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The longest we've been apart is about a week. And it sucked! I don't know how you long distance couples do it! You get major props and respect from me.
My hubby and I have been together for two years and 2 months now, and of that time, he has spent over a year of it out at sea. He's in the navy and frequently goes on long deployments. The longest he was gone at one time was for 6 months, and that was just 3 months after we met and started dating!
Before my hubby, I was dating a man who lived in Ireland and we went for over a year without seeing each other.
The key to making long distance relationships work is communication! When my hubby is out at sea, I make it a point to email him every single day so that he knows what is going on and still feels connected to me and that he is a part of my everyday life even though he's not physically present with me. It gets tough to stay motivated to write everyday, especially when he goes through periods of not being able to email me back. But you just have to keep sending the love! I know that our relationship is so much stronger because of the time we spend apart. It forces us to be completely open and honest in our communication. And it makes us appreciate our time together so much more!
So when you're not with your FI, call him when you can, email him everyday, and send him a handwritten letter or a special package for an added personal and meaningful touch. Just let him know how much he means to you and he should do the same. That will help you get through your own "deployments". :D
8 weeks for us. Although he can be gone frequently, it's usually not for more than a week or two at a time.
I think the biggest thing is what you're used to. When the status quo is long distance it still sucks but that's just the way it is so it's easier. At least for me, those shorter trips when I'm used to having him home are much harder.
Right about two months while he finished up his undergrad degree in Costa Rica. Some of my girlfriends and I went to visit just before he came back to the States. I don't know how we lasted apart from each other that long and I definitely don't want to again!
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A little over 5 months!! It was HORRIBLE! He studied abroad in college. We both agree that being apart made us realize how we couldn't live without one another and was clutch in deciding we wanted to get married. The day he got back he said "Ok, so what's our timeline: when do you want to get married?" :)
For us it was about two months.
We were both going from working in one place to both being in school in another, only he started school one semester after I did. So we were apart from mid-August to Christmas, but I flew down to visit (a five hour flight) for one weekend in the middle over Canadian Thanksgiving in October to make it easier. So technically the longest we were apart was two months, although without those three days in the middle it was almost four and a half.
But it's sooooo nice not to be having the long distance any more! Now it's only when we're away at conferences for a few days that we're split up. You folks that are talking about years? Wow, I'm in awe that you're making that work, it's so tough, so congrats!
We were long distance for four years before we moved to the same city - during that time we saw each other as often as every other week....but sometimes went as long as one month without seeing each other. It was really hard! I can't imagine spending any more time than that apart.
About a week. I was in LD relationships before but DH did not like it at all.
Two weeks of every month my FI lives in Ft. McMurray (up north in our province) to bring home the big bucks! It is REALLY hard. I have no idea how I would begin to deal with more.
we live long distance still, we try to make sure we see each other every other weekend. but sometimes it doesn't work out. typically the longest is 4-5 weeks. It sucks. We're coming to the end of our first year of marriage and we still have not been able to live together (since the wedding)
I think the longest we've been apart was when we each had to travel for work. It was probably a few days at most but it still felt like FOREVER!
My Fi and I have been in a long distance relationship for the past 2 years. The longest time that we will be apart is currently happening. He is in the navy on deployment for 6 months since I use to being apart it's not so bad (somedays it's completely horrible). The only bad part is he spends a good percentage of time underwater. He pops up every now and then. Even though I miss him greatly, I know we'll be together soon. He's finally moving to the same state...lol All I have to say thank god for Skype and international calling.
kurly, so your FI is on a submarine then? Yeah that's super rough because even emailing takes forever to get through with subs. And I agree, thank God for international calling. Otherwise we'd never hear from our Sailors!
The longest we have been apart is 1 month when I was studying in Crete. While it was difficult for me, he had the harder time because Greece wasn't there to distract him. We emailed everyday and talked on the phone quite frequently!
we where long distance for the first 5 years (colleges in different states and then jobs) we would go about 6months without seeing eachother. Its hard but it would take about 3 weeks to adapt and then it just seemed normal. it was alot harder when we would see each other every few weeks.
We were long distance for one and a half year, and the longest without seeing each other was two months.
I studied abroad in College so we were apart for about 3 months. Thank God for Skype - that was a life saver.
It was very hard to be apart but it ended up strengthening our relationship.
my FI and I have been in an LDR for 2.5 years - our whole relationship. He's in the Air Force and is stationed in another state. The longest we've gone w/out seeing each other was 4 months, and will be 6 months this year. Airline tickets are just too expensive to see each other every weekend, so we try to see each other every month or every other month. Tweny four days to go!!!
The longest we've been apart is three months, which has occured every summer we've been together. It sucked, but not as much as my friend whose girlfriend (now fiancee) lived in Thailand for the first 2 years of their relationship. I've actually never been in the same state with my husband during the months of June and July yet. :) This year, I'm hoping it will be different, but he is considering reenlistment and in that case he could be gone for up to 4 months in OCS and then another who-knows-how-long in training... and then maybe out to sea for 6 months at a time after that, depending on his rate. /sigh.
We had to learn creative ways of staying in touch (Google voice chat!) because the first Christmas we were apart, we had epic phone conversations (the record was 8 hours, I think) and drove up my parents' cellphone bill to $800 that month!! Thank goodness for free long-distance after that fiasco!
Wow, it's amazing to hear some of the stories of long-distance relationships! I think we all think we can handle less than we truly can... but when you're faced with it, you just do it because you have to!
The longest fi and I have been apart is 8 weeks, but we never see eachother more often than about every 6 weeks. We've been LD for the past 10 months, but only have three to go!
We were apart for six months, but luckily that's when he realized how much liked me and he asked me out while I was in the middle of my internship! We spent the last two months of my time in Disney talking every night, which was rough because we had to wait until his free minutes started at ten o'clock at night, and let me tell you, when you've worked a 12 hour shift in Disney World, you get pretty tired. I fell asleep on the phone more than once. But once I got back home, that was it. We were engaged about a year later!
The wedding is next March, but I'm going to go back to Orlando for three months for a second internship (I need money...). That's going to be really rough!
Hmm, since we've been together it's been 6 weeks. We have a long distance relationship, but a plane ride from Houston to Orlando is only 2.5-3 hours, and Southwest is super cheap, so at the moment we can afford the trips. Eep, only 2 more months until I actually live there! I won't know what to do with myself, I'll be so happy.
We were apart for 3 whole months & it was horrible! My FI's company sent him to Singapore, Shanghai & Sydney and it was so difficult for us to have time to talk to one another because of the time differences. I woud get up really early in the morning before work (it would be after work for him) so that we could talk to each other. We always talked on a webcam, but it didn't make it any easier being away from him for that solid block of time :(
4 months after we started dating, I went away like I always did to work at a summer camp. We were apart for 9 miserable weeks, and it was my time away that made me realize that the man who made me homesick (A first.) was the man I was going to marry.
We were long distance for the first three years of our relationship...he was near Washington DC and at first I lived in North Carolina for college, then moved to NYC for grad school. We tried really hard to see each other a lot though, even if it was only for 2 days at a time. I think the longest time we went without seeing each other at all was 2 months. It was really rough!
I lived in Tokyo for ten months, and we had a 24-day visit in the middle of that stint, without seeing each other on either side. It was a good experience!
We are currently in our longest time apart .. it will be 6 weeks total, two down, four to go and MAN it is hard. I just simply can't imagine those of you who have to do it for months on end with yourself or your fiance on deployments. I am seriously struggling with it right now, I think mostly because I see the end and it seems so far away still. But this will be the end of long distance forever so I think it's a pretty good exchange.
@HumarockBride:I think it's hard to be away from your love no matter what the circumstance. Just hang in there and think of little lights at the end of the tunnel, just deal with it week by week or day by day, then before you know it those six weeks will be all over!
I was in a long-term, long-distance relationship before my fiance, and I don't know how anyone can cope with the time apart! I would always break down and drive to see my ex.
With my fiance, we've been lucky enough to never be apart for more than about 2 weeks.
Those 2 weeks might as well be 2 months, though! :(
We have never lived in the same place (just getting there), but normally aren't apart long. The longest has been about a month or 6 weeks.
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As an intercontinental couple, my FI and I have spent a large part of our relationship apart. The longest time we went without seeing each other was 9 months! It was so hard to be apart and not knowing how we were going to make it work was so stressful. Our phone bills were astronomical!
What's the longest time you have gone without seeing each other? How did you deal?