What\'s been the most unexpected challenge of planning your wedding?

posted 3 years ago in Beehive
Post # 2
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11717 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

My biggest challenge was navigating family drama that cropped up as we planned.  MIL had very strong opinions that often didn’t agree with mine, and she got to be very forceful sometimes.  Trying to walk the line between pleasing others and getting what I wanted in my wedding became very challenging, at times.  There are still things that were said and done that I’m hanging on to and that anger me, nearly a year after the wedding.  I’m working on getting over them, but an apology, or concession of some of her rude behavior, would go a long way.

Post # 3
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5697 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Yup family drama. An aunt that kept calling me trying to get reassurance that I wanted her there (an aunt who pretty much single handedly through  many lies and a lot of manipulation destroyed my mom’s relationship with her family only a few months before). She eventually pushed me to my limit and I ended up screaming at her on the phone which I had to call and apologize for. She never did come!

I also went over the timeline of the day probably 50 times 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Meant2Bee:  Biggest challenge so far has been guest lists. My sisters who are bridesmaids are mostly organizing the shower and my other bridesmaids are helping, but not necessarily the most party-planner people. Well, the guest list for the couples shower was requested, so I went through and I made a comprehensive list of people I thought would be interested in coming. It was close to 70 people. I was told that it needed to be under 50 people. So I cut and cut, and cut. And in the end, it turns out the people I didn’t cut are the people who can’t make it, and that only about 4 people outside of wedding party are going to be coming. I’m a bit unhappy. I wish I could have just invited everyone and there might be closer to 30 people rather than the measly 19.

Post # 5
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499 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Just realizing that weddings cost SOOO much money! AH

Post # 6
Hostess
10863 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Meant2Bee: My parents were my challenge, even early on, they very much had an idea of what they envisaged for the day.

Post # 7
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1248 posts
Bumble bee

well I’m only 6 months into my 18 month engagment- but so far the biggest challenge has been finding out I was filed as exempt from federal taxes. It was a filing error but the company I work for refuses to take responsibility. I now owe the IRS $4723. There goes my savings, state return, annual bonus, plus more. My checks are now considerable smaller because taxes are actually being taken out, and my boss cancelled my overtime right when this all happened. We’ve now had to push the honeymoon back a year since I virtually will contribute nothing to the wedding. Hopefully I can get my OT back, or something, because I hate not being able to help pay for my own damn wedding.

Post # 8
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1432 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Dealing with wedding party’s attire – I hate asking people to spend money for me and I don’t like telling people what to do… but I kind of had to!

Post # 10
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92 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I am just over 6 weeks away from my wedding and for me the biggest challenge has been coordinating my three bridesmaids.  Sometimes they can be so difficult to get a hold of and one of them is always MIA when it comes to paying for things.  I put down her deposit for her dress and was never paid back and then when we were trying to schedule a time to pick up their dresses I could not get a hold of her.  So I ended up purchasing her dress myself.  Then my MOH and other bridesmaid hate each other and cannot agree on anything.  They are planning the bachelorrette party and it has been kind of a nightmare.  Every time I see one of them they tell me about all the awful things the other one is doing.  It’s stressing me out.  The only other big problem is working with the hotel.  We are having our reception there and a lot of our guests are staying there.  The woman in charge of the room block never answers or calls me back when I leave messages and I am always having to go around her to get anything done. Other than that things have gone faily smoothly with only a few minor hiccups.

Post # 11
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2419 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

My DH was diagnosed with something life threatening just before our wedding. I actually loved planning our wedding but there were times when I’d genuinely worry that he might not live to see the day and this, alone, was the biggest challenge I faced. 

I’m happy to say we had the perfect wedding day and now, nearly a year later, he’s been given the all clear, healthwise too!

Post # 12
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10748 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

My wedding is over, but I was surprised by how hard it was to find a dress I loved. It was aalmost a year long two dress process. 

Post # 13
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825 posts
Busy bee

People have OPINIONS about everything! My mom is a very easy going person who always lets me do my own thing — and the moment I got engaged, she had an opinion (I use that word loosely) about everything. FI’s parents already have super strong opinions and that was magnified by eleventy-billion once we got engaged. 

So we went from having a small (parents and siblings only) destination wedding to a 250-300 person wedding in my hometown…and the wedding is still 14 months away. 

Post # 14
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458 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

Meant2Bee:  I have really struggled with asking people for things. Especially my bridesmaids. I get all worried I’m being pushy or asking too much. every time I bring anything to them they’re really excited about it but I still worry. 

for reference I’m not asking for crazy stuff. Just picked out an $80 dress and asked them to accessorize in gold items of their choice. 

Post # 15
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706 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

The hardest part for us was FI quitting his job in August to move closer to me and then being unable to find a job in his field until 3 weeks ago.  It put us seriously behind on our budget and now we are pinching every penny we can to make sure we have enough to cover everything.

The other part is the fact that the first person who altered my dress completely messed it up.  So we are out $350 and having to pay almost $500 to have another seamstress rebuild it.

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