What's the rule???

posted 3 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@nicole18:  I think you can do whatever you want. Lots of people have intimate weddings and then a bigger wedding later. I’ve been to a couple 🙂

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@nicole18:  No not at all why would it be your in love you never had the proper party why not, your loved ones would enjoy a chance to celebrate your happy loving marriage with you DO IT enjoy it 😀

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

From a Bride perspective: Sure, you want to celebrate your married

From a Guest perspective: You are already married and had a wedding so I see no point in going to this vow renewal/celebration

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I don’t see anything wrong with having a vow renual. What was the reason you had such a small wedding to begin with?

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@MrsN14:  Yeah but what about those 75+ people who weren’t at the first reception and didn’t get to celebrate with the couple? 

@nicole18:  I think it’s a good idea to have a (no gifts) reception to celebrate your marriage with everyone who you couldn’t celebrate with earlier. 

Post # 9
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Helper bee

I personally would probably think it was a little weird, but I would go. 

I would probably make it a no-gift event though. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@nicole18:  I agree with some PP’s saying  why not, celebrate your love! But if I was one of the 25 guests at the previous reception (or even 15 because of 10 children) I wouldn’t want to feel obligated to bring another gift or give money to someone’s wedding I’ve already been to. Please don’t take that the wrong way, I know its probably not your intention in the least but you may or may not have some guests thinking that. If they were close family/friends, if you choose to do this reception, just let them know how you feel and that you don’t expect anything from them other than to show up and have a good time 🙂 If you choose to plan this, Good Luck!!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

My cousin did that. I think it’s a nice idea.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@spiffanee:  why should it be no gifts? 

 

I know a couple who dated 9 years, got married quickly after engagement because he was going overseas (military), and are now having a big reception. If I’m invited, I would love to celebrate with them- and bring a gift as I normally would.

Eta: I agree about no gifts for the previous givers.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@spiffanee: If she wanted to celebrate with these people they would have been invited to the wedding. Everyone we want to celebrate with us will be invited to the wedding, obviously.  A vow renewal should be for a significant milestone like 25 or 50 years, not 9 months. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@Bubbles42:  Well I’m not sure how you would go about saying ‘no gifts’ for some guests and not the rest. I guess word of mouth? The main reason I said no gifts is because then it would be more like “hey, we weren’t able to invite you before but now that we’re married and somewhat settled, come celebrate with us!” I feel like people might feel weird if they felt obligated to get a gift when they weren’t invited to the initial reception. Maybe not, though.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@MrsN14:  Have you never heard of people not being able to host as many people as they would have liked at a wedding? There could be a few reasons (money, location, preferences). It’s not uncommon for people to have to trim down their guest lists as much as they would like to invite everyone. Oh by the way: she never said it would be a vow renewal at all, just a reception. Two very different things.

 

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@mrsn14 I guess it all depends on the reason they had a small wedding. 

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