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If she is getting married in 4 months and you are getting married in October then I dont see how she is stealing your thunder. because theres still several months inbetween the two weddings
DH is Navy so I definitely understand her situation. We eloped and are just now having our "big wedding" in March, but I'm sure if that were an option we would've just planned a shotgun wedding like they are doing. Like PP said, it's not as if the dates are super close to each other so I don't think she's stealing your thunder. Just be happy for her and she will be happy for you too! =]
There's a 6 month gap between the weddings. Definitely not thunder stealing. If it were 6 weeks I'd probably feel different.
Thankfully there is enough of a buffer between the weddings for people to recoop the expenses and energy that a wedding takes to attend. I don't think it would be an issue at all. I would hope that you feel okay with it as that is more important.
My cousins wedding is a mere six weeks before mine (she got engaged six months after me and rushed her wedding) and it has become a huge difficulty. While I try to be supportive it is really asking a lot of our families and myself to come up with time, energy and cash to do both so quickly. The closer it gets to her wedding the more I have an issue and it has nothing to do with "thunder stealing."Other people are now starting to comment at how incovienent she made everything...I just nod and smile.
I would think they were rushing into marriage for the wrong reasons and be concerned about that, but I wouldn't consider it thunder-stealing. They'd be getting married in what, May? There's more than enough buffer space between then and October.
I guess some people would have a problem with her getting engaged after them and married before them, but that's not really thunder-stealing, that's just slightly irksome, lol.
First I don't think thunder can be stolen in general at weddings unless a sibling opted to plan theirs the same weekend as your own. But I really see absolutely no connection between the two events. Getting engaged first does not give anyone rights over being married first. (I know you do not suggest this yourself, but I see a lot of brides that seem to believe it.) You're getting married months away from her, she's getting married quickly for personal reasons completely unrelated to you. End of story. :)
The only time I ever think this is an issue is when it's family members. However, that's a big gap anyways. Siblings could have wedding 6 months apart with no issues either.
Just because someone gets married in the same year as you or chooses to get married before you do, does not mean they are "thunder stealing." Sometimes I see posts like this and just don't get it. I mean, we went to 8 weddings last year. A group of friends cannot plan their lives around someone else. They have to do what is best for them.
I don't think she's stealing your thunder at all. She has a real reason for getting married in 4 months and it just happens to be before yours. It wasn't anything intentional.
I wouldn't even think twice about it. April/May and October are worlds apart...not really, but they are.
Thanks girls! I DON'T feel like she is stealing my thunder at all, I was just curious where everyone else would sit with it. Mine is a destination wedding so it will be TOTALLY different from hers too.
Weddings are about starting a marriage not about attention or "thunder". Anyone who would be more concerned about the spotlight than being happy for their friend who will be getting married needs to calm down, waaaay down.
@soonerbride: Well I wasnt say I was upset about it. I was wondering how others would feel...When you say "Sometimes I see posts like this...." My post isn't saying that I am upset :)
Hey date Twin. I think she would be stealing your thunder if she planned to get married like the same month as you. I also think she has very good reasons to be getting married so quickly.
@sexxysheddy: Exactly! Nice date :) It looks so nice when it's written out like 10.21.12 :)
Shes not stealing your thunder. At all. Be happy for her, as I'm sure she was happy when she found out you were getting married.
Definitely not a problem. She's not family and four months is plenty enough time between weddings, you guys will be fine :)
Nope! It wouldn't matter to me at all, I think you have the right attitude about it. Now, if we want to talk about stealing thunder, see Miss Hedgehog's post about some girl doing a surprise wedding at her own mother's wedding. THAT is stealing thunder!
I'm glad that you're not upset, I wouldn't be upset either! I agree that if the dates were closer or if you were related it might be different, but even then, it would really depend.
I don't think she is. I mean, people can't really bend their lives too much around others, and if the time is right for her- it is right for her. It isn't like she is doing it on purpose.
I understand you. My FI's sister got engaged exactly a month after we did. She also told everyone how much it would suck if we got married before her. So she got engaged and is getting married this Sunday. Actually she's already married (went to a officiant from craigslist) because her FI is joining the reserves. So anyways let me tell you from experience that probably won't make you feel better lol I know it didn't me. But it'll pass. Your family will give you your thunder and her will give her hers. Just think that once hers is done its all about you. But don't feel bad cuz I know how you feel girl! SO it will pass! lol as will her stinky wedding compared to your AWESOME one lol No worries
I don't think this is at all stealing your thunder. If she was gettting married in October too, that might be a little rough, but as long as she didn't do it with the intention of taking something away from you, I don't think it counts as stealing thunder.
A friend could have gotten married the weekend before me and I wouldn't have cared. In fact, one got married 2 weeks after me and it was fine.
Glad to hear that you're not miffed. :)
FI and I got engaged in March 2011, set our October 2012 date in May 2011. FI's good friend got engaged in about June 2011, will be married February 2012, and that guy's cousin (who FI is also good friends with) got engaged in October 2011 and will get married July 2012.
FI is pissed, he thinks they're rushing because they want to get married before him and steal his thunder. If that's what's going on between the guys, that's fine, but as far as I'm concerned, it's great- I'm close enough with those girls that we'll talk prices and vendors and details and I'll find out who the good vendors are ahead of time :)
Not stealing thunder in the slightest.
Anyone that thought this was would get a massive side-eye from me ;)
Six months, and it's a friend, not family. In no way, shape, or form is that thunder stealing. My friend and I got married three weeks apart and it was fine, I can't imagine why either one of us would of been upset about it.
@pinkfrog: Why the heck does it matter when his friend and especially his friend's cousin get married? He thinks his friend's cousin is trying to steal his thunder? That is just like funny to me it just seems so silly. I don't get it! Glad you don't either, haha.
I dont think it is stealing your thunder in the slightest bit. I have set my date and my friend set her date a month before after knowing mine, and not for a second did i think she was stealing my thunder!
No big deal. My sister is getting married 2 months before me and my bestie is getting married 2 months after me. We share a lot of info with each other and give each other lots of ideas
It's not a problem but I agree if it were a month or two away instead of 6 or so.... it may have been an issue for some mutual guests. Best of wishes.
No. Not stealing thunder at all. We had to postpone our wedding plans because FI's sister claimed 2010 as "her year." It's so annyoing and bratty when brides do that. Not saying OP is, but I just don't understand the whole thunder stealing thing. No one's life should revolve around ONE wedding. Not even the brides :)
No, if she was getting married the week before you maybe. But thats fine. Man she better be planning QUICK!
Considering I married into the military and understand how you have to jump on a date if given the chance, I would let this slide. She's probably not trying to steal your thunder, but rather deal with the situation she has been given.
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Okay, so I have no idea what to think???? One of my very best friends called to tell me they set a date....For 4 months away....They are not "officially" engaged yet but he is in the navy, and will be away for a lot of the year (5 months or so maybe?) His family is VERY religious, where as she doesn't follow any religion, and doesn't believe in it. They are moving in together and his parents would like them to marry first.
So I am getting married in October (everyone knows this) and she asked how I feel about her getting married before me and if I feel like she's stealing my thunder....I honestly don't feel hurt or like she is stealing my thunder, but I think a lot of people would be upset by this.
What would you think?