Post # 1
Well my title pretty much says it all. To give more info, my BMs are responsible for paying for their alterations and shoes. Although, I gave them a color of shoe they needed and that was it. A majority already have a shoe that fits the bill, I think one will have to go out and buy shoes. I’ll be providing everything else (hair, makeup, jewlery, dress).
I ordered them all large tote bags with their initial sewed on it. I picked out their favorite colors for each of them. Is that enough? My girls are not throwing me a shower or bachelorette or any party at all. Although, I will be eliciting help from them as far as putting together favors, and setting some stuff up at the venue. These things are not required, but my girls are awesome and are more than happy to help.
Should I fill up their tote bags with other gifts? I’d want everything to be practical–not just “Here’s something you need for the wedding anyway, so I’ll just call it a ‘gift’ ” Or is the bag enough?
Post # 2
I think acceptable is whatever you can afford and your ladies will like. I’m sentimental, so I say write each girl a not telling her how much she means to you. I know I’d treasure that more than anything else.
Post # 3
scarlettbegonias87: I think the “fill a tote bag with gifts” trend is a bit overblown. It’s just so much. I think just the tote is fine, maybe with a nice card thanking them and letting them know how much their friendship means?
Ooh, or if you wanted to include a little something extra, maybe a picture of you and the girl in a cute frame? Michael’s almost always has cute little frames in their $1 section by the registers.
Post # 4
If you’d find a tote bag an acceptable birthday gift, then it’s an acceptable bridesmaids’ gift.
Post # 5
I got my girls clutches from Gigi NY and a robe to get ready in. I think just the tote is enough with maybe a bottle of champagne or some kind of sweet treat. You don’t need to fill it with a bunch of useless items to make it look full.
Post # 6
When I was a bridesmaid I was given a necklace (nothing too expensive- just pretty). I think a tote bag is nice! You could put some truffles or chocolates in to fill it out if you wanted but not necessary. I agree that a note or a small frame with a photo of you and your bridesmaids would be lovely as well.
Post # 7
I love a goog tote bag, so I think it can be enough. I’m doing a similar gift for my bridesmaids. I got them each a canvas tote and had their name embroidered on it. Then, I didn’t “fill” the bag with stuff. But all three of my bridesmaids really like to cook, so I put two really nice bottles of local olive oil in each bag. So that way there’s a little something they can use after the wedding too. I agree that I think the “fill a bag with gifts” can get a little overboard and that a nice tote bag is a great gift!
Post # 8
I really do not think that a gift needs to cost you an arm and a leg – it is implied that your bridesmaids are important to you, so you would want to do something that they can not only use, but that also has some sentimental value. I think that something personal would be my preference (though it is more work)
Post # 9
Thanks ladies! I didn’t know that a tote with gifts inside was overdone. I’m pretty limited in my wedding experience. I was in a bridal party once and that is it, I didn’t even know you gave gifts until I started the planning process. I’m figuring out most of everything via google and these boards. I just wanted to make sure I was doing right by my girls.
I like the note idea. I think I may just do a blank thank you card and write a note inside.
Post # 10
You’ve already purchased so much for them. The tote bags are plenty. But adding a note or card would be nice “if” you feel like you need to give more.
Post # 11
scarlettbegonias87: This is essentially what I did as well. I got them a cute weekend bag from Etsy with their monogram in their favorite color. Inside I’m giving them a plastic tumbler with their name on it, a robe to get ready in, and earrings for the day of the wedding. I got everyone slightly different earrings because I didn’t want them to be matchy-matchy and thought it would be nice to consider each girl’s personality. I’m also going to include a personal hand-written note.
Post # 12
I’m giving my girls tote bags with their name embroidered on them, coffee mugs thatI personalized myself with local coffee, and a pair of handmaid wool socks. Its a November wedding and I wanted a gift that was cozy and warm
Post # 13
Considering you bought their dresses and stuff? Oh yeah. Just make sure theres a thank you card. Something sentimental always goes a long way!
Post # 14
scarlettbegonias87: I think you are already doing so much for them. I usually see the gifts as a thank you for everything you’ve done to support me during this process…but you have taken care of almost everything for your girls. I think once you pay for their dress, hair, and makeup you’ve already gotten them enough. Just stick a nice card in with the tote and call it a day.