Post # 1
As brides, we stress over the little (and big) details that make up the big day. Of all the weddings you’ve attended what details and aspects made the best wedding you’ve been to the best? What details made the worst wedding the worst?
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
Best: I was a kid, so take this with a grain of salt. But it was my cousin’s wedding, the ceremony was in a grand, stunning Cathedral, and the reception was in a gorgeous gothic space. I loved the setting, the black/white/red colors, and how it all felt oh so fancy. Like I said, I was a little girl and her wedding was like living a real life fairy tale.
Worst: Another cousin’s wedding. The food was mediocre, the cousin’s friends were ridiculously drunk, obnoxious, one guest was not wearing underwear and had frequent Brittney Spears moments, the ceremony was outside and it was cold and breezy that day, there was nothing for the younger kids to do (so there were a lot of really bored kids)
Post # 4
@IowaDDS13: I love seeing a couple that is genuinely in love get married, no matter where, when or how….and I start to get peeved when the cerermony, reception, and event in general are too theatrical or set up to last for the whole day….because I get how important this day is for the couple, I just have no desire to blow a whole day on it with them.
Post # 6
Best- GREAT DJ! Kept everyone dancing. Also, their cupcakes were INCREDIBLE. I still think about them!
Worst- Poor planning/poor timing. There was one buffet line for 225 people. It took two HOURS for us to get our food! Also, there was a “cocktail hour” but there was no food and no drinks! So were were there for 4 HOURS without anything to eat or drink!
Post # 7
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
Best- I love getting drunk and dancing with my friends. Cocktail hour appetizers are usually so yummy. I love seeing everyone dressed up and fancy; it’s kind of like adult prom. Most weddings
Worst- I’ve never been to a crappy wedding really (and I’ve been to what seems like a bazillion). I just get sad when the couple genuinely seems to not like each other and gets married because they feel like they should.
Post # 8
When there’s a lot of waiting around and when the food is bad – those things make a wedding bad to me.
Post # 9
Best: the best man’s speech for the groom, which was a song entitled ” When *Groom’s Name* Used To Be Cool”. It was so sweet and funny and he played the guitar. Also really personalized weddings- not monogrammed, just small thoughtful touches, like when a bride wears a gown she found in her mom’s attic.
Worst: weather concerns. I hate it when it’s too cold or windy or hot. I know brides want to be married out in the sunshine on the grass, but if the entire bridal party and all the guests are sweating through their formal wear, it’s not good. You can’t plan weather but you can plan a wedding inside.
Post # 10
….oh, and when it becomes blatantly obvious that the primary concern was cramming as many people as possible into a venue, and spending the minimum cost on food and drinks, I usually make it a point to leave early.
Post # 11
best: sit down dinner! food was nice and hot, and no waiting in lines. open bar! always nice. big reception space! it’s so nice when tables aren’t right on top of each other. photobooths! so much fun. edible or drinkable favors! cookies, candy, and wine.. yes please. being seated with people you actually know and like! sometimes I feel like people just throw the seating chart together, it’s so refreshing to be at a table you actually enjoy. when the bride and groom come find you! hunting them down is always awkward and no fun. it’s so nice when the couple comes to you to just say hi and thank you personally.
worst: dj’s. I have yet to be to a wedding that has a great dj. they always play out dated songs, or have a limited selection. bands! yuck, never have I heard a great sounding wedding band. people who bring an ipod and try and control own wedding music! it doesn’t work. just dont do it. buffets! so not a fan. when starting to plan my own wedding I get why people do it.. I just can’t bring myself to do it. All food I’ve ever gotten from a buffet was cold despite heating lamps. I hate waiting in line. reception space that is small and/or divided up! I just don’t get it. it’s super uncomfortable. too much time between ceremony and reception! what am I supposed to do with a 1-3 hour window of time? favors! if you aren’t going to give something useful without your names and wedding date on it i dont want it.
Post # 12
I think the best weddings I have attended are when you can tell the couple is so in love that any minor mishaps just dont seem to matter to them, or anyone else for that matter because everyone is having such a great genuine time!
From a guests perspective I hate it when you simple dont know whats going on..what comes next and where you should go, when you should be seated, etc… it just lead to the genreal feel of awkwardness in my opinion.
Post # 13
Best: the last wedding I went to was just so much fun! The food was great, the setting was amazing, the people were so much fun and the DJ was great.
Worst: a wedding with a long slideshow. Boring!
Post # 14
best- pasta made to order
really good cake
good music for dancing
plated dinner with not enough food
not being able to see/hear the proceedings (pillars in the way, reception in different rooms, bad sound system)
terrible, dry cake
having all dances be group dances
Post # 15
Best: Music. I really believe the music sets the tone for the entire day. . . My FI’s brother’s wedding was, by far, the most enjoyable because the dance floor was PACKED the entire night. The DJ played a great mix and kept everyone happy.
Worst: Again, music, but also food. Two particular weddings I went to – the music wasn’t great. I’m guessing it’s what the bride and groom wanted, but the dance floor was not packed, at all, at any point in the evening. You have to be considerate of your guests! Also, these 2 weddings, my food wasn’t great. Filet mignon that wasn’t tender, but tough, vegetables that were still raw instead of cooked, lack of cocktail hour, etc.
Post # 16
@sdnathe: what kind of music do you suggest then if a band, dj and iPod are no good?? Lol I don’t mean to be nasty just wondering 🙂