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I dont think there is a right age per say. I believe that if two people love each other enough and for the right reasons, age doesnt matter.
I am 25 and FH is 28 we are getting married next year but we have been together for 6 yrs.
His grandparents have been together since they were 11 and 12 years old (married at 15 & 16) and are still together to this day.
It all depends on Love.
I am 20 years old, I'll be getting married in about a month! There is no right age to marry, I agree with @Mrs. Cox. It just depends on when you're ready, and when you're in love.
I think that varies for everyone. I would say anything past the age of 18, in general.
I agree there is no right age but I think that you should be able to support yourselves before you get married. We were married at 21/22 but we are both very mature for our age and already own a house and have been supporting ourselves for the years.
Financially stable enough to be independent and mature enough to know you're making a smart decision about it.
I also tend to lump a colleg education into that group. I'm a big advocate because everyone I know who got married in lieu of college ("oh i'll go later!") ended up making $8 an hour and divorced and broke =(
i think everyone here is right! when you're old enough to support yourselves, make smart decisions and you're in love! anywhere from 18 to 80!
I agree with the "no right age". When you find the perfect person, and you know you want to spend the rest of your life with them, then THATS the right age! I'm still in college, going to be 23, and I am ready. Its different for everyone. :)
I think it depends on the person, but I was engaged once when I was 20, never went through with it, again when I was 31, didn't marry then either. This time (and this is the winnah!) I'll be 44 when we get married. For me, I was SO glad that I didn't go through with it the two times before. I, personally, was too young at 20 to know what true love was, at 31..it was a long awaited proposal that by the time I actually got the ring, the relationship wasn't what I wanted it to be. In my 40's now, I know who I am, what my purpose is in life, have a career and am stable and can hold my own if need be, independent of any man. But again, everyone goes through lifes stages differently.
I agree with the general consensus. It depends on the people, not their age.
I think a lot of couples/people have individual markers for themselves. For R & I, it was being financially independent and finishing our undergrad. (More the money, I know we would have stuck through school either way.)
But obviously those don't work for everyone, and I don't think that two people who haven't been to college have any less of a marriage than I will.
We will both be 22 when we marry, and we'll have been together for 7 years.
It definitely depends on the people/situation, but I always thought that IF I was to marry, it would be at age 25, and lo & behold, that rang true =)
I also think there is no right age, but I always believed that both people should have enjoyed life before they get married. When I was in the military I would see couple that were both 18 and getting married cause they were just caught up in wanting to be with someone because they missed their family. The sad thing was that I would see them get married and year later see them get a divorce because one person didnt get their "run" out. That's what my mom calls it! :) I call enjoying life and checking off your I always wanted to do this list. Whatever that might include. :) I think it makes a better relationship when you both can go in saying that you have enjoyed life already but now you want to enjoy life with someone else!
I agree with the bees, there isn't really a "right" age. I think it depends on when you meet the right person, know you want to spend the rest of your life with them etc.
I'm 26...will be 27 @ wedding, FI will be 30. That is our "right" age.
There's no right age but about finding the right person and then the timing will happen!
I'm going to be 30 and my FI will be 28 when we marry. His brother is getting married in March and he's 25 and his fiancee is 29. When my mother got married the first time, she was 19ish and then her second marriage she was 23/4 ish and her third 33 so there are no guidelines in my mind on the right age to marry. I just waited until I found the right guy!
I think the right age is when you have experienced some life for yourself (education and work, lived on your own, done things you want to do – whatever that might be), when you have a better reason than just because you are “in love” for wanting to get married, and when you understand that there have to be better reasons than just being “in love” to make a marriage successful. Also, when you are (at least somewhat) financially independent and stable.
As for a bio-age, can’t imagine there is just one “right” age! :)
No right age - FI and I will both be 28 when we get married. I know for SURE I wasn't ready before age 26..
I will be 28 at my wedding...and I have not felt "ready" to get married until now...but I think that it is different for everyone.
Of course it depends, but I don't think I would advice any daughter or son of mine to get married before age 23.
Then again, my kids won't have to be entirely financially independent at 18, like some Bees, for example, so that is a factor. Also, I would expect my kid to at least give college a real try, and go to trade school or into military service if that didn't work out, so another factor. I also have no problem with shacking up, so I don't think there is a rush, but lots of people don't feel that way.
See, it does depend.
depends on the person, my mother married at 17 and had a miserable marriage, my sister married at 17 and 30yrs later still has a happy marriage but i didnt marry until i was 31
everyone is different but my base criteria would be graduate university/trade school, travel and have a few life experiences where you have the stuffing knocked out of you (stress or work or unemployement or health) so you know life can be tough but you can overcome and then consider marriage.
I don't think you should get married till you are out on your own taking care of yourself 100%...no mommy and daddy paying for auto insurance or this and that. I also think it's good to live on your own for at least a year.
I got married at 26, which is way earlier than I ever thought I would get married. But it was right for me! You just gotta do what's right for you.
when you are really ready to commit yourself to another person for the rest of your life! and that is different for everyone. My brother was married at 22 and super happy 13 years later. There is no way I was going to be ready until my late 20s/early 30s because I just had too much I wanted to accomplish on my own first. I will say that my mom and aunt (married at 19 and 21) while still happily married do wish they had been able to have some time for themselves before marriage (e.g., live on their own!)
No age, but experience. MY big 3 are:
1. Have gone to college or technical school to obtain SOME way to support yourself- NEVER have to depend on your husband for anything. If you become a SAHM, but you have an education and he leaves, guess what? You straight.
2. Support YOURSELF- If you have never had to pay all your own bills, the last thing you need to think about is a household with another human being.
3. Live ALONE- You'll never get the chance again and it's just something every person should do
I agree with pretty much everyone else. It depends on the people/relationship. I know people who married late in life and are miserable and I know people who got married really young and are miserable. I was 23 and the hubs was 22 when we got married. Granted it's not even been a month, lol, but we know it was right for us. We had both graduated college and were financially stable enough to afford a house and our wedding in the same year.
I don't think there is a "right" age either, but statistically, I think 25 is supposed to be the age at which the likelihood you'll divorce goes down considerably. I think that's just because of the things that pp's mentioned (living on your own, having financial stability, doing the things you want to do for a while, and getting your education) usually don't get accomplished until your in you mid-late twenties.
We married at 25, but I was actually ready at about the 24 year mark (we were together for 6 years before he proposed).
I think once you have both gotten your lives together seperately you can commit to being one. So, there is really no "right age" just a "right state of mind"... I want to be a young-ish mom, so in the ideal world I want to be married by 25, so I can have kids before I am 30.
I don't think there is a right age to marry. I do agree with other posters it would be when you have a good stable career/job and are financially stable. This way your able to support your self and you won't be struggling financially during the begining of the marriage.
the right age to marry is the age when you're ready to make that committment, both physically, mentally, spritually and financially. everyone is ready on their own time and there is no hard and fast rule for determining when that is
i'm with ejs and MsMamaBear -
if you're at a place in your lives where you feel fully committed to each and feel secure and stable enough in your lives, do it!
and to MsMamaBear's point - that's the one thing i wish i had done! i've lived with roommates before moving in with my now FH, but i wish i could have afforded to live on my own completely before we moved in together...
I read EJS's statement and agreed entirely.
I believe it is naive for someone to get married in today's world w/o first being able to stand on your own two feet. Yes, you're in love and yes, you think you're ready, but stuff happens. We read the horror stories of people who are betrayed (not just sexually) by their partner and NEVERRR saw it coming. I've been in love since day 1 and now its about 5 years from then... but I want to make sure nothing changes.
Its not about age, its about two responsible, fully committed, interdependent adults that sorta kinda love each other... lol. So, I suppose that would be more likely to apply to those that are probably well over 18 years (please, no one take offense to my personal beliefs! I believe what I do after seeing my parents divorce).
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