- 7 years ago
- Wedding: December 2011
I’m a bridesmaid in a July wedding. The groom is my fiance’s college buddy, so he’s a groomsman. The bride asked me to be a bridesmaid mostly to keep her sides “equal,” since I don’t really know her that well and I don’t particularly consider us to be friends.
I received an invitation to her bridal shower, hosted by the groom’s grandparents. It’s on one of the busiest weekends of May, and I can’t make it (previous plans and transportation issues). I messaged my decline to the hosts*** and they responded with a snarky, “well I’m sorry you won’t go, and I’m sure Bride and Groom will be really disappointed you won’t be there to support them.”
… Nobody asked me if I was available that weekend. I certainly would go if I could, and I can’t. I certainly would HELP if I could, and I can’t. My absence will be noted because (get this) I’m the only non-family-member bridesmaid.
So, what’s the deal with surprise showers? I can’t even call the bride to explain and apologize! I can’t help! I can’t be useful! I don’t understand why a bride wouldn’t want to go get a pretty outfit, maybe do her nails, maybe down a few drinks if she doesn’t like her FMIL (kidding). Could someone please explain this mysterious and seemingly inconvenient method of throwing a party?!