- 8 years ago
So I’m trying to figure out what my SO is thinking. We have talked MANY MANY times about being engaged and married. Originally he wasn’t going to propose until after we bought a house. However, he knows that I will not live with him until we are at least engaged. He is well on his way to having a down payment for a house, and once we live together we will share some of the expenses. We have had several talks about all that and marriage, and in some of our recent talks he has alluded to the fact that his plans may have changed.
He has recently been selling some of his “toys” that he no longer uses. Also, a few months ago he mentioned wanting to take dance lessons so he doesn’t look uncoordinated for our wedding dance, whenever that happens. Well, there was recently an online deal for a month of dance classes (he told ME about them), and we are taking them now!
Many people have been pressuring him about getting engaged, including his family. I try not to bring it up anymore because I don’t want to annoy him or make him do it when he isn’t ready. I told him to only do it when he is ready, not just bc I am ready–he said he has been ready for a while but wanted to make sure I was.
He has sort of mentioned that he is saving money on the side, and has been for a while, but I have no idea how much he has saved. He told me how much he has for the house down payment, but I’m not sure if that is all the money he has saved, total, or if he has a separate savings for a ring. I told him that I have a good chunk of money saved for “whatever it is needed for” but recently during a night of drinking, I accidentally told him it was my wedding fund, since I wasn’t sure how much our parents would be able to contribute. He then asked how much he thought my parents might be able to give, and said his parents would prob. be able to help out, too.
He has mentioned wanting the proposal to be a huge surprise. I told him to talk to my sister when he went ring shopping bc she knows what I want. I feel like I will be able to read her and know when they have done this, and so far i don’t get that feeling. I still feel like he is going to wait until after we have moved out (we both still live with parents ) and that probably won’t be until earlyl 2011.He said he wanted us to be able to share the engagement period by living together, not have memories of it with us living apart. (I feel like it’s ok if part of it we live apart, but then move in halfway thru the engagment).
I just wish I could get a better idea of what his plans are without straight out asking him. i feel like every time I ask, he pushes it off farther so that it will be more of a surprise. He had mentioned almost going out and putting a ring on credit earlier this summer but the we ran into a speedbump and he didnt do it (plus he said putting all that on a credit card might have been somthing he regretted). i just really want him to do it by the end of 2010–it’s been over 4 years and I can’t wait any longer for him to be more than just my Boyfriend!!! Does anyone think it might happen soon, or do you think he is going to keep me hanging for a bit longer?? Help me, Bees, I’m going nuts!!!!