Post # 1
Ok, so here’s the story. I thought I would get my bridesmaids some nice jewlery, or maybe a pashmina or a purse as gifts before our wedding. But then we decided that we are going to give the groomsmen Flip Video camcorders for their gifts…
…and I got to thinking. I’d be kind of annoyed as a bridesmaid if the guys all got Flip Videos as their gifts, and I just got some lame bracelet and a clutch. But that might just be me. (And I definitely don’t want to go out and spend a whole bunch of money on a present that my BMs won’t like.) So here’s the question:
As a bridesmaid in a friend’s wedding, would you prefer to receive a Flip Video, or a more standard gift (like jewlery, pashmina, purse, massage gift certificate what have you…)?
Also, if you would NOT prefer the Flip video, what is your idea of a truly excellent bridesmaid gift?
Post # 3
I agree w/ your thinking… I may feel a bit of jealousy… sounds like a sweet gift!
Post # 4
i’d want a flip video. but you might also want to make sure that non of your girls already have one.
Post # 5
I’m 95% sure that none of the girls already have one. I’m more worried about the guys, since they are all about gadgets, but my fiance has assured me that to his knowledge none of the groomsmen own any kind of camcorder.
Post # 6
I’d want the same thing as the guys! I never use the purse (other than for the wedding) and rarely reuse the jewelry. The one BM gift I use over and over again was given to me over 10 years ago – a monogrammed mini leatherman – both BM and GM got the same gift and we all LOVED it.
Post # 7
Honestly, I’m not a fan of matching bridesmaid gifts, especially since I’m having a bridesman in my bridal party and I don’t think he’d appreciate a clutch and earrings I intend to just shop for them as though I were buying a birthday present, and try to spend roughly the same amount on each, with a little extra for my MOH.
Post # 8
I would love a flip video over a clutch… Or a monogrammed robe. I have always wanted one of those too.
Post # 9
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
I guess I’m in the minority, but I really couldn’t care less about those flip video things. I’m all about the girly stuff – bring on the clutch! 🙂
Post # 10
flip video would be nice. If you got them a really nice clutch full of great accessories that’d be fun too.
Post # 11
Regardless of gender, I would prefer something not wedding-related at all. Basically, nothing you would find on a website listed as an attendant gift. Since these people are close enough to you to warrant a position of bridesmaid or groomsman, I would prefer that the couple shopped as though it was Christmas or a birthday and got something that fit each person’s individual interests and hobbies that will last well beyond the wedding day. Otherwise, it comes across that you are just following a wedding catalog/website’s guidelines and don’t appreciate what makes them unique, even though that may not be your intention at all. That said, a gift is just that, a gift, which is unexpected and not required but given out of the goodness of your heart as a thank you to these special people in your lives. As examples, more folks would appreciate something related to a personal hobby than jewelry that doesn’t fit their style or taste for a woman, as all accessories are the responsibility of the bridesmaids themselves, or assuming that every man on the planet drinks like a frat boy if at all regardless of age and needs another beer mug or flask.
Post # 12
I originally got my BM’s jewelry for the day of the wedding- earrings and a necklace. They were nice (they were by Ralph Lauren), but they weren’t amazing. Then my then-FI came home with X Box’s for all his groomsmen! I knew that I couldn’t give my girls jewelry to wear for the wedding, and have him give his guys X Box’s, so I went and got my girls pashmina’s, black lace undies that said “bridesmaid” in rhinestones on them, and something from Tiffany’s. Tiffany’s has a great $100 section on their website, and I’ll tell you, my girl’s were just as excited for Tiffany’s as the guy’s were for X Box’s!
Post # 13
I completely agree with Ember. I plan on giving my girls different things based on what I know about them. I very much plan on shopping for them as if it was their birthday. I’ll let them wear jewelry they already have.
Post # 14
I was going to spend the same amount on each girl, but personalize the gift…my sister is all about purses and glamour, so I was going to get her a monogrammed faux croc and some other material purse….my best friend is very outdoorsy and loves camping, so I’m getting her this sweet cooler she’s been wanting…
I was also thinking, maybe gift cards to their favorite store. I know with the economy, many people are cutting back, so a gift card might cheer them up and let them do the shopping!
Post # 15
Flip! While I would appreciate the sentiment of a nice piece of jewelry or a clutch, they’re often one-time usage things (even if the bride tries to find something that would work otherwise.
Post # 16
There are just my 2 cents and everybody is different.
I would want my dress to be paid for. That would be the best bridesmaids gift. It should cost about the same as a flip video camera. Jewelry and other accessories are just too personal to make a great gift out of. I wouldn’t mind having accessory as gift in addition to a great gift (e.g. flip video camera or have my dressed paid for) but if those accessories cost beaucoup $ and are the only gifts I would have, I don’t feel it’s worth it.
Besides, unless you’re going for a very homogenous look for your wedding party, I feel that it’s demanding enough that the bridesmaids are asked to wear the same dress, why not let them accessorize on their own.