Post # 1
<div>The SO invited me to meet his grandparents for next week. Yesterday when he came over for dinner, he mentioned I’d be meeting his aunts too. He said he knew I’d make a great mom by how I was able to help improvise dinner meals (he had a work emergency, came late, and I said I’d help out).</div>
<div>I also mentioned I was the only girl in my group of friends who had a boyfriend, not a husband, but that he was the best boyfriend ever (he brought chocolate over b/c of PMSing, crankiness).</div>
<div>He’s being suspiciously, oddly lovey-dovey. Getting packed for vacation.</div>
<div>What’s it like meeting SO’s extended family for the first time? Does it mean anything? How soon did you meet them? (We’ve been together 3 years, we’re approaching 30).</div>
Post # 2
i met DH’s aunt/uncle, cousins pretty soon after we started dating. he goes to his aunt’s house for dinner once a week and i was invited. (his parents are deceased, so these are his closest family members).
i was 30 and he was 34 when we started dating.
i don’t believe i went the year we started dating, but i went the next year and every year since to his family reunion. any of the cousins in relationships always brought their SOs.
after 3 years, i would be concerned i hadn’t met extended family. is there a reason you think you shouldn’t meet them???
and the significance? well you are an important person in his life and he wants his family to meet you. i would assume…..
Post # 3
I don’t think there’s an answer to this because it varies depending on family circumstances.
My SO hasn’t me anyone other than my parents and brother, because they live in different country.
I’d met some of his uncles, aunts and cousins before we even started dating. I didn’t meet his parents, siblings or nephew until we’d been dating for about a year (8 months of which were long distance), because they live a considerable drive away.
Has there never been a family gathering that you’ve been to?
Post # 4
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Is there a reason its taken 3 years to meet his family? Thats kind of a strange one.
Post # 5
I met some of SOs extended family after a few months of dating. He brought me with him to a family reunion simply because I was important to him and he was serious about me – it wasn’t a hint of anything else.
I do agree that it’s slightly strange it took you this long to meet any of them.
Post # 6
I’ve met my husband’s extended family on a few occasions. Honestly, it didn’t hold any great significance. Maybe if he was really close to them it might.
Post # 7
It took a while, I think, because they live 4 hours driving distance away and he was in graduate school and I work long hours. Not sure what to expect…..but I did bake some cookies <:)
Post # 8
I would be surprised to have not met extended family in 3 years of dating unless they lived far from you or your SO was estranged from them for some reason.
I met some of my fiancé’s extended family at a holiday luncheon about 3 months after beginning to date. I met even further extended family (that lived out of state for example) at a family wedding about 6 months after starting to date.
I would think that within a year of dating it would be obvious if you were a long term couple. From there I think it would be unusual to not be included in regular family functions (assuming his family gets together for things like holidays, birthdays, etc).
Post # 9
It took about a year for my bf to introduce me to his immediate family, because they live on the other coast. He didn’t want to introduce me to extended family before I met his parents and sibs, so once that was done, I was immediately invited to all family functions afterwards (holidays, birthdays, baby showers, etc.). It was a big deal for us, but wouldn’t be for everyone.
Post # 10
DH met my extended family within a few months of dating. I met his grandmothers before we got engaged but I didn’t meet some of his aunts until we were engaged after 4.5 years of dating. So I wouldn’t read too much into it.
I don’t think it’s weird that you haven’t met them in three years, they live a distance and some families just don’t get together too often.
Post # 11
I met FH’s extended family after 6 months at the first holiday get together. It was simply a “my mom is hosting a barbecue come with me”. I don’t think it meant anything beyond that although I was nervous to meet his mother and aunts/uncles/cousins/siblings all in one shot.
Post # 12
carmensandiego38 : The experience of meeting SO’s family of course depends on the family – how close they are to him, how often they can see each other, etc. I’ve been with by bf for nearly 5 years and by now I’ve met everyone many times. He has a huge family on his mom’s side and that definitely overwhelmed me! Within about a year or two I had met most of them. It took me a while to feel like they were “family” like I do now, at least a few of them.
It’s an exciting step! 🙂