Post # 1
Mine would probably have to be my colors. That seems like it was the HARDEST thing to decide. I kept seeking for advice anywhere I could. Originally I had chosen brown & green because camouflage used to be my favorite color (YES, I know it’s really not a color!) But then I realized I couldn’t really do what I wanted with brown & green, so then went to orange & green…but then all I could think of were the Gators. Somewhere down the line I decided on pink & yellow & it stuck!!
What’s the hardest thing you’ve had to decide in planning your wedding?!
Post # 3
The bridesmaid dresses. I wanted to find the RIGHT shade of champagne pink for 6 girls, affordable, cocktail length, and cute.
Mom ended up making them. But it was a dress SAGA at JoAnn. Esp when my parents kept making stupid suggestions and picking out the UGLIEST dresses, like my dad picking out a really slutty dress (i don’t think he realized it’d be slutty on my girls but yeah, very very low cut and not good for all 6 of them!) and i said “dude i don’t want their boobs coming out at my wedding” and he shushed me and got all pissy in the store about how he’s just making suggestions and I should stop being a bia! Really i just had to tell them to STEP BACK and let me pick out the pattern. 3 people rummaging through 1 bin was too intense.
But yeah…those patterns were stressful. Then finding the fabric was a headache.
Oh the things I did to not stiff my friends with $150 dresses.
Post # 4
budget. No doubt, the budget.
Post # 5
@ejs: Wow, yeah that sounds like a pain in the butt!!! I can’t believe your DAD was picking out those dresses! LOL my dad would have picked out the kind of dress you wear to church! My dresses for my ladies cost $180.00. I felt bad 🙁 But at the time people were telling me that wasn’t a bad price. I hate making my girls pay for their dresses, plus the cost of shoes…but we’re giving them a free meal @ the rehersal dinner plus the Bridesmaid or Best Man gift’s are pretty good!!! 🙂
Glad you overcame that!!
Post # 6
@Corgi: Yup. I agree 100% with you there. It’s so hard fitting everything into your budget.
Post # 7
So far, budget. Mostly because often, you get what you pay for, and I’m having trouble sacrificing quality to stay within my budget!
Also, choosing the wedding party…but only because I wanted more attendants than Fiance did. I won that battle. 🙂
Post # 8
in general, mine has been planning from a distance – everything takes longer when you have to send contracts back and forth through the mail! more specifically, we had a tough time finding a jazz band for our reception that wasn’t prohibitively expensive or would have had to travel from pretty far away. In the end, we found a great band, in our budget and only an hour drive away!
Post # 9
Mine was definitely planning from a distance and the short busy engagement period. We had a 5 month and 3 day engagement and during that time we moved from Ohio to Chicago, both of us got new jobs, we had to live in temporary housing for 3 weeks when we got to Chicago, we bought a Condo, I hadn’t started my job yet, so I pretty much had to move everything myself, oh and we bought a new car and got a cat. Lol. It was a BUSY 5 months.
Post # 10
I agree with BUDGET. There are so many things i want or that i would do differently, but i just cant fit it in my budget
Post # 11
Anyone else have severe problems with their parents and the guest list? We all agreed at the beginning to keep it 150-175. My fiance’s family and friends is only 70 and that includes some of our mutual friends. We’re 6 months into planning and my parents are now sending me their guest lists. They’re inviting people I’ve never met! My mom is inviting her coworkers when I’m not inviting any of mine. My dad apparently announced to everyone at a lunch one day that they were all invited to the wedding. This was a lunch with people that are apparently his cousins but I have never met them.
These extra people my parents are trying to slip in will put us over 200 people. I have no idea what to do. I won a few battles with my mom on some people but with my dad, he has already told these people they are invited. We’re barely inviting any of our friends because my family is so large. I really don’t think I can cut anyone that I’ve added but I can’t figure out how to get my parents to cut their lists when they are both paying for the wedding in a major way.
Post # 12
Overall, money was the biggest obstacle. Second to that, was my crazy psycho family, and the grooms friends acting like immature a-holes and causing problems. After that, finding a venue. It took six months to find one. Six months!
Post # 13
I would have to say distance (planning a wedding in MN from TX) and hubs fighting with his family and them no longer speaking to us like little children. Also, everyone feeling like their happiness should come before ours….
Post # 14
@Lees, yes, well, my dad is pretty clueless, LOL!ZWhen he found out I paid $110 for a pair of Big Star jeans, he commented that he couldn’t figure out why I had such a hard time finding jeans that fit (I’m 5’11”) because I’m not *that tall* and I should just wear men’s jeans from WAlmart b/c they’re only $15. When in reality, they’re the only damn brand that fit. So yeh, clueless =]
I, too, felt SO weird asking them to spend money on me! On anything! I felt like a huge inconvenience for some reason. Totally selfish, lol. Even the whole “here i picked this out for you, wear this!” even though we all know that’s the game =]
Post # 15
Dinero lol. Money has by far been the biggest challenge, and the root of any other challenge if you think about it. If money were not an issue, I could have everything I wanted, so I wouldn’t have to worry about a thing. I should stop watching Platinum Weddings man, things never go wrong for them… at least from what they show us.
Post # 16
My mother. Seriously, I wish she could just be happy for me and stop being so negative.