Post # 1
Okay, so I have no idea what to think???? One of my very best friends called to tell me they set a date….For 4 months away….They are not “officially” engaged yet but he is in the navy, and will be away for a lot of the year (5 months or so maybe?) His family is VERY religious, where as she doesn’t follow any religion, and doesn’t believe in it. They are moving in together and his parents would like them to marry first.
So I am getting married in October (everyone knows this) and she asked how I feel about her getting married before me and if I feel like she’s stealing my thunder….I honestly don’t feel hurt or like she is stealing my thunder, but I think a lot of people would be upset by this.
What would you think?
Post # 3
If she is getting married in 4 months and you are getting married in October then I dont see how she is stealing your thunder. because theres still several months inbetween the two weddings
Post # 4
Darling Husband is Navy so I definitely understand her situation. We eloped and are just now having our “big wedding” in March, but I’m sure if that were an option we would’ve just planned a shotgun wedding like they are doing. Like PP said, it’s not as if the dates are super close to each other so I don’t think she’s stealing your thunder. Just be happy for her and she will be happy for you too! =]
Post # 5
There’s a 6 month gap between the weddings. Definitely not thunder stealing. If it were 6 weeks I’d probably feel different.
Post # 6
Thankfully there is enough of a buffer between the weddings for people to recoop the expenses and energy that a wedding takes to attend. I don’t think it would be an issue at all. I would hope that you feel okay with it as that is more important.
My cousins wedding is a mere six weeks before mine (she got engaged six months after me and rushed her wedding) and it has become a huge difficulty. While I try to be supportive it is really asking a lot of our families and myself to come up with time, energy and cash to do both so quickly. The closer it gets to her wedding the more I have an issue and it has nothing to do with “thunder stealing.”Other people are now starting to comment at how incovienent she made everything…I just nod and smile.
Post # 7
I would think they were rushing into marriage for the wrong reasons and be concerned about that, but I wouldn’t consider it thunder-stealing. They’d be getting married in what, May? There’s more than enough buffer space between then and October.
I guess some people would have a problem with her getting engaged after them and married before them, but that’s not really thunder-stealing, that’s just slightly irksome, lol.
Post # 8
First I don’t think thunder can be stolen in general at weddings unless a sibling opted to plan theirs the same weekend as your own. But I really see absolutely no connection between the two events. Getting engaged first does not give anyone rights over being married first. (I know you do not suggest this yourself, but I see a lot of brides that seem to believe it.) You’re getting married months away from her, she’s getting married quickly for personal reasons completely unrelated to you. End of story. 🙂
Post # 9
The only time I ever think this is an issue is when it’s family members. However, that’s a big gap anyways. Siblings could have wedding 6 months apart with no issues either.
Post # 10
Just because someone gets married in the same year as you or chooses to get married before you do, does not mean they are “thunder stealing.” Sometimes I see posts like this and just don’t get it. I mean, we went to 8 weddings last year. A group of friends cannot plan their lives around someone else. They have to do what is best for them.
Post # 12
I don’t think she’s stealing your thunder at all. She has a real reason for getting married in 4 months and it just happens to be before yours. It wasn’t anything intentional.
Post # 13
I wouldn’t even think twice about it. April/May and October are worlds apart…not really, but they are.
Post # 14
Thanks girls! I DON’T feel like she is stealing my thunder at all, I was just curious where everyone else would sit with it. Mine is a destination wedding so it will be TOTALLY different from hers too.
Post # 15
Weddings are about starting a marriage not about attention or “thunder”. Anyone who would be more concerned about the spotlight than being happy for their friend who will be getting married needs to calm down, waaaay down.
Post # 16
@mixtapehearts: Thats what I thought (Im the original poster)