(Closed) What's the big deal??

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I think sites like this attract people who have jewelry high on their priorities. That’s not necessarily a bad thing, some people would rather have posh posh jewelry than a more expensive car or holiday. 

There are others of course where they can afford the big jewelry and the car and the holiday so shinies can more easily fit into a priorities list. 

Being someone of extensive “liberal guilt” as my conservative friends joke, I could never justify spending vast quantities on shinies because I support a few selected charities very vehemently. My ring was a little more than the average here (though not at my pleasure and the average here is lower than it is in the US). I wanted a “big” (1ct) stone because I have short wide hands and smaller stones look silly on me to my eye. 

All these factors combined, plus my adoration and fascination with science means lab grown stones are right up my street 🙂 I dislike the notion that they’re fake. Fake is plastic, fake is glass. Pffft.

Post # 4
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112 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@MissThespian:  I feel the same way. FI picked a ring I love without a diamond or carat weight in sight. When it comes down to it…I love the ring not just because I adore it but because it’s a symbol of our impending marriage. Could care less what others thing but having to defend it all the time is upsetting (I had one friend who asked how I could love a man who didn’t get me a diamond; a girl on The Knot said it looked like FI was poor….). 

Post # 5
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659 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Personal preference is what makes the world (and this site) go ’round……

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think everyone has their “thing”. Some people love jewelry! To be honest, I was more concerned with the sentiment of the ring. It was so important to me that he picked something for me to wear the rest of my life. I hated the idea of picking out a ring or any details about it actually. I specified specifically that I wanted nothing over 1ct, because I have incredibly small fingers and I thought it would look rediculous and just wouldn’t fit with my lifestyle. But everyone has different preferences. Some people have dreamed of a big diamond ring ever since they were a little girl, just like some people dream of having a big ball gown wedding dress. I totally get what you’re saying about the money too.. how it seems it would be better spent on something else.. but I think everyone has different ideas about money. As long as whatever you get seems “worth it” to you, then that’s all that matters!

Post # 7
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2459 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I wanted a big ring, but not an unaffordable ring, essentially I wanted the best we could afford without either us having to scrimp or save too much. we only spent one months wage of my DHs income.

He proposed with a $150 silver CZ ring that he bought himself and totally surprised me with. Lucky he knew me well enough not to by the real deal, cause the ring he proposed with was way too big, lol, we then went and got a ring made.

In the end I went for quality over size and bought on a .92ct colorless radient cut diamond on a white gold band.

Post # 8
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4714 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1998

I honestly dont feel that ppl on this site brag about the size and cost of their rings….I think we ask and they tell. There have been a few ppl that brag about the amt of money they have. Recently there was someone in here bragging about how much money they have and how much they were spending on their ring and it really stood out to me as a post because it doesnt usually happen that way.

I do agree that alot of ppl in the world dont understand the gemstone as a e-ring. I am not one of them but I do know a couple ppl that have gemstones and ppl dont believe they are engaged because it isnt a diamond!

I know that you are new here and I hope that you see that it really isnt like that in most posts….I know I have asked personally how many carats (diamond or not) and I personally havent asked the price but if they offer to tell me that is all the better cause it is really good to see what other options there are out there for alot of waiting bees and it helps them sometimes.

I hope that you get the ring of your dreams…then post cause we are all suckers for ring porn for sure!

 

 

Post # 9
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4110 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@GelaMac:  +1

I think alot of people here are obsessed with thier rings & just love them period (myself included). It’s not necessarily the cost, although I’ve definitely seen some braggy posts here but they were few & far between. What bothers me more is the sense of entitlement some have- sometimes people lose sight of the fact that the ring is a gift and not even necessary in the first place.

Post # 10
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2459 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

@CaptainSpaulding:  Hey there, I haven’t seen you on here for  while, Have you got your pics up from your wedding? I want to see how the dress looked!!!!!

Edit: – I just went to your profile and saw you have been on here heaps I just haven’t seen you post. – off to go stalk your profile to see if you have wedding pics up, lol 🙂

Post # 13
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2494 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’d agree it’s personal. I’m with you– if my ring was an emerald, moissy or CZ, I wouldn’t care. My ring didn’t even cost one month’s salary and I’m okay with that! On the other hand, my sister wouldn’t be caught dead without a large ring because the size and cost means just as much as the sentiment.

It’s all personality!

I’d also say that I stumbled on this site while searching out three stoned e-rings to show my FI (bf at the time) when he asked what kind of rings I liked. I’m sure ring pictures and dress pictures bring lots of girls this way.

Post # 14
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807 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I think it’s a combo of two things:

1) as PP have stated, there are some people who just LOVE rings and/or jewelry in general so they like to talk about the details. It’s not competitive, it’s like a hobby. Plus, you get to see all the things that wouldn’t be your style but they suit other people perfectly.

2) This is a “safe place” for you to brag on how much you love your ring. I adore my e-ring –both because I think it’s beautiful and amazing and because it’s a representation of my FI’s love for me–but it’s not like I walk around in real life being like “Hey everybody, look at my ring! Here’s all the things I love about it!” If I want to talk about my ring, I can do that here and other people will join in because they get it.

Post # 15
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764 posts
Busy bee

I guess I don’t get your point. Where are these braggy people? Just because something that ISN’T important to you IS to someone else, doesn’t mean the other person is wrong, ungrateful, shallow or whatever judgmental label you assign.  People ARE allowed to be different. Who cares what YOU would do when discussing someone elses life.  Maybe they own homes outrigt, inherited a stone, work in a jewlery store or make 10 times what you do.  I think this says more about YOUR biases than anyone elses 

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@blingbling:  Haha, I agree. You always say the things I don’t have the balls to.. love it.

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