Post # 1
What is the one thing that you and your SO will never see eye to eye on? What is the one thing that no matter what that you will always disagree on and not compromise?
I know some may have more than others, so feel free to list! I know by any means no one is exactly alike/have same morals etc, but I’d just like to see what other bees have disagreements on!
For me and my hubby- recently what I can think of (this may sound silly to some) but its reality for us.
We went to our local carnival about 3 years ago (we were not married or engaged at the time). We won a goldfish! We were pretty excited about it and bought a tank and named it etc. My hubby has never had fish and neither have I so we were pretty new about being “fish parents” lol
We added to the tank with more fish eventually over the years and they died etc-but this one fish always stuck around! It was a trooper.
Up until about 3 months ago it was so healthy and active. It developed what is called “swim bladder” what that means is the back part of the fishes body gets swollen with air and its very hard to cure. It causes the fish to struggle to get to the bottom and often has to be upside down on top of the tank because its full of air and can’t swim correctly. My hubby tried everything he could to save it.
Now to the disagreement- he wanted to keep the fish around. Suffering.
I wanted to euthanize it the safe effective way- which is by giving it clove oil letting it fall asleep (its like anesthesia) and then you pour in vodka. It passes away peacefully.
We fought about it tooth and nail and we just didn’t agree on it. I would rather it have been put out of its misery than keep it around for the sake of just keeping it.
We literally tried everything & he just would not budge. He didn’t want to “kill” it. I told him it would eventually probably die a horrible death anyway and we would do it the correct non painful way. I also explained about human life compared it to that & its kind of like when the doctors tell someone “there is nothing more we can do”
*sigh* Bless his heart. Love that man to death.
Another thing is that he will NOT kill flys. He traps them in cups and lets them go outside. I tell him that flys are full of bacteria etc but nope.
My hubby literally won’t even hurt a fly 😉
How bout you bees?
Post # 2
Thats cute of him. I’ll add that sometimes swim bladder isn’t painful. I’ve seen people make floaties for fish to help them swim. Feed him lots of peas! Only sinking food! If you haven’t already.
Mine would be what counts as spending time together. He thinks him playing games on the computer with friends while I sit on the couch behind him is spending time. I disagree because he is on the headset talking to them so I can’t really talk to him. Ugh oh well I just enjoy the company of my dogs instead. I’ve just takrn to giving up that argument.
Post # 3
ICE CREAM FLAVORS! I dont like chocolate and he’s a chocoholic. we always have to get a half gallon for him and a half gallon for me. It also makes it hard to split desserts.
Post # 4
our first son’s name…he’s adamant about naming him Spartacus.
I have a few years before it’ll be a serious issue though. Hopefully it’s just a phase…
Post # 5
amstudent1: Lol, that’s hilarious. I’d be vetoing that – my husband has this thing about wanting to name our future male children names like Guillermo or Julio. (Neither of us has a drop of Spanish/Latino blood in us.) I’ve told him if I’m pushing it out, I get veto rights.
Post # 6
Swim bladder isn’t supposed to hurt the fish and is usually caused by overfeeding and constipation. It should be reversible. Don’t feed the fish for a few days, and then give it a few soft, mushed peas. At least, that’s what I understand from my carnival goldfish research. Ours has been doing well since we won it in February.
FI and I will always disagree on marijuana legalization. I don’t currently smoke it, but I am for both medical and recreational legalization. He has no problem with friends or family that choose to occasionally smoke, but he is vehemently against legalization.
Post # 7
MsW-to-MrsM: we’ve tried the peas for 3 months. We have literally tried everything. He has researched everything 🙁
gamerlover: would you like to be upside down your whole life? lol
Post # 8
Water skiing! FI loves it. He’s been water skiing since he was a little kid and thinks it’s the best thing in the world. I don’t understand at all why it’s fun. Seriously, why is it fun to be dragged behind a boat? Someone tell me!
The compromise is that I learned how to drive the boat so I can take FI skiing. I still find it a bit boring, but at least I don’t have to go in the gross lake water!
Post # 9
gamerlover: Ugh!! We have the same argument, constantly. I keep saying we should do a date night so we can have some actual quality time together (I’m a full time student on top of working full time so I barely see him as it is), and he insists that we spend every night together, and that’s plenty of time. Maybe so, but when you’re playing games on your phone all night, that’s not exactly quality time. He’s even gone as far as to say that because we sleep in the same bed, that counts as being together.
Post # 10
Swim Bladder isn’t always painful, and some fish can live with swim bladder problems. I probably would be against vehemently killing it just because you assumed the fish was in pain. I’ve had many fish for many years and swim bladder issues aren’t always a death sentence, and they aren’t always painful to the fish.<br /><br />For us, there really isn’t much we really butt heads about. We have differing opinions here and there but nothing that is really consistent. He likes football, and I think it’s one of the most boring sports, so I guess I endure that? Super Bowl Sunday was torture for me.
Post # 11
I’d be vetoing the CRAP outta that. Which is weird because I like oddball names.
Post # 12
Hyperventilate: When a fish cannot get food/eat food because he is so swollen and can’t swim down to even get food theres an issue. We even tried holding the fish right side up feeding it and its mouth would not take. I believe it has other issues going on besides that too.
Post # 13
FutureMrsHodgy: Oh man, didn’t think of the icecream/dessert one! Hes not much into sweets so I always try to get dessert when we go out but, he doesn’t have much of sweet tooth!
gamerlover: Oh man 🙁 That would really upset me.
amstudent1: lol! oh man, fight girl keep fighting that good fight. However, that would make a kick ass dogs name.
MsW-to-MrsM: I could see where that would get heated. So many pros/cons to that.
Lollybags: at least he doesn’t like Pedro..or..does he? lol
TGold: That would scare me more than anything. 100x worse than belly flop if you face plant into the water going at a decent speed…me no gusta.
Post # 14
Our definitions of “quality time”. Sorry, quality time does not mean staring at a movie, staring at your phone, or playing video games and occasionally saying “huh?” when I have the audacity to speak. Just because we’re in the same room does not mean we’re getting quality time.
Also… Tuna. He likes it in oil (gross), I like it in water. And bread. I like wheat/whole grain, he likes white.
Post # 15
Movies. To him watching a movie is an art form. We must pay attention to every single detail. If I miss a sentence he will rewind the whole scene. He wants me to “experience” the movie. A two hour movie can easily become a 3-4 hour adventure. (he tends to feel the need to talk in depth about characters)
I could care less and prefer watching a movie while web surfing.