Post # 1
Not that I need to be convinced to go on one…I’m always up for traveling! But I was thinking…times have changed so much in the last 30 or so years. By the time we go on our honeymoon, we will have been living together for six months, so we won’t need a period of adjusting to being around each other all the time or to, um, playing Twister. I’m not all that stressed about or busy with wedding planning, so it’s not like we really need special time to reconnect. I was thinking about Miss Cowboy Boot’s post on her honeymoon, and how her dad insisted they go on a honeymoon to let the marriage "sink in." Do you agree? How is the honeymoon relevant for cohabiting couples? Or is it just an excuse for a cool vacation?
Post # 3
It’s nice to travel together before you get bogged down with babies and responsibilities… plus people are so much nicer to you when you tell them it’s your honeymoon!
Post # 4
After getting pulled in 1,000 directions and being completely focused on the details during the engagement, I think it’s nice to have a transition back to "real life".
Even if you are not stressed out before/during the wedding, I think it’s still going to feel like a big exhale… I can’t wait for our very simple honeymoon!
Post # 5
I am not one of the cohabity couples, but I do have an opinion…
Most of the brides on this board will plan for months, maybe eve years, before getting married. There is a HUGE amount of attention and preparation given to a single DAY! Getting married is a big deal. Seems like it would be an awful letdown to wake up the next day and go to work. Or wake and mow the lawn. Or do the dishes. Or any other of a hundred mundane tasks that we always find to do.
For those of us not cohabiting the honeymoon really will be a period of adjustment to married life: sharing a bed, sharing a bathroom, sharing the bulk of the day with another person. For the rest of you it will be a period of adjustment to life together without an upcoming ceremony being at the forefront of every thought and action. And for ALL of us? Celebration! One doesn’t get married everyday
Post # 6
*note: that was supposed to say "I am not one of the cohabbiting couples" but I miss-typed "cohabity" and I kinda like it 😛
Post # 7
I agree with DoctorGirl – it’s a nice transition back to "real life". And after a full weekend of wedding stuff and dealing with bridesmaids and relatives and making sure everyone got their tips and posing for pictures, it’s a great way to settle into married life with your new husband!
Post # 8
We’ll have been living together for about 16 months by the time we’re married. As we enter the final couple of weeks, I can say that we are both stressed as hell and not getting to spend much relaxing time together as a pair. I’m really looking forward to having the honeymoon as a time to relax and reconnect now that all the stress is over.
Post # 9
I also agree with doctorgirl, after a year of planning a wedding (and hoarding vacation time) I am going to want a vacation to relax (and play twister lots).
Post # 10
T and I go on vacations several times a year. Each time is wonderful and for us it’s a huge bonding time. (except for Jamaica..and the itching and the awful bed and the wierd cold weather we had in March)
Even if you’ve lived together for a good long time (we do not live together) we think that having some downtime to relax, let your hair down, have fun, flirt with each other and bond is A GOOD THING..
Go on the honeymoon. Let it all flow, relax, and do de-stress after the wedding and enjoy. That’s what it’s all about. My sis and bro in law go on an anniversary trip every year..and they say it still feels like their honeymoon did (no kids). We think they have the right idea b/c it’s something they look forward too and it definitely keeps the heat and the romance alive!
Post # 11
We will have been living together for over 2 years at the time of our wedding and have traveled together as well.
I agree 100% with Drgirl – the honeymoon is a great chance to slow down, recap the events that just took place, and segway back into normal life. Plus, who needs an excuse for a nice vaca!
I also agree with Mr. Bee – people are super nice when they even THINK its your honeymoon. Last year FI and I went to Aruba and everyone thought it was our honeymoon and was so nice to us!
Post # 12
Mr. FF and I will be living together over 2 years on our wedding day. But we are so busy with working, school and the wedding it will be a much needed vacation. Yes the time has changed and some of us will not need the "adjustment" period. But there are still some that do need that time. For us the only thing that will change is a name and a signed piece of paper. But that is just how I feel. In my heart I am already Mrs. FF. But I still can’t wait to walk down that aisle then hop on a plane with the man of my dreams after saying I Do.
Post # 13
My FI and I will be living together for over a year once the wedding comes around. I want a honeymoon because it gives us two a chance to be alone for the first time as a married couple and it would be our first vacation without any one else. It would be just the two of us for however many days we take. This is what I look forward too! See my FFIL has been living with us due to health issues so we are really never alone anymore. And it will be like that for a very long time.
Unfortunately, with everything going on we will have a delayed honeymoon. Let me tell you how I much I cannot wait for that day to come!
Post # 14
- Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion
I think the "point" is, it’s a once-in-a-lifetime experience for you and your brand new husband to celebrate together. To be alone and get away from the everday grind. My FI and I will have been living together for over 3 years by the time we get married, but we are looking forward to our honeymoon like no other!
Post # 15
we dont live with each other and we have been on many vacations with each other barcelona, munich, antigua, london, llandudno, wales, amsterdam, new york, liverpool
so we are really excited to go on a vacation and call it HONEYMOON you can only say it once in your life, I am so excited
Post # 16
Sadly, usually when you go on a vacation for a week or 2, work starts to pile up. Then when you get home, you get overwhelmed by the work that was neglected. Soon, you need a vacation again from the vacation you just went on. It’s a vicious cycle.