t do it, but those colors don’t work well on everyone.

    Post # 4
    4824 posts
    Honey bee

    I think unless you are famous, have boat loads of money (IE a Hilton) or both, this is tough to get away with without ruffling feathers.

    My SIL asked us to wear white shorts to her Pre bridal spa day. I was annoyed because I didnt have any, I dont like shorts (I prefer skirts) and had to buy some. It totally annoyed me. Maybe because I have other problems with her. If I didnt maybe it would be a different story. 

    However, at least you have black in there which is typically a color most people have. But how strict are you being? I have a black and white dress, and not all black. Would I be against the rules? I definately do not have a green or purple dress.

    Post # 5
    196 posts
    Blushing bee

    @katiee0707:  If you asked me to wear yellow, pink, or orange (Three colors I strongly dislike that also look terrible on me.), I probably wouldn’t go.  I think black is a decent fallback color for almost everyone, so that mitigates it somewhat.  It feels like it’s a bit much to ask, but, then again, I told my Matron of Honor to just pick her own dress, so I am pretty laid back about wedding attire.

    @lefeymw:  If someone asked me to buy clothes for a pre-bridal spa day, I would refuse – especially white shorts, which are something I would never wear again.


    Post # 6
    5221 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I think finding something green, purple or black is easy enough…. I don’t think I would be annoyed, but I can see how others may be a tad offput by it.

    In the end, do what you feel is best for the wedding that is within reason. Of course, to cannot *make* anyone do anything, so just keep an open mind!

    Post # 6
    635 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I would think this was a teenage girl’s slumber party. Adults have been dressing themselves for weddings and other similiar events for years. Telling them what to wear is presumptuous to put it nicely.

    Post # 7
    3569 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Those are all colors some people might not like to wear, I also would keep in mind that some guest probably already have formal wear and if you suggest colors they are going to have go out and buy new outfits,  which is another added expense. I’m all for the bride having her day and doing what she wants however I do think telling your guest what the dress code like formal, black tie, is ok but colors takes it a big too far.

    Post # 8
    9056 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I would still come to the wedding and go along with it, but if I’m being totally honest, if I have to go out and buy new clothes when I would have been able to wear something I already owned, the cost is probaby coming off your gift.

    Post # 8
    689 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    Just think of all those colors clashing…. /shudder

    Post # 9
    375 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I would be annoyed because I am the worst at shopping and I have a hard time finding things I like.  When I do find something I like, I don’t really want someone telling me I can’t wear it and I have to go out and shop again.  That would definitely make me annoyed.  That being said, black is easy enough to work with, but I might not look my “best” given the requirements.

    Can I ask why you feel it is important for the guests to wear certain colors?

    Post # 10
    1508 posts
    Bumble bee

    I buy a new dress/outfit for each wedding and big event I attend, so I wouldn’t be opposed to it. I am attending your wedding in order to be a part of your special day, so I would of course dress the way you asked. It really isn’t going to harm me to wear a colour I don’t super love for one day. Go with your gut and request it- but don’t be too disappointed when some people don’t comply.


    Post # 11
    1775 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I’d be like “What?”
    Then I’d wear one of the colors if it coincided with my clothing already, or just ignore it and wear whatever if I didn’t have something.

    Post # 12
    112 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I think unless you’re asking guests to wear black or white, its not going to work out how you expected it to in the first place.  There are so many shades of green, purple and orange…especially the green.  What about olive green? Seafoam green?  Does teal count?  As a guest I’d end up being like…come on now.  Personally I just think its a lot of work for everyone involved, but thats just my opinion!

    Post # 13
    200 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I would expect a bridesmaid’s gift, as I would assume that being required to wear certain colors would only happen if I had agreed to be in the wedding party.

    Post # 14
    2233 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I would be annoyed and I would wear whatever I wanted and still attend. I think it’s a bit silly to ask your guests to wear specific colurs just to achieve a certain look. 

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