(Closed) What's the deal… online double personality?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Do you know people in "real life" who project themselves differently on FB, or other social network?
    Yes, doesn't bother me, I know what their life is really like. : (36 votes)
    55 %
    Yes, it bothers me, wish I could call them on it. : (16 votes)
    25 %
    No, I don't know someone who has done this. : (9 votes)
    14 %
    Other, explain : (4 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
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    1902 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I think there are some people that will brag/make up stories about what they do online. But I think a lot of people talk and act differently online to how they would in person. I’m quite shy talking to people in person, particularly if I don’t know them that well, but online, I find it a lot easier to talk to them and can be quite chatty online.

    Having said that, though I don’t believe I portray myself as anything different online as how I am in person – I may feel comfortable opening up more, but anything I post is generally a reflection of my self.

    Post # 4
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    324 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Its easier to type something than to say it outright. She may have someone she’s trying to impress. For many writing things is much easier than saying them 

    Post # 5
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    11760 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I definitely know what you mean but I don’t let facebook bother me. 

    I don’t think it’s a double personality thing, I think it’s just easier for people to type things out than say them out loud.  The world of textin and emailing and im has ruined people’s social skills and ability to have conversations in real life.  

    Post # 6
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    7656 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    It’s less confrontational to type things out than say them. I agree with @MrsWBS: The age of text and e-mailing has ruined some people’s social skills. It is a blessing to be able to communicate with people in so many different ways, but it shouldn’t be the main go-to for communication.

    Post # 7
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    240 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    Maybe she doesn’t want to brag online but it comes across that way because you only read something and don’t have intonation and body language.

    Post # 8
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    1125 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    They may just be shy in real life, but on facebook they are able to be more open.

    I’m a severely shy person but on facebook it consists of mostly my family. My inlaws are on it too and in the messaging I can talk to them normal like I would a close friend or family but in person I clam up. Just how I am.

    Bragging though, I don’t like to brag, unless it’s about the amazing fiance I have or well behaved daughter. Other than that, oh and my newly purchased wedding shoes, I leave the bragging away.

    People tend to open up more online because they don’t have people staring at them waiting for a response or a topic to be brought up. At least that’s the case for me.

    Post # 9
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    3555 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I’ve got a friend from highschool who in person is fairly quiet and well mannered, he seems like a nice guy. On facebook he posts the most negative things often about how someone did/said something that pissed him off and now he wants the hurt them in some graphic way. It disturbs me becuase I would never have guessed that that is what is going on inside his head from the outside.

    Post # 10
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    2426 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Yes, I see it from time to time, it doesn’t really bother me though. It kind of makes me sad for them, that they are so afraid of the world, and feel the need to try and build themself up that way.

    Post # 11
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    6209 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

    People can do what they want. Especially on the internet. It doesn’t matter to me what their life is or isn’t like, especially if I have nothing to do with it. 

    Post # 12
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    1627 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I’m guessing the main reason is she is shy in person but wants to share this “cool” stuff about her so others are jealous or think she’s pretty great (self insecurity).  It’s a lot harder to “brag” in person and then receive people’s reactions. 

    I agree with PP’s also (on the other note); it’s a great thing if you’re able to communicate comfortably and effectively in person.  I feel that is an awesome strength that especially employers look for and appreciate.

    Post # 13
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    805 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I know a girl who is chubby irl but edits ALL facebook photos of herself to be super duper skinny with huge eyes, big boobs and stuff. she’s pretty good at it so it looks natural, but I was just pretty much shocked when I first took a look at her facebook photos, thinking no way that can’t be her!! and at first it rubbed me the wrong way but in the end, the reality is just that she has low self-esteem and she’s not hurting anyone so there’s no reason to “call her out” on it.

    she even has a little fanclub because her on-line photos are so hot, hahaha.

    Post # 14
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    11760 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @patchy:  omg haha that’s CRAZY!

    Post # 15
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    194 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I voted other. I just don’t care. I think we’re in a day and age where people’s online personalities could be who they really are. How do you know how this girl really is? Maybe she doesn’t like to speak in public and finds herself more comfortable behind a keyboard and monitor?

    At the end of the day I don’t care if people have double personalities on the internet.

    Post # 16
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    471 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    What is that saying? You’re not as ugly as your license picture or as hot as your Facebook picture? I think that’s the same for activity too! Being behind a computer screen makes people brave. No immediate judgements they have to face personally.

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