What's an acceptable BM gift?

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
4483 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I think acceptable is whatever you can afford and your ladies will like. I’m sentimental, so I say write each girl a not telling her how much she means to you. I know I’d treasure that more than anything else.

Post # 3
3331 posts
Sugar bee

scarlettbegonias87:  I think the “fill a tote bag with gifts” trend is a bit overblown. It’s just so much. I think just the tote is fine, maybe with a nice card thanking them and letting them know how much their friendship means?

Ooh, or if you wanted to include a little something extra, maybe a picture of you and the girl in a cute frame? Michael’s almost always has cute little frames in their $1 section by the registers.

Post # 4
5781 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

If you’d find a tote bag an acceptable birthday gift, then it’s an acceptable bridesmaids’ gift.

Post # 5
1002 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I got my girls clutches from Gigi NY and a robe to get ready in. I think just the tote is enough with maybe a bottle of champagne or some kind of sweet treat. You don’t need to fill it with a bunch of useless items to make it look full.

Post # 6
869 posts
Busy bee

When I was a bridesmaid I was given a necklace (nothing too expensive- just pretty). I think a tote bag is nice! You could put some truffles or chocolates in to fill it out if you wanted but not necessary. I agree that a note or a small frame with a photo of you and your bridesmaids would be lovely as well. 

Post # 7
82 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: Detroit

I love a goog tote bag, so I think it can be enough.  I’m doing a similar gift for my bridesmaids.  I got them each a canvas tote and had their name embroidered on it.  Then, I didn’t “fill” the bag with stuff.  But all three of my bridesmaids really like to cook, so I put two really nice bottles of local olive oil in each bag.  So that way there’s a little something they can use after the wedding too.  I agree that I think the “fill a bag with gifts” can get a little overboard and that a nice tote bag is a great gift!

Post # 8
10 posts

I really do not think that a gift needs to cost you an arm and a leg – it is implied that your bridesmaids are important to you, so you would want to do something that they can not only use, but that also has some sentimental value. I think that something personal would be my preference (though it is more work) 

Post # 10
2751 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

You’ve already purchased so much for them. The tote bags are plenty. But adding a note or card would be nice “if” you feel like you need to give more. 

Post # 11
353 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

scarlettbegonias87:  This is essentially what I did as well. I got them a cute weekend bag from Etsy with their monogram in their favorite color. Inside I’m giving them a plastic tumbler with their name on it, a robe to get ready in, and earrings for the day of the wedding. I got everyone slightly different earrings because I didn’t want them to be matchy-matchy and thought it would be nice to consider each girl’s personality. I’m also going to include a personal hand-written note.

Post # 12
1583 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I’m giving my girls tote bags with their name embroidered on them, coffee mugs thatI personalized myself with local coffee, and a pair of handmaid wool socks. Its a November wedding and I wanted a gift that was cozy and warm

Post # 13
1801 posts
Buzzing bee

Considering you bought their dresses and stuff? Oh yeah. Just make sure theres a thank you card. Something sentimental always goes a long way!


Post # 14
3099 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

scarlettbegonias87:  I think you are already doing so much for them. I usually see the gifts as a thank you for everything you’ve done to support me during this process…but you have taken care of almost everything for your girls. I think once you pay for their dress, hair, and makeup you’ve already gotten them enough. Just stick a nice card in with the tote and call it a day. 

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