posted 2 years ago in Pregnancy
  • poll: what is the best age to start having children .
    20-25 : (10 votes)
    9 %
    25-30 : (77 votes)
    67 %
    30-35 : (25 votes)
    22 %
    35+ : (3 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 2
    3828 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    The answer is “when you are mature and stable enough to provide for a child”. 

    I cant pinpoint an age since everyone is different. 

    Post # 3
    194 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    When your ready! Ha jk. I had my first when I was 22 and my second when I was 24. Personally when I had my first I thought I was a little too young still and didn’t really get to enjoy “being 21” cuz I was pregnant on my birthday. But that’s not the only reason, it just seemed like too much while I was still young even though I wasn’t that young. Also me and my bf (now husband) were only dating for 3 months when I found out I was pregnant so that might hlbe a factor too

    On a side note my husband told me if I want another o have until he is 35…which is 8 months from now and I am 27. So ideal I think mid to late 20s

    • This reply was modified 2 years ago by  imhisoneandonly. Reason: forgot to add a part
    Post # 4
    657 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2016

    I’m going for 30 – 35. I’m 34 now and about to start TTC. I spent my 20’s having fairly minimal responsibilities, travelling the world, finishing Uni, getting my career established and becoming certain of who I was as a person. There was NO WAY I was ready for a baby. I feel like now I’ve finally got all my ducks in a row and I’m finally at the point where I’m ready to be a mum. It’s not how everyone does it, but for me it’s perfect. 

    Post # 5
    2455 posts
    Buzzing bee

    birdy88:  When you (and your partner) are ready. Preferibly before an age that would put you or the baby at risk, but I wouldn’t try to get pregnant before I was ready just to beat a number.


    Also, please stop shouting in your titles.

    Post # 6
    153 posts
    Blushing bee

    Although I think biologically, a younger mother is less risk, etc, etc…. personally, I feel like I need to be as financially secure as possible. I feel like when I have a child, I need to be able to provide that child not only everything he needs but also lots of extras like sports teams and family trips. I want to make sure that my kid doesn’t miss out on any opportunities and looks back on their childhood with lots of memories of great experiences.

    In my ideal world, I would have been married and have a house and a baby by now (28). That hasn’t happened due to my decision to move abroad in my early twenties to travel, and not having met my SO until I returned. We are both savings for a house. We live in one of the most expensive areas in the country and we want to skip the “stepping stones” of condo or townhouse, so we have opted to wait a bit longer. I think it will be likely another 4 years or so before I start a familiy. I would have loved to have babies earlier, but it just hasn’t happened.

    Post # 7
    4959 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    birdy88:  When you are mature and able to provide for a baby. 

    For example, I don’t plan to have my first child until I am 30 but my friend had her first baby at 22 (after getting married at 21). She and her husband are in a loving, stable relationship and it works out very well for them, even though at 22, I never would have been in the right frame of mind to care for a child.

    Post # 8
    8483 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Probably 28-32

    Post # 9
    3360 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    I can’t vote, because I agree with PPs, the right time is when both you and your partner are ready (emotionally, financially, practically).  That is going to be a different age for different people.  I have friends who were ready within a few years of college, whereas my husband and I weren’t ready to try until we were 28 (we’ll be 29 when our baby is born), and we have plenty of friends who won’t be ready until they’re in their 30s, if ever.  None of us is “doing it right”, we’re all just doing what’s right for us.

    Post # 10
    904 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 1975

    birdy88:  I’m going to say… Never. 

    Hahaha!! Totally kidding!! I’m in the campaign of “when it’s right for the couple.” Whatever age that may be. It has a lot to do with age & marurity, but it also has a lot to do with timing and other factors.

    Post # 11
    9526 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Well, physiologically, it’s probably around 18? But for financial stability and maturity, I’d say 40s? The real answer is likely somewhere in between. And it’s different for each person. Many people want to be in a stable relationship prior to having children, which is a significant factor. Careers and school and moving all play a part as well. I’m 31 and we’re about to start trying because that’s when it worked out for us. Not because it’s some preconceived idea of “the best time”. That’s just the age where things came together for us to start trying.

    Post # 12
    2002 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    With all things considered, and in all areas being prepared, ideally for me I’d like to have my first at age 27 or 28. For me, any younger and I felt “too young” and any older I’d start to panic about my clock ticking away. There’s my 2 cents. 🙂

    Post # 13
    1055 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2014 - Loft

    playdohpants:  …. wow or should I say WOW. You can’t control the world. Let it go.

    Post # 14
    11668 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    At whatever age you are emotionally and financially ready to care for one!!

    Post # 15
    6435 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Swizzle:  Totally agree. IMO, so long as biological issues aren’t a major concern, the ideal age is whenever you and your SO/FI/DH feel ready (in all ways — emotionally, financially, etc.).

    My parents waited until they were a bit older in the spectrum to have me and I’m glad they did. I’d rather be raised in a household that was ready for me, no matter the age of my parents.

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