What's the appropriate wording for a non-shower shower?

posted 3 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

My parents did this as a sort of “comming out” party initiating my SIL to the family.

“The XXXX family is proud to introduce YYYY, wife of JJJJ XXXX we request your presance at PLACE to welcome her.  Your presance is all that’s requested”

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@SadieBee:  Hmm…I’m not sure you can call it a reception if the wedding hasn’t happened yet, and it’s very bad etiquette to invite people to a shower or engagement party if they’re not invited to the wedding. I think a lot of people would be expecting an invite to the wedding after attending the party because a recpetion before the wedding doesn’t make a whole lot of sense. Would you consider having this party after the wedding so you can call it a reception and nobody expects an invite to the ceremony? 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I think there needs to be something like “in lieu of gifts, please fill out this card with advice for the newlyweds!” and attach a cute notecard or something. Also the wording needs to not have the word “shower” or “reception” if you don’t want gifts/you don’t want it to be weird since they’re not invited to the wedding. Maybe “celebration”?

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@BluebonnetBride:  I like the idea of asking them for something, but I wouldn’t put “in lieu of gifts”.

You could ask for each lady to bring a recipe card.

 

@SadieBee:  your invite is uber formal. I’d bring it down a few notches.

Please help Mrs. SO and So celebrate the upcoming nuptials of her daughter Bride to Groom.

Punch and Desserts

Saturday, March at 2 (or better yet after service)

RSVP to Mrs. SO and So

Please bring your favorite recipe(s) for the bride to be.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@SadieBee:  In lieu of gifts always implies gifts are expected. Skip that altogether. Just tell them what they need to do/ ring to fully participate. If I see “in lieu of gifts” the first thing I am going to do is buy a gift because I do not want to be the guest that actually listened and came empty-handed.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

It’s a church shower. I had a couple for my first wedding and have been to tons. People bring gifts (fairly inexpensive) and say congratulations but they do NOT automatically expect to get invites to the wedding. I honestly wouldn’t worry about it.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@CurlyCue:  

@SadieBee: 

I guess I’m opposite because if it’s a bridal/wedding anything I assume everyone will bring a gift unless I’m explicitly told not to. Go with whatever you think your guests would infer.

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