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I love my FI more than anything, but he can definitely drive me crazy sometimes! I'd have to say the one thing about him that bothers me the most is that when he gets mad, he shuts down and doesnt talk about it. I'm one of those people that has to talk it out, but he just holds it in. It makes me so mad!
How about you ladies? What irks you about your FI?
My FI isn't a very good listener. I'll tell him something like "I went outside and cleaned up the garden today" and then two hours later he'll ask "Did you look at the garden today?" I'm just going to stop telling him things and wait for him to ask. I think it's just easier that way.
He doesn't multi-task at all (typical for men) and as a result takes FOREVER to do everything. Including when we are trying to leave the apartment, he won't actually start putting on his shoes or anything until I'm halfway out the door. Like he won't notice that I'm getting ready and start himself, he waits until I'm walking out.
He is a great cook, but it will only be meat b/c he can't even think about side dishes while he's cooking the steak. Doesn't multi-task.
My FI does the shut-down thing too which is super annoying. I really think thats VERY typical among men. I wouldn't say that bugs me most though because we don't fight all that often for it to come up. The thing that probably drives me the most crazy (at least right now because its a daily struggle) is that he gets kind of weird when he's stressed out. He just gets SO FOCUSED on whatever he is stressing about (right now its a CFA test in June) that he kind of ignores everything else. He will come home and walk upstairs to study without saying a word to me. He won't notice when I walk into a room. He forgets about plans we have. (all of these are VERY unlike him when he is not stressed). We've talked about it, but really when he is stressed out its like it pushes everything else out of his brain and all he has room for is STUDYSTUDYSTUDY. lol Thank god the test is in a month!
This is really weird, but he sneezes REALLY REALLY loud. Like vibrate the couch, scare the cats loud. I swear he does it on purpose....
The other thing is that if I get a bit ticked off about something he looks at me and says "Take it easy kitty". It makes me want to rip his eyes out. It's so rude and it gets on my nerves to no end and I've told him that. Not once has it ever improved a situation but he thinks somehow it's funny and makes me calm down.
Otherwise, he's pretty wonderful although we all have our hiccups right?!
He's a fidgeter! He has ADD, so I know some of it's that, but the man can never just sit freaking still. It's great when we're doing a job, he's fantastic at helping me when someone is coming over, or I'm trying to finish something, but when we're trying to lounge and he fidgets, it makes me nuts.
He also has this annoying unconcious habit of picking a guitar with his right hand when we're driving. It's such a small thing, I'd never say anything to him about it, and his dad does it, as well as his son. Just a family quirk, I guess.
@Taylor - I can totally relate. I will sit there and tell him a whole story and then later if I bring it up again he’s like “What are you talking about?” Haha. I have ADHD but I think I can pay attention better than him!
@ModernDaisy- Lol! I think that’s true for all men, they’re not good multi-taskers!
@Corgi - We really don’t fight that much, we bicker. I can only think of like 2 or 3 big fights we’ve been in these past 4 years. But we both know how to push each others buttons, that’s for sure! Be glad your FI is so focused on school (minus ignoring you) He could be like my FI and focus on everything but his schoolwork haha. He’s such a procrastinator.
@BakerElla - Haha, that’s hilarious about the sneezing! I think all of us bees have pretty awesome FI’s, but like you said, no one’s perfect!
@Quietserenity - I relate to your FI, I have ADHD too and I can never sit still! Haha it drives my FI crazy :)
@TamiN- List as many as ya want! lol
Haha this is great! My FI has SOOO many thing that bug me but I wouldnt have it any other way! I think so much bothers me because I lived alone for a while!
he coughs SOOOO LOUD!
And Farts! dont even get me started about the farts!
He leaves his dirty underwear on the bathroom door until he has no clean underwear left
He cant close a drawer after he goes in it
I could be gone for 2 days and tell what he ate, where he sat, what he "got into" while i was gone because there would be a trail!
@mishelleez - I would be so grossed out about the dirty underwear! That's hilarious though. I have a feeling once my FI and I are married and living together, I'll find a lot more about him that bothers me! Hopefully no dirty underwear though haha.
he wants pizza. all.the.time.
okay, so it's not that bad. but one thing that drives me crazy is that even though he wants nookie all the time, he's terrible at initiating it. sometimes i wish he would just like, tear my clothes off or something and stop assuming i know what he wants. :/
they say men don't understand hints, but they go completely over my head.
Hm.. The biggest one for me is that he doesn't have a "filter".. he will sometimes cross the line with a joke (usually only amongst friends), but he has a way with taking a joke one step toooo far... and you never know who you will offend.
His mother has no filter, and he learned it from her!
I wish my FI kept a calendar more diligently. I have to give him credit, he's trying. We talked about the role of reliability in our marriage and how it functions to divide or unite couples, and he's gotten a lot better since then about following through on tasks he says he'll take care of and turning things in on time. I appreciate it. I know it's not his instinct.
He has this terrible habbit of leaving the water on while he helps clean the kitchen -- he'll walk completely away from the sink and be on the other end of the kitchen doing something with the water running! It drives me crazy!
Also, I don't think he'll ever outgrow his desire to drive like a teenager. It's either that or he doesn't understand that the gas pedal is progressive and doesn't just have an on/off position.
And I'm pretty sure he's the loudest eater I know. It really is remarkable. (and not in a good way)
he uses word incorrectly! and takes forever to do anything.. on friday's our cleaning day, i clean the kitchen, dining room, living room, and entire basement and sometimes the upstairs bathroom while he can only manage to clean the bird room/office.. really?
@mishelleez - FI is the same way with his trail of evidence! I can always tell what he's been up to and then I'll say something about it and he gets all freaked out about my detective skills. LOL! He always says though that if anything ever happened to me or if we broke it off he'd end up wearing a potato sack in a ditch starving to death. It's so true.
He always puts his beer on the couch next to him. And I say, That's not where a beer goes. You're going to spill it. And he says No I'm not. And then he spills it.
This happens daily. At this point, all I can do is 1) laugh and 2) resign myself to never owning a fabric couch.
HAHAH there was a similar post like this before..they crack me up! I can't just think of one thing...I love him to death but boy does he drive me crazy sometimes...for example..
*He always leaves his clothes around the house..really?! I am not your mother clean up your stuff!!!
*Leaves his dishes in the sink..umm I am pretty sure the dishwasher is RIGHT next to the sink..help a sister out:)
This isn't his fault at all, but he used to get all sad and whiny in his sleep when I poked him in the night if he was snoring: Him: "I'm soooooorrrrry!" Me: "Shh! Just roll over and stop snoring!"
TamiN - i think we should have a contest, my fh is so loud when he eats it makes me wanna throw up, i will actually stop eating and leave the table! i tought his son to eat with his mouth closed, but how do you tell your 31 yo fh, 'close your mouth while you eat honey'
Oh my god, how could I have forgotten the most obvious one! He eats ALL the popcorn. When we go to the movies, he will finish it before the previews! And heaven forbid I go to the bathroom - then I just don't get any. I can eat a bowl of microwave popcorn over the course of several hours, but he will just shove it all into his mouth in giant handfuls. If I don't get in there immediately, there will be none left for me. It's gotten so bad, he'll now get me my own bowl because he knows he can't share.
Like last night.
Guess which one is for me.
Popcorn_Hog.JPG (45 KB, 31 downloads) 2 years old 
My FI is pretty awesome....there is ONLY one thing that annoys me right now. I have only known him a couple of months, so I'm SURE it is only a matter of time..but he is extremely considerate of me in helping out around the house and all that.
I get SOOOOOOO annoyed when he wants to snuggle and he put HIS head on my shoulder....isn't is supposed to the be the other way around?!?!? I can't tell you how crazy it drives me! I finally had to break down and tell him because I couldn't live with it :( he took it well and hasn't really done it since.
Oh and is it really necessary for him to all of a sudden start rubbing my crotch while I'm talking to him about something important, like me starting school!! Its not like he is deprived at all!
taylorma5 my fiance is the same way. The other day I told him that the puppy now can jump on the couches (big no no), so make sure to watch him as he was chewing on a pillow...he goes, 'oh really, okay!'
An hour later he comes running upstairs to tell me that the puppy can jump on the couches and was all excited, like he didn't honestly know he could do it. I just looked at him, and said, I know, I just told you that. His reply, 'Oh ya, I think I heard you say something like that, but I wasn't really paying attention.' DUH, figured that one out buddy. So now I refuse to tell him anything, let him come to me...haha
@sweetadeline that has to be the funniest picture I've ever seen! I love it!
He walked into the living room and handed me that bowl and I was like you've got to be joking (he was, obviously) and I made him sit with them for a picture so I could show the officiant why there was a popcorn joke in my vows.
Ditto on the sneezing thing! It like, scares me every time the hubs sneezes ... I can't stand it!
Also ditto on fidgeting. My husband has a leg shaking problem, so if we're sitting on the couch, the couch is always moving because his leg is moving.
This sounds really weird, but FI becomes freakishly stubborn about really weird things. For example, there is this resturant I really wanted to try. But it's in an old gas station. For some reason, this totally freaked him out, and he was adamant that he would never eat there because it was in an old gas station.
Another resturant, he wouldn't try because it was too small. But the trouble with that is that many of the places we love are TINY. But it was just like, he did not want to try this one place no matter what.
It drives me bonkers! We are very adventurous eaters, and love to try new places, but sometimes he just randomly decides he hates a place before we ever get to try it.
OMG, the fidgeting! It takes FI at least 20 minutes to settle down and go to sleep. He's moving his legs or tossing and turning or scratching his b@lls or whatever before he can just settle.
And the video games, the slamming the controller and yelling and swearing at them. And I always tell him to calm down and he's like, "I wasn't that bad!" in the mean time he's yelling about how it's "f-ing impossible to beat this guy!"
SweetAdelineXO - I love that picture it is great!!! My FI does the same at movies!
But at home he gets a TINY bowl and i get the rest 
He blows his nose in the shower. I'm sorry... I just can't get over it! It's GROSS!
Oh my gosh miss chocolate! My FI does the same thing!!!!! GROSS!!!!!!!!
@ RosieGirl- It drives me insane!!! It's just nasty!!
The thing that drives me crazy about my FI is that he is obsessed with keeping the blinds shut. In our condo we have beautiful sliding doors that let in lots of light, however, according to my FI this means less privacy. I get his point, but we live in a very nice neighbourhood and the balcony and windows all look out over a marshy area and courtyard. There is another building across the courtyard but let's face it, both buildings and the surrounding residential neighbourhood are mainly populated by elderly people with better things to do than stare in our windows at noon. I'm sure the glare on the windows is blinding anyways haha. I'm from the country, if that little piece of courtyard and marsh is the most country/nature I'm going to get around here then I am going to take full advantage of it but leaving the cutains open until it gets dark!
i love love my fi but there are several things that drives me crazy about him:
-he dont know how to follow simple instructions. he can do things by himself but if he get any instructions he shuts down and do everything wrong
-when we fight he dont say anything he just listen to me (even if im going crazy screaming and crying) and when i finish he just goes to sleep and wakes up the next morning like nothing happen. that drives me crazy
FI has a habit of when eating... of shoving everything thats possible in one mouthful i.e have a cheeseburger in one bite 3/4 of it is gone. or jamming everything in there that he can and then starts chewing. I put that down to his mother not teachin him social eating behaviour. But when he does it. I stop eating myself and sit there wondering how the heck in got it all in there...
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