What's next after marriage?

posted 3 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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Bumble bee

@classical_wolf:  Are you interested in starting a business or doing volunteer work together? Maybe a bike ride across the country? A marathon?

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Well, I guess there is:

House Buying

Travel

Pets

Other things I can’t think of..

We’re not parents, but we do intend to be someday. We have some fertility issues, so for every year we don’t get pregnant, we’re going on a big trip. I know it would be different for you all since you don’t plan on kids, but you could make a yearly travel thing. It gives you something to plan, which is what it sounds like you’re really asking about. For me, I also started my Masters shortly after marriage, but you said non-career related. 🙂

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@classical_wolf:  I would advise shifting your focus to exploring and knowing yourself and your husband better, finding happiness in all it’s forms and meeting the challenges life throws at you with courage and grace.  Buying a house and having kids are not the final performance of a successful couple, merely the expression of some couple’s love and desire for family….define your life and marriage your way, live without regret and avail yourself to happiness and joy!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

@classical_wolf:  That is awesome! Actually this is a really good question for anyone getting married. What shall we do after? I nevr really thought about it too much because I’m so busy waiting for a proposal!

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

According to the song, a baby in a baby carriage 😛

DH and I planted a garden this past weekend, it was something fun we did together. If we can keep it alive maybe we might move on to a pet.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@classical_wolf:  lol, my husband is definitely the one with the green thumb, I’ve been known to kill a few cacti in my lifetime.  It was fun planting it with him (and a little help from google).

We planted some eggplant, basil, rosemary, cucumbers, and oregano.  Next weekend we’re starting up some artichokes, mushrooms, strawberries and tomatoes.  We had to re-do the whole backyard to get it ready for all the plants, though.  We had maybe 5 trash cans just full of crap.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Some things we’ve enjoyed:

Plan easy get-aways. It’s great to plan yearly international trips, but it’s also nice to plan short trips, close to home and spend the night somewhere new!

Making new friends, connecting with old ones reguarly.

Getting involved in community organizations to improve where you live.

Starting new hobbies – we’ve gotten really, really into cooking and love making as much from scratch as possible. We buy a new cookbook every few months and work our way through it. 

I relate to the post-wedding feeling of not having the checklist to guide me. But I think it’s part of being married and enjoying life – tossing out the checklist and being in the moment whenever possible.

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

We don’t want kids either. We have a cat now, the love of my life, and my fiancé has always wanted a dog. He says he’ll take that instead of kids so I guess we’re getting a dog. We have some more places we’d like to travel to/go back to again. Develop our unfinished basement is on the list too.

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

@classical_wolf:  Take life as it comes, one day at a time. You don’t need a plan or a goal. Enjoy all the time you have together.

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