(Closed) What’s in a monogram? No really…..what letters….?

posted 10 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

The large letter in the middle is your married last name, the small letter to the left is the bride’s first initial and the small letter on the right is the groom’s first initial. Don’t worry, I used to wonder that myself!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

Yeah, it’s kind of weird, but it is pretty much the only time that the bride’s name gets to come first.

Post # 5
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Newbee

There is no hard and fast rule about monograms – either the bride’s or groom’s name can come first.  So if you’d end up with a rather unfortunate monogram, you do have options… 🙂

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

We actually used his name first, as our initials with mine first are abbreviations for things that we don’t really want associated with us!

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2008

Hehe! We had the same problem. My name is Bonnie and his is Jeremy. You can easily see our delema (sp?). So whenever we used our initials such as the monogram I designed which only had our first names (and looked like j+b) I put his name first. Anytime I spelled them out I used my name first. I figured that was a pretty fair way to do it. 🙂 The awesome thing about monograms (and much of the wedding industry in general now a days) is that anything goes! It’s totally an opportunity to be creative and let a little bit of your collective personality show through. Good luck!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

haha, we would be LSD if we do it the traditional way… im still trying to figure out a nice combo of our initials.

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2009

What about if you don’t change you last name? I want to use the monogram idea too but I am not changing my name, so does that mean we have to have 2? thats so not fun!!!! maybe do we just use our first name intitials only? hmmm… 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Why does the woman’s name go first in a monogram?  That seems so odd to me.  I know there was that whole feminine movement and all, but it seems very nontraditional to list the woman before the man.  Does anyone know the background on this?  Is it a big deal to put him name first?

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

I’m not sure what the history of it is, but traditionally, the woman’s name always goes first during the engagement.  For our engagement party, my FI’s nanny was getting personalized napkins, etc for the party, and the printer told us the girl’s name always goes first. 

One theory is that it’s because the bride’s family traditionally pays for the wedding.  Or that at some point, the wedding was all about the bride and the groom just showed up to get married.  

It definitely predates the feminine movement. 

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I read on the Crane’s site
(http://www.crane.com/navcontentproduct.aspx?navname=etiquette_tips&deptname=styletrends&name=monograms) that the woman’s initial goes on the left, which I suppose is as good a source as any.  I  suspect this is so (just guessing here) because the woman was considered the head of the family in social matters, and normally the woman’s name went first when signing cards, etc. I also think that combined monograms are a relatively new thing and so there are probably no traditional rules to rely on!

It is also interesting to note that monograms on silver and linens were the bride’s "maiden" initials only (no married initials in sight), so tradition isn’t always so clearly male-dominated as might first appear!

 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Hopefully not too many people know about this tradition because I’d like to stick with having his initial first.  Our monogram is bTr with his initial first and I think that it looks like the word "better".. like we’re better together than apart.. cheesy… haha. 

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

Just be glad you all can use a monogram…My name is Kristy, his name is Kyle, and his last name starts with a K.

yeah.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I had to tell my FI about your unfortunate KKK monogram.. so not good.  Thank goodness monograms have gotten really creative lately and people have started using just fist names or fist initials.  I think a mirrored look would be so cool if I had the same first initial as FI… good luck 🙂

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