Post # 1
Time and time again I see so many lovely ladies jumping on here and posting for advice, or for fun stories and so many times people just jump to the negatives and start at them for doing the wrong thing. Honestly, I joined this site because I thought it would be a good way to connect with lovely ladies from all over the world and share some stories and ideas about weddings, life, love and everything else. I deal with enough negative people in real life, which is why I came to the be for refuge. Was I wrong in thinking this was meant to be a supportive site? Am I alone in seeing people bully and be negative to other bees for no apparent reason? What’s going on here??
Post # 3
I think you’re being a bit sensitive.
Yes, there are some negative comments and tough love dished out in ways some people might not love to see but that’s what you get when people from all over post about topics that bring out all kinds of emotions.
This is not a utopia of sunshine and unicorns, it’s the Internet. Proceed accordingly.
Post # 4
Sorry you’re feeling so upset by it, and sometimes I get worked up too. But remember, it’s just people online, we’re all human. We all have our own way of talking to others, just the way it is
Post # 5
That’s why there’s a back button on your browser. 🙂
I’ve never been bothered by the negativity because when a nasty thread begins I may sit back and watch it unfold for a while, but after things get out of hand I just leave and never go back. Most of the time I just don’t click on potentially volatile threads to begin with. Therefore, I don’t get bothered. Don’t let a few bad apples spoil the bunch.
Post # 6
The first wedding website I joined was TheKnot and a lot of the women are there are brutal. I find WeddingBee to be much more friendly than some of the other sites.
Post # 7
@krayzay87: ++1 I have felt that way before, not directed at me, but I have seen people come across as “know it all” and very judgemental, and unlike the PP I do not think you are being overly sensitive. This is how YOU feel, and no one should take that away from you. If a bee asks for honest opinions that is one thing, but when the bee is pouring her heart out and all she gets is judgement from self righteous bees, that is a problem. And I have to say that honestly I have a feeling that you will get the same thing from certain bees on this post… oops looks like you already got some negative feedback. lol
Post # 8
@krayzay87: I know what you mean. Ive seen it too. 🙂
Post # 9
@krayzay87: I know what you mean. This is not the way it was two years ago. Just look at how lovely some of the older posts from years ago were! Many of those ladies left after they got married, so it’s like a completely different site now. Somehow the old bees got replaced by not-so-nice bees. Just ignore them; the good still outweigh the bad.
Post # 10
OP, I love how the first comment proved your point. You’re not being overly sensitive. And besides, when did being sensitive to the feelings of others become such a horrible thing?
I think it depends on what posts you’re haunting. If you just want to gush about how pretty your ring or dress is, those boards generally seem pretty positive. If you’re in search for any read advice… yikes. Yeah, these boards can be rife with negativity. You’re not imagining it. There are a ton of bullies on here, and anyone that says you’re wrong about that is probably one of the people doing the bullying.
Post # 12
@viola47: +++1 That first comment—case and point. lol
Post # 13
@PinkPinstripes: I agree 100% some woman here act like you should be damned to hell for asking certain questions. Everyone is surely entitled to their own opinion but i dont know why some woman have to be so snarky and just overall brutal and heartless at times. I’m sure everyones has heard this… “if you dont have anything nice to say, dont say anything at all” if your comment isnt helpful then why say anything, I just dont see the point of bashing others for sharing their feelings. I’m a long time lurker but just recently just started posted and I learned quickly that you need tough skin for the bee.
Post # 14
@FutureMrsJohnston: +1 – yep, i have seen that “know it all” and “self-righteous” tone as well! that is the best way to describe it, lol.
@viola47: +1 – Nice observation of the comment proving the point! And I agree, being sensitive is not such a horrible thing at all. It guides intuition and gives you information 🙂
@krayzay87: OP, i guess the best advice I can give is try to stick with those bees that you feel are most like you 🙂 I know there are a handful of bees that crack me up and I always read their posts.
Post # 15
I also feel like if you aren’t a “well known bee” you don’t get as much feedback.. Kinda sad 🙁
Post # 16
@PinkPinstripes: ironic, because I’m not even talking about the ones directed at ME. For those that have been that way to me, I’ve dealt with in private conversations. I’m talking about some other threads I’ve seen. Perhaps I just have a zero bullying policy installed in me from school, and others have just let that go and go rampant behind the protection of the Internet. All I’m trying to say is; words can hurt,especially when a bee is already coming from a sensitive and vulnerable place. What happened to “if you don’t have anything nice to say, then don’t say anything at all..”