Post # 1
So all the invitations I have gotten recently for my boss are all
and Engraved with black cursive font & they all look the same
Honestly, I feel like all these invitations look stuffy and show no personality, theme or character.
Why is that most people do plain engraved invitations?
Is it because they show that they have money? Are these invitations a symbol of wealth?
IS it an old timey tradition that people feel like they have to do to show they are having a “nice wedding”?
Is it to keep up with the Jones? Because engraved invitations are like twice as much as regular invitations??
I just don’t get it! & Frankly they do not impress me at all because they are “engraved”
When I receive them I am not like “Oh this is nice, this is going to be an expensive wedding”, its more like “Oh these look like every invitation I see”.
Invitations that are colorful, fun, different get me more excited for a wedding. I am having a semi formal wedding and still don’t want engraved. My mans wearing a tux, but guests can come in tie’s etc.
I am just clueless about why so many people do engraved and so many people look down upon regular invitations.
Someone explain this to me please? 🙂
Which Invitation would you be more excited about getting? The engraved typical one? Like this…
Or something that is different than the norm and not engraved like these below:
Post # 3
@BrideToBe14: Opinions please:)
Post # 4
What I hate about the first one is the font. My eyes are bleeding.
But other than that, I don’t really mind. I expect invitations to be coherent with the wedding. Ex.: the first example you posted wouldn’t go with a rustic wedding, and the CD invites wouldn’t go with a black tie event, I would imagine more of a casual, urban wedding with a Photobooth, etc.
The invitation is the first thing your guests will see about your wedding. It has to be appealing and to reflect what the event will be like. If it’s luxuous and flashy, it should be reflected on the invite as well.
Post # 5
@NauticalDisaster: I see, thanks so much for that explaination.
I’ve heard your invitation is the first thing people see about your wedding, so it should go with the theme, I just feel like 90% of the ones I see are just plain white and engraved with crusive writing and it never tells me anything about the event.
I haven’t chose mine yet, but know I want something that has color, looks fun,but still classy and elegant.
I just have never had a friend ever send me one that wasn’t white and engraved, so was just wondering:)
Post # 6
I’m pretty old school and traditional, so we are going with a formal, timeless look. However, we’re not planning to do engraving, but rather thermography, which is much cheaper but gives the same look.
The main invitation text will be in black block print, with our names in script, in gold.
I actually think too FEW people do the traditional route anymore! My brother got married last summer, and they did a traditional invitation, and multiple people actually told my mom that it was so nice to get a traditional invitation, as so many these days are…not.
I also want an invitation that I can display in my home in a pretty silver frame for years to come. Traditional never goes out of style 🙂 I know I’ll never look back at my traditional invitations and wonder what on earth I was thinking.
There’s my two cents!!!
That said — when shopping for invitations, there were certainly times when I saw some more ‘modern’ invitations that were just beautiful. So I’m not hating on them! Just not the right choice for me.
Post # 7
Oh and hey — we’re date twins, OP! 🙂
Also – mine look nothing like the formal one you posted. That script is terrible 🙂
Post # 8
@BrideToBe14: For the same reason you look down on engraved invites.
It comes down to personal taste. I don’t think many people spend that much time thinking about invitations they either send out or get in the mail. It’s just under a microscope when you’re a bride.
And for a lot of brides, myself included, we don’t place so much time, energy and effort in making our invitations say something about our wedding. It’s a wedding. We’re getting married. I don’t need invites to convey to guests that my wedding is elegant chic, or rustic farm barn dance, or modern vintage mason jar extravaganza. For me, it’s an invite. Guests can figure out what “type” of wedding we’re having when they get there.
Post # 9
@KMoon5314: Thanks, those were GREAT points! I never thought about what I would want to frame and put in my house, I would imagine engraved cursive would look timeless and elegant for a lifetime.
That’s a really great point:)
I knew a girl in college that took her college graduation invitation and made it into a jewelry plate, like a flat one and it was so pretty. I always wanted to do that but never got around to it. 🙁
Post # 10
We are doing a pretty traditional (thermography) invite because I want our older guests to feel like they are welcome at our extremely non-traditional wedding weekend. We’ve already convinced the younger people that it’s going to be a blast, so they don’t care what the invites look like, but I definitely want to communicate to my aunts and grandparents’ friends that we’re going to be having a “real wedding”.
Post # 11
@FleeSircus: I see I see:) Thanks so much for the input that makes a lot of sense.
I also don’t mean to put down engraved invites…
I think they look very expensive, elegant and timeless.
Its just around where i live literally everyone does the exact same one and it seems boring to me:)
Post # 12
@BrideToBe14: Engraved invites are fine. So are so many other kinds. I love stationary but I hate the price of engraved invites so I will be going a more economical route with my traditional invites.
Post # 13
@BrideToBe14: Maybe because they go to some bridal or print stores and choose their canevas through basic or traditional wedding invites ? I don’t know. Many websites like VistaPrint offer various styles, colors and fonts. You can even create your own patter/color palette. I know my FI’s cousin’s wedding was more rustic and his invites were on recycled paper, almost like papier mâché. I’ve not seen that many engraved invitations, but they do appear more formal.
Post # 14
@BrideToBe14: i don’t know if I’ve ever seen an engraved invatation – is it the same as letterpress? I debated doing letterpress because I love the look and feel of it, but wasn’t willing to fork over the money. I think there’s something very formal and elegant about the first invite you posted. I would assume it was a black tie affair. Second one is also formal, a little younger feeling and more party feeling than strict black tie. The other 2 are super cute as well but have different feels and purpose. I think the CD would confuse a lot of people to be honest. The last one is nice and I’ve seen a lot of those lately.
Post # 15
I’m not a fan of the font used in that one but I like some simple white/black font invitations.
I think it’s nice if you’re going for a very formal, timeless look. But they certainly aren’t the only thing that can give that effect.
By engraved, do you mean letterpress? I think letterpress is absolutely gorgeous, much more than regular printing. I didn’t do letterpress because I didn’t think it was worth spending that much $ but I still think it’s more beautiful than typical printing. Letterpress isn’t limited to such traditional styles though, there are PLENTY of modern letterpress invites.
I like the typical engraved one (in a different font style though) or the last one is ok too. I really dislike the 2nd one! Reminds me of a 16 year olds birthday party.
These aren’t letterpress but they’re still script style invitations and I think they’re gorgeous
Post # 16
@MsGinkgo: I think engraved is the same as letterpress but I am not surea:)
Yeah those are all good points:)