What’s the longest time you have been apart?

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

The longest we’ve been apart is about a week. And it sucked! I don’t know how you long distance couples do it! You get major props and respect from me.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2008

My hubby and I have been together for two years and 2 months now, and of that time, he has spent over a year of it out at sea. He’s in the navy and frequently goes on long deployments. The longest he was gone at one time was for 6 months, and that was just 3 months after we met and started dating!

Before my hubby, I was dating a man who lived in Ireland and we went for over a year without seeing each other.

The key to making long distance relationships work is communication! When my hubby is out at sea, I make it a point to email him every single day so that he knows what is going on and still feels connected to me and that he is a part of my everyday life even though he’s not physically present with me. It gets tough to stay motivated to write everyday, especially when he goes through periods of not being able to email me back. But you just have to keep sending the love! I know that our relationship is so much stronger because of the time we spend apart. It forces us to be completely open and honest in our communication. And it makes us appreciate our time together so much more!

So when you’re not with your FI, call him when you can, email him everyday, and send him a handwritten letter or a special package for an added personal and meaningful touch. Just let him know how much he means to you and he should do the same. That will help you get through your own "deployments". 😀

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

8 weeks for us.  Although he can be gone frequently, it’s usually not for more than a week or two at a time.  

I think the biggest thing is what you’re used to.  When the status quo is long distance it still sucks but that’s just the way it is so it’s easier.  At least for me, those shorter trips when I’m used to having him home are much harder.   

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Right about two months while he finished up his undergrad degree in Costa Rica.  Some of my girlfriends and I went to visit just before he came back to the States.  I don’t know how we lasted apart from each other that long and I definitely don’t want to again!

Post # 7
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Blushing bee

A little over 5 months!! It was HORRIBLE! He studied abroad in college. We both agree that being apart made us realize how we couldn’t live without one another and was clutch in deciding we wanted to get married. The day he got back he said "Ok, so what’s our timeline: when do you want to get married?" 🙂

Post # 8
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Blushing bee

For us it was about two months. 

We were both going from working in one place to both being in school in another, only he started school one semester after I did. So we were apart from mid-August to Christmas, but I flew down to visit (a five hour flight) for one weekend in the middle over Canadian Thanksgiving in October to make it easier. So technically the longest we were apart was two months, although without those three days in the middle it was almost four and a half.

But it’s sooooo nice not to be having the long distance any more! Now it’s only when we’re away at conferences for a few days that we’re split up. You folks that are talking about years? Wow, I’m in awe that you’re making that work, it’s so tough, so congrats!

Post # 9
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Newbee

1 month, I cried everyday!

His parents wanted him to visit (17 hr. flight). 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

We were long distance for four years before we moved to the same city – during that time we saw each other as often as every other week….but sometimes went as long as one month without seeing each other.  It was really hard! I can’t imagine spending any more time than that apart.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

 About a week. I was in LD relationships before but DH did not like it at all. 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Two weeks of every month my FI lives in Ft. McMurray (up north in our province) to bring home the big bucks! It is REALLY hard. I have no idea how I would begin to deal with more.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2018

we live long distance still,  we try to make sure we see each other every other weekend.  but sometimes it doesn’t work out.   typically the longest is 4-5 weeks.  It sucks.  We’re coming to the end of our first year of marriage and we still have not been able to live together (since the wedding)  

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I think the longest we’ve been apart was when we each had to travel for work. It was probably a few days at most but it still felt like FOREVER!

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

My Fi and I have been in a long distance relationship for the past 2 years.  The longest time that we will be apart is currently happening.  He is in the navy on deployment for 6 months since I use to being apart it’s not so bad (somedays it’s completely horrible).  The only bad part is he spends a good percentage of time underwater.  He pops up every now and then.  Even though I miss him greatly, I know we’ll be together soon.  He’s finally moving to the same state…lol All I have to say thank god for Skype and international calling.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2008

kurly, so your FI is on a submarine then? Yeah that’s super rough because even emailing takes forever to get through with subs. And I agree, thank God for international calling. Otherwise we’d never hear from our Sailors!

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