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posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 5
6457 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@truelove25:  your part is very hard to understand.

You also posted almost three sane exact post a few days ago. I think you should sit down and have a serious chat with him if you want to be married by a certain point.

Post # 6
6457 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Wow I just realized that I have a ton of spelling errors in my post (above)! Guess that’s what I get for trying to use my phone to post quick before going into work! Anyways, I think you need to have a serious chat about it with him instead of constantly looking for hints and getting your hopes up like that.

Post # 7
6799 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - A castle!

…well your post was certainly hard to follow… but there is a part that stuck out to me..

boyfriend says “a ring”..i laugh say “um no…yea right that won’t happen”…bf says “haha glad you realized that”…then i said “well you know eventually if you want kids out of me it has to happen…but seriously i don’t care if you get me anything..boyfriend says “ill give you a kiss and a hug” and im like “ok:)”….then he says “good christmas will be cheap…and i can by the new xbox!”

If you want him to get you a ring then tell him. Don’t say “I don’t care if you get me anything” because you obviously do care. Men aren’t mind readers. Maybe he was planning a proposal for xmas and then when you say things like “um no” to a ring he reads that as no, you don’t want a ring (because that’s what you told him). If you want to be engaged by a certain date or by your 5 year anniversary, the only way for him to know that is if you tell him.

Post # 8
2649 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@truelove25:  I’m not sure if your boyfriend plans to propose or not but what struck me about your post is that you seem to say a lot of things you don’t really mean and that can come back and bite you, hard.

For example, would you really be totally fine with your BF not getting you anything for Christmas and buying himself a new xbox? You are obviously also hoping for a proposal while telling him you understand and accept it won’t happen this year. You’re setting yourself up for big disappointments and resentment toward him.

I get that you’re trying to do the right thing. You’re hoping for a romantic surprise and trying not to pressure him. But in doing that, you might be going too far.  It’s okay to tell him that yes, you are ready to get engaged. You don’t need to play dumb when you know he’s talking about giving you a ring or referencing your future. 

After five years together, it’s okay to initiate a conversation with him about your future and what you want and need and when. 


Post # 9
7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@truelove25:  I think if he is asking you straight out if you want a ring, and you say no, that won’t happen, you probably shouldn’t be too disappointed if Christmas and anniversary go by with nothing. You should be honest and say, “I’d love that, but I want you to be ready too.”

And girl what were you doing when he wanted you to take your ring off?? Don’t play dumb! Take it off, give it to him, and let him get a ring that size for you!! I’m sure that is what he was going for.

It’s possible he could still propose since, yes, some of the things he’s saying is pretty fishy, but don’t be let down if he doesn’t becuase you kind of shot yourself in the foot by always telling him no.

Post # 10
2687 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID

Post # 14
2305 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I will admit, I think part of the reason you’re having such difficulty getting responses is that your posts are a bit difficult to read and hard to follow.

That being said, do you mind me asking how old you are? It sounds like the two of you have been together quite a while (about 5 years, right?) and at this point you really shouldn’t be playing these little ‘games.’

If you want something, be honest about it. Don’t pretend you’ll be okay not getting a proposal when in reality you are hoping for one. Echoing PPs here, men aren’t mind-readers. If he doesn’t think you’re that interested in a proposal, then chances are you’re probably not getting one.

Post # 15
1720 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I think it would be a good idea to communicate your feelings to him and see what he is planning for your future together. There seems to be a lot of jokes and back and forth, which is fun and fine but it’s obviously leaving you wondering and trying to read between the lines, which isn’t fair to you. 



Post # 16
2878 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I suggest you put your posts in the Waiting board – I think the ladies there will better understand your position 🙂  In my mind, you need to chill the f out and stop overanalyzing everything; if you’re really anxious, just have a straight conversation with him about it.  However, as I said, the ladies on the Waiting board seem more into analyzing the hints.

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