Post # 1
I know there was a thread here before about this, but what’s the general consensus on calling a venue to get an idea of the price before the ring is on your finger?
My SO is paying on the ring and has indicated that I’ll have it before the end of the year. Ideally, we’d get married next fall. I’m trying to keep potential wedding costs very low, and my mom suggested we hold a small family only wedding at my favorite restaurant (which is actually really pricy). So I just want to get an idea of how much it would cost to do that so that I can start saving. Is it bridezilla or crazypants of me to call them to get a ballpark figure?
Post # 3
I don’t think it’s incredibly crazy to get a very rough estimate, but I think putting a deposit down or making anything concrete before getting married is insane.
Post # 4
@purpledaisies: I don’t think it hurts to wait until you are officially engaged. I feel the same way about this situation as I do about buying things for your child before you have a child (or are even pregnant). You don’t know with 100% certainty that it is going to happen and you will feel like a fool (or worse) if it never does. It doesn’t hurt to wait – you can still get prices and be on a budget when you are engaged.
Post # 6
Where I’m from, a lot of venues have their prices online. And those who don’t, their prices are very similar to all the others in the area. So if you look something up online to see, no harm, no foul. If you call- they might want your info & that can get sticky. I dont suggest calling, but a little googling never hurt anyone lol
Post # 7
@purpledaisies: I’m all about waiting like a normal engaged person and HERE’S WHY lol:
1) I’m afraid I will call, find out how much $$ the venue is and find out if a book whatever date I want in the next two weeks I’ll save $$ so I JUST might be tempted to do some crap like that.
2) Find out I can be entered into a drawing for a free venue enter and actually win and how awkward will that be
TRUST me I’m with you-HELLO my name is VeryBerry13 and I have a wedding savings account AND I’M NOT ENGAGED! But beyond going on line and scoping things out—I’m not going to make any calls though until after I’m engaged that’s me personally!
Post # 8
@purpledaisies: Eeeh, I’d email them and ask them for pricing. It’s not that deep IMO
Post # 9
Nothing is wrong with calling a venue to ask about prices. I do think that putting down a deposit or wedding dress shopping before the proposal is ridiculous.
Post # 10
@purpledaisies: I’d wait. You can start saving regardless.
Post # 11
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@purpledaisies: I would wait as well. You can absolutely start saving before hand. I would want to be engaged to start with the planning…
Post # 12
@purpledaisies: It is OK since you know he is actively paying for it and the question is coming some time soon. if you guys didn’t have this talk then you would be a crazy person :p
But you did, so give them a call!
Post # 13
I did. It was a simple IS THIS POSSIBLE call. SO knew about me contacting them as well and sorta laughed and was like “SWEET- OK”
Post # 14
I’d wait just because they usually start asking all sorts of detailed questions. It’s never as easy as Hi, how much would this cost? Okay, thanks.
Post # 15
Thanks everyone! You’ve all got good advice..I wasn’t going to put any money down right now, because I dont have any lol. Nor would I ever go dress shopping until it’s official lol. Its more of a is this even a possibility type of thing. It’s a restaurant so I already have a super rough idea of the prices, and it ain’t cheap! So in that case I will just wait and pray that my date is available (I want to preserve our anniversary date) and that I can afford it. I calculated that I’ve got 45ish weeks to scrape together some money. Once hes done paying for the ring, he can help contribute to the wedding fund. Thank you all!
Post # 16
@purpledaisies: I’d call. You never know if they are quickly booking the fall season of next year.