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For me, that number is... about twice as high as we spent on our wedding! Thankfully Bee got into the wedding industry and we were about to rationalize it after the fact as on-the-job training.
Hey, maybe we shoud've deducted our wedding expenses on our taxes! Hmm...
Anyway, seriously: what's the most you could ever fathom spending on your wedding?
Hmm, I never really thought of that. I guess I couldn't imagine spending over $20,000. I know a lot of other girls have spent that much, I just didn't want to spend a lot on ours.
5000 (and it's because i'm in the industry as well and will be deducting it i hope :D)... if i won the lottery 10,000
That is such a hard question because I am poor and so right now I can't imagine spending more than $15K on my wedding but I am positive that if I could afford it I would go ALL OUT and I mean ALL OUT 
We're already spending more than I could ever imagine! I really wanted to spend less than $5000 so it was easy to be over my unfathomable amount!
Wow. We are spending a little over $75,000 and I think that we are scrimping based on what we are getting. I think I would say that I couldn't imagine spending over $150,000.
Whew. We did not have one of those super budget weddings, and I when I think about the number, I really can't even fathom spending what we did. But knowing how much it cost to pay for our wedding, I'd say about twice what I did, probably a little less than twice.
I would say $30k, it just seems so much, we're at half that and doesn't look like we're going to meet it, so we have to save much more in the few coming months.
Well initially we discussed eloping...so not much. Then we thought VERY small, so maybe $5-10k. Then we realized our families are too big...so we figured $15k max...and I think we are already hoovering around $25k and we're not done and I'm not too happy about it. Truth be told, I could really care less about most of the stuff and I hate planning....I just want to be married!! Too late now, we are knee deep and lots of $ invested. I sure hope it turns out to be FUN!!
So my point is...first I thought $10k, then $15k, then $20k, then $25k...now I'm thinking no more than $30k and if it goes any higher I may just stay home and cry.
Uhm. It's all really relative. Our budget is $22,000 and we will probably go over by 2 or 3 thousand, so I imagine the total being close to $25,000. Of course, we are including EVERYTHING my mom and I are spending in our budget, down to clothes for my honeymoon. Still, I feel like we have been thrifty about a lot of things. If we went with my first choice in everything, it would probably be $70,000. While that's extravagant, if we were billionaires, I wouldn't mind that kind of budget! But anything approaching $100,000 would be wasteful to the point I couldn't live with it... but really, my American upper middle class lifestyle and wedding is wasteful anyway. I'm filthy rich compared to most of the world!
@mrs. lou: it's definitely relative, depending on what you'll be diy'g, etc and the location
i'll be doing all of the florals, stationary, EVERYTHING and i have a lot of vendor connections, getting married on a weekday during the day to save money, having a small wedding... the average budget here is about 13000 or so, so my budget becomes more realistic... with the dream budget of 10,000 i'd probably be doing the exact same thing except having a night time wedding...
@crebre80 - Yeah I think its totally relative. On that website I have seen mentioned here, the average wedding in my zipcode is $65K, so I think that it really is standard here. I'm also not doing anything DIY because I have no artistic ability whatsoever. We are doing things to cut costs ie a DJ versus band, getting veil made online versus spending an arm and a leg at a bridal shop here, getting thermography invitations versus letterpress, etc, but I honestly can't imagine spending much less than we are. We could go to a cheaper venue, but I really don't think that we would be saving a significant amount so it totally is relative.
That is so cool that you are doing everything yourself! I think that makes it so much more personal. I wish I had that kidn of talent!!
30K. For those of you that are in the industry, how can you deduct it on your taxes? Isn't that kind of like lying to the IRS? Explain please!
@amiriem25 I was wondering the same thing? I've heard a couple of people mention before that they can have wedding costs as part of a tax deduction, how?
@amarie: hee hee i'm talking to my accountant this year to see if i can. but i'll be using all the pictures for promotional pictures in my portfolio. the floral work etc will be used for promos, sort of like a mock wedding, invites as well will be put in my sample book. linens that i'll get will all be on my portfolio... but i don't know if what i'm saying is actually how it should be or what but i'll find out after my taxes are done.
@mrs.lou: omg 65 we'll yeah you're defintiely in the right range. for here if you spent that much and had the right event designer it would look like a million dollar wedding. i have seen about 40 or so spent but it was poorly executed and it just didn't do it for me... lol but of course i'm an industry snob :D
Crebre - Glad to hear your talking to your accountant first, but I wouldn't expect to be given the go-ahead. I'm assuming it would be like a home office, you could only deduct the cost for the things (space) that directly affects your business and only your business. Your wedding is for you, not your business... as much as you and I would like to think otherwise :-)
@klp: really?? i would think that the florals design and set up would be able to because they aren't just for me if i'm using them in my portfolio, etc as examples of things that I can do and of my packages of course food wouldn't be deductible....
If we go over 8k I'll have a coronary. If we had help from our parents though I'd say $25k would be my ceiling (that would open up the guest list - their money would go to their guests lol). To me, that's an insane number but an amount that 6 adults could split evenly between themselves without it being pure bonkers.
I think it's all relative...about 5 years ago, when FBIL & FSIL had their wedding, it cost about $40K for 180 formally dressed, non-kid guests at a GAWRGEOUS vineyard in Sonoma. FI & I thought that was WAY too much to spend, but for OUR style of wedding (our style = not so formal, kid-friendly, daytime). But then, once we got into the planning process & understood how many THINGS are involved in a wedding budget, we realized that our estimates were what was far off. Like @mrs.lou, I'm trying NOT to DIY almost anything - not because I'm not crafty (LOVE crafting!), but b/c I'm a high school teacher in the inner city of LA & my students need my time more than our wedding does. So we're dishing out the dough in order to avoid having to do much (read: stress out about the wedding tasks). So, now, I'd say that, IMHO, $40K is still too much to pay - but that's for our size (70 guests, incl. kids) & style (informal, at Disneyland, during the day).
@ms. pascua: do you get to choose one of david tutera's packages? or is that just in florida? i love his packages!! lol i saw a special on him on we...
i'm going to go with 30k for more than I could fathom... that's more than our budget but due to my being a vendor we have lots of connections, lol.
That being said, most my clients are over that... and they have good weddings too... :-)
Well initially I said I wouldn't go over 10k. Then it creeped up to 15K. Now its inching its way closer to 20k. Sigh & there's 6 months to go. I'm not counting anymore. Recessionista my butt.
I would say I wouldn't feel comfortable spending more than 50K.
@crebre80: actually NOT going with Tutera's designs...they ARE beautiful(!!!), but just not the style we're looking for. We're going with a bit of local Hawaiian flair (my homeland) with a Disney twist - Tutera hasn't come up with that design, yet!
Just this week, while hanging out with some married friends, FI & I asked "What do you wish you HADN'T spent as much on?" - it's helping us weed out a bunch of things that may be extraneous for out wedding & re-prioritize (or confirm our priorities). We're hoping it will help us keep the costs down.
$25,000 (everything included). But if we were living near both sets of parents without having to pay for flights/accomedations/multiple wedding dresses etc, I would love to have a $5,000 wedding. But in our situation, that amount will just cover our flights to Canada!
@ms. pascua: yeah they are EXTREMELY modern chic (some of them at least)... I didn't realize you were from Hawaii how awesome?! I love your theme of Hawaiin with a disney twist, it sounds so fun!
@crebre80: Thanks! We're hoping to "make it work!" (anyone else jones-ing for Project Runway to start?) within our budget...very tricky.
@ms. pascua:omg i totally love project runway!!! if you'd like you can start a thread with floral options etc and i can give you my ideas... here's one, are you against silk florals completely? i'm thinking submerged silk orchids perhaps?
@crebre80: Super interested to hear your ideas/thoughts! Just posted in "Flower". Looking forward to your ideas!
I wouldn't go over 50,000 even if I had way more money I think, for that I could have my first choice of all the things i care about. Our real budget is about 20,000 and I think if it turns out as awesome as I hope I'll be happy with that amount.
I actually just told FI yesterday... if I could do everything I wanted and we had the money, I think that we would spend about 30K. Our budget is 10K and I think its just sooooo hard. I feel like we're going to have to miss out on a lot of stuff to meet it. I think with 20K we could do a "normal" wedding and with 30K we could make it really nice.
I can't imagine spending anymore than we will (about 5k). I want to be married and yes weddings are important life events, but eh I fall into the "its just one day" camp. I'd rather put my money towards other things because a bigger budget won't change the sentiment.
If my FI and I were having a traditional church wedding with guests we would probably need to invite about 250 people.....so I am thinking around 100K. Thanks goodness we decided against that...I cringe even thinking about spending that much on one day.
If I had no worries financially and had substancial savings (this is considering I'm living normally, not rich or anything)...I would at most consider spending $20k on a wedding.
In the current situation I'm in (poor), 6-7k.
50k MAX. My parents haven't, and probably won't, give us a budget because they know that I'm not going to go crazy over it. Their friends son just had a 60k wedding and I almost threw up. That's half of a starter home! I get that it's a big day, but I cannot feel like that's responsible of me.
I can't fathom spending more than $35k, if we had it. Currently, I'm hoping to keep the budget around 23k, but if we had more, I'd totally spend more
I really don't want to spend more than $20k. But, with rings & honey moon and everything, it will probably be close to $30 for about 200 people for a church wedding and reception at our club. Minimum for food, including tax & gratuity, will be $13k.
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