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I have to admit, I can occasionally be over-sensitive when it comes to losing my cool. While FI and I never really 'fight' (to me fighting = yelling at each other), I can get huffy over the silliest things sometimes. I work a LOT and am trying to start my own business on the side. I bought a home not long ago and have that to keep up with now. Also, FI and I live about 40 minutes apart which means a lot of travel time for me at the end of already long days.
So I admit, every once in awhile I come home and have a snit about something inane. For example, the other night he says, completely joking, like 'Hey, if you don't like it, you can marry someone else!' And I was up and off in huff-mode.
So fishing for verification that I am not a wack-a-doo, does anyone else find themselves doing this? What's the strangest thing you've ever gotten mad at FI for?
I absolutely can not stand it if he starts laughing in an argument/serious discussion... I know deep down I can't blame him, he's a light-hearted guy, and sometimes a facial expression or something is cute to him, so he laughs... and it drives me crazy! So, I totally feel you on this :)
When we first started dating I got explosvely mad at him for untagging himself in a pic of the two of us on Facebook. I was like WHAT ARE YOU EMBARASSED BY ME ARE YOU HIDING THE FACT THAT YOU HAVE A GIRLFRIEND WHAT ARE YOU HIDING!?!?!? Turns out he just thought he looked bad in the picture :)
I got mad at FI on Valentine's day because I sent a bouquet of roses and calla lilies to his work and when I asked what he thought of them, he told me he wasn't a flower person, but he loved the thought and care I put into it. Of course, in my head I heard "I hated the flowers" which was totally not what he said, but I cried for a couple hours after that because he didn't like my gift. I'm a bit over sensitive and take things personally that I really shouldn't.
I felt pretty embarassed when he brought them home that night and I saw that they had arrived in a silly box not even put together and were pretty sparce looking. And the heart felt message I sent with it was typed on this cheesey little card.
Oh well, next time I'll send him a chocolate bouquet. He's SURE to love that!!
I remember two arguments we've had that were absolutely ridiculous, absurd, laugh-about-it-later type things. We don't even fight much at all, and it makes me laugh now that we had these blowouts over such silly reasons!
1.) My FH is really into comic books. I am really not. He wanted me to read this Batman compilation that he had (it was like 100 pages long), because he was convinced I hadn't given comic books enough of a chance and I would like it if I just tried a little harder. It turned into a real yelling, crying argument......."It's just a stupid comic book! It will take you two hours to read! Why can't you just do something just because it's something I asked of you?!" "Why do you feel the need to FORCE me to try to enjoy YOUR hobbies?! Why would you insist that I do something you know I don't enjoy?!"
2.) Once, we ordered some hamburgers from our grocery/farm delivery service. I had been working on eating healthy, and I discovered the hamburgers were like 80/20 fat percentage. So, I didn't want to eat them. This made FH craaaazy--he thought I was being ridiculous--and so one night he made meatballs for dinner and crushed the hamburgers to use as meat. This turned into a big yelling argument, too: "You KNEW I didn't want to eat the hamburgers and you FORCED THEM ON ME!"
In case you were wondering, more than a few of our arguments have resulted from my tendency to be, um, resistant when I feel like I'm being bossed around or told what to do.
FI normally doesn't pick me up from work, but he was going to a store nearby anyway so he was going to on this one day. After not hearing from him for a while, he finally told me he couldn't anymore. I got really mad, like why would you say you'll do something when you won't?! Turns out, he got distracted...he was picking up my e-ring. 
Ok. I thought of it just now. It was soo silly ... but since you asked! Lol.
I was completely hormonal ... pms'ing ... and hungry. So I went to the market and came back with a complete homemade Thanksgiving Dinner and a mini pecan pie for dessert.
Fiance was at the office and let me know he was going out with his friends for a drink, and so I put my food away, and jumped into the shower and put my jammies on and wanted complete relaxation since I was all alone.
WELL what happened? I come out to the kitchen, and the fiance had finished all of my food, and was eating my mini pecan pie with his fingers ... like ruining it.
I was soo mad that I completely freaked out and locked the door to our bedroom for like 2 hours.
I felt so bad once I calmed down. 
Ok. Lets never speak of that again.
A few days after we had moved in together, we were in the car talking about combining our lives (as in phone plans, not marriage). Apparently he hated his health plan at work, but rather than saying:
'My health plan isn't as good as yours, but since they cost the same, next year it would be great if we could both be insured through your office.'
He said instead: If we're still together next year, we should go on the same health plan'.
In his mind he didn't want to seem pushy - and 'If we're still together', had the casual tone he was looking for. Oh, it was casual all right...
Needless to say I immediately burst into tears, he didn't know why, and all i could think was 'OMG, we just moved in together two days ago! He has doubts? This was a big deal for me...and he's thinking that maybe we won't make it?'
Of course, now it's a big joke, and anytime he talks about the future (even if it's a week out), he starts with 'If we're still together...' Clearly he's trying to keep me on my toes!
Well I have a type A personality and he has a type B personality so in the 4 years we've been together, I'm sure there's several weird things I've freaked out about.
Last week I suddenly decided that I couldn't find anything in main bathroom closet so I spent a couple hours reorganizing it. I seperated all of our medicines according to form (i.e., creams, pills, liquids, etc) and put them in seperate baskets, lined everything up with all the labels facing forward, etc. I'm not always that OCD but when I'm really stressed I tend to clean like a mad woman and the house was already pretty clean so the closet felt my wrath.
He went into the closet the other day to look for some tylenol for me. I heard all the rustling around in the closet and I freaked out. I told him "if you mess up my closet I will kill you!" and re-aligned everything. I know it's crazy but I've been so stressed lately I can't let all my closet work go just yet.
FI is a very calm, patient man, and with a psych major, he can talk me down from just about any ledge. A couple weeks ago we were going to bed and I was all upset over something pointless (which, while planning this wedding is becoming all too common). I threw a pillow at him "What's wrong with you? Why do you suck today? You're usually better at this!"
There was a pause...then I thought he would pee himself laughing.
Such an entertaining question:)
My fiance and I had a tiff just last night. Our wedding is three months away, and everything has just been going wrong lately, and we've had some unexpected car repairs and medical bills, so we've both been a little stressed. So last night, I said to him, "Let's order a pizza tomorrow. I want to stress eat, and since I've been really good with eating well, I deserve it." He cracked last night when I said that because the thought of spending even $20 on pizza to him was the end of the world. "No, you're not buying pizza! It's just too much! It all adds up!" Then I got upset because it was like he was telling me how to spend my money (we'll be getting one joint account for bills and such, and keeping our individual accounts for "fun money"). We got into a (mild) argument over it, and we both over-reacted about a pizza. When we woke up this morning, we laughed about it. Compromise: We're making pizza because cooking relaxes us both and we really need to relax more than we need to eat a specialty pizza with everything in the world on it.
Buying instant rice instead of regular rice.
Let's just not go there!
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My now new husband :D .. finds it cute when I get mad so he starts pinching my cheeks (I still have baby cheeks even at 25) and laughing. It doesn't help me get my point across because he's all sorts of distracted and feels like a waste of time to talk to him. Its annoying and cute at the same time.
Oh and he uses a paper towels like no other for EVERYTHING and it drives me insane! He'll wipe a small spot of something, throw the towel away then see another spot and grab a whole new sheet.
I sometimes get a little debbie downer- I seem to be paranoid about everything- I freak out at hime when he mumbles when he says "i love you." I take him mumbling as him not actually loving me and not saying it. He kindly reminds me of the ring on my finger. I know I have issues. Now he does, too. 
I called in a to-go order for dinner for my hubby, his brother, and myself...and I was starving and couldn't wait to eat! When he comes home with the food, mine was completely missing (he didn't check the order when he picked it up) and all I could do was cry -- I know, I know, craziness! He tries to share his food, but I wanted nothing to do with it. We ended up driving to another place to pick something up, but by then I was really grumpy hungry and I yelled at the poor guy the whole car ride and didn't really talk to him for the rest of the night....needless to say I felt really bad after.
Lol - I'm glad that I'm not the only one who gets mad over food! (Very "Joey from Friends"-like, I know). One time I was having a particularly stressful week at work. I'd been saving a piece of chocolate cake to eat at home, and when I came home I discovered he had eaten it. I cried.
'Nuff said.
For serving me rice. And it was a big fight!
I'm not even joking. I'd just started a diet and was carefully measuring everything I ate. And was really really hungry. And I was all set to measure out my rice and then he just started heaping it out into the bowl. And i snapped. And the poor boy just looked at me and said, "seriously?" and walked out of the room.
I was a really really mean girl that whole weekend. Ah, diets are hard (but don't worry, it wasn't a crazy fad diet, just Weight Watchers). After an hour or two to cool off I found him in bed and apologized for being a crazy woman. And he hugged me and then it was ok.
I'm so lucky that he puts up with my nuttyness! He's very level headed.
Haha! These are all hilarious! Well, they are NOW, at least, even if they weren't at the time. 
I get mad over stupid things all the time, too, but I can't seem to remember any specifics right now. I must have blocked them from memory, which is fine by me! It makes it easier to pretend like it never happened!
Love this! Usually I try to remain rational and calm and "pick my battles" but one Saturday we both decided to do laundry (we each do our own). Our laundry "room" (two washers and two dryers) in our apartment complex is in the basement (we're on the third floor of a walk up) and it costs a dollar in quarters to do a load of washing. I was fishing around for some quarters when he started to carry his basket down the stairs. For some reason, it annoyed me that he didn't wait for me so we could walk down together. (i know, i know!!) and then when I got down there, he had taken the last washing machine and had started his laundry. I was FURIOUS!!!
I couldn't believe he wouldn't just have waited for me and then maybe we could have shared the washing machine and each done half a load together?? I don't know what I was thinking!! But all I knew was I wanted to get my laundy DONE and was SO MAD at him for "hogging" the washing machine!
He accidently burned my turkey buger on the grill! I went back to the store and pouted in the parking lot. I sent him a text saying I would be back "later." Then I took my time walking around the grocery store while he was sending me messages to "please come home." Thank you PMS! He forgave me pretty quickly!
These are so funny and make me feel less crazy! My FI will just always say "Its fine" when I ask him something and I can tell sometimes that he is JUST SAYING THAT (this happened when I was designing our invitations, for example). So then I'm like "YOU'RE JUST SAYING THAT!" and he says "Ok, well I didn't want to get into a big thing about it, but now we're in a big discussion!" and I say "Well maybe you just should have said something!" and he says "but we're in a discussion anyway, I can't win!" and I say "it isn't about winning, it is about communication!" and we go on like this until we both realize it is going nowhere and it is stupid. Then we're like "I'm sorry, that was dumb" and "I love you" and then I say "So do you like this?"
Ha ha.
I get mad when he uses pronouns too much.
"Hand me THAT."
"Hand you what?"
"HE said this and that."
"Who's he?"
"Is THIS laundry clean?"
"What laundry are you talking about?"
He automatically assumes I can read his mind...
Oh yeah. And he meows. I think it's is response that means yes/no.
"Wanna go grocery shopping?"
"Meow."
Our biggest argument was the lamest subject matter.
I work at a bar and this I.D. was certainly not that of this little, maybe 18yr old standing in front of me. After being denied she took off and accidently left the ID on the table. When she came back for it I told her I gave it to the owner (which I did).
My bf was upset that I was runing her chances of having fun in the city and claimed that I may have altered her life in a huge way. (he had an ID when he was younger)
I think she should wait like the rest of us.
HUGE argument if you can beleve it! ;)
My FI is REALLY into World of Warcraft...or any other video game. Normally it's not a big deal. He forgets to take out the garbage because he is playing? Fine. I can do it. HE forgets to walk our dog because he is playing? Okay, I can do that, too. But when he forgot to walk me home from work (it's like a 5 minuet walk) I got so mad! I took it as he forgot about me, he doesn't love me, he lloves the game more than he loves me....
yeah. His video games cause a lot of the silly arguments. lol. so funny now.
Hawaii Five 0.... yep, biggest arguemnt we ever had was over a tv show that was filmed about 30yrs ago half way around the world from us
he was given all 10 series on dvd and decided a hawaii five 0-a-thon was necessary - i disagreed and it totally blew out of proportion from there... to the point i picked up the stupid dvds and actually threw them into the bin while carrying on like a crazy person and he decided to take it as a personal offense on behalf of jack lord (main actor in the show)
I think the most recent is when he gets too touchy feely in public, like grabbing me when he thinks no one is lookig, one time a guy saw us and had a mischievous grin; sometimes its funny sometimes it gets embarassing
so I slapped his hand and was half-annoyed
I dont want to stop his playful side
he asked do we have problems with affection I said no babe sometimes you show too much, he laughs
I guess it could be worse and he could be cold
This happens pretty frequently, but it's pretty dumb to get mad about it I guess....
FI will yell "Hey babe?!" from wherever he's at in the house, and when I say "Yes?", he doesn't respond. So I have to stop what I'm doing and go see what he wants. If he wanted me to come to him, why doesn't he just say that!!!
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His Barista .. I'm right there with you when it comes to W.o.w I dated a guy in H.S. who played all the time and we couldn't hang out on Tuesdays because it was 'Raid night'. I vowed to never date another W.o.w. addict again. Now fast forward to when I asked my now fiancee if he's heard of the game. Oh of course he has and of course he plays...along with his two brothers, 3 cousins, dad, uncle, aunt and friends. There's just no escaping it! Haha
I can't think of any right now, but I can go a little off the handle at the dumbest thing. Particularly when we were at that touchy "we want to get married but there's no ring" stage. Nothing as of late, though. The crazy side is in hiding. I do get really irritable when he criticizes my food choices. IE I like tofu, and he'll make a deal about how nasty and sick it is. Now I just wave it in his face and let it jiggle on my fork.
PS i don't like the touchy touchy grabby grabby PDA in public, either. I'm not a piece of meat!
One of our dumbest arguments was over him rushing me out the door. I had just gotten home from a hectic day at work and we had to get to one of the kids baseball games. As soon as I walked in from the garage, I ran into all five kids putting on shoes and getting in the truck to leave. Hey - I wanted to change! I blew up because I felt like he was rushing me out the door and all he was doing was getting the kids out of my hair so that I could change and take my time. In hindsight, it was a sweet thing, but at the time I felt he was rushing me and I hate that.
He tickles me. And sometimes I'm okay with it, but sometimes I just want to snuggle and it makes me crazy. I don't know, I just feel out of control when I'm being tickled. He's not ticklish so he really doesn't get it.
I'm at work reading these and seriously cracking up!! Its so funny how mad we get about food LOL! But I'm the same way, it actually happened just last week.....so I'm on a diet & watching what I eat all week, so on Friday's I allow myself one bad meal. So I had been thinking about pizza all week long, so its time to order & my FI says he wants a chicken pizza, when all week long I was thinking of pepperoni. I lost it!! I started crying and freaking out that "I didn't want to waste by bad meal on calories that I'm not going to enjoy" (even though I like the chicken pizza too) he just looked at me like I was nuts & I can't beleive I cried!!
In the end we ending up doing a half and half pizza :)
I got hot sauce on my Ugg about 3 years ago and he laughed at me because I was running around looking for a napkine. All he did was stand there and laugh! We got back to our dorm and I threw the shoe at him!
OH! And Quantum Physics. To this day we will NOT talk about Quantum Physics. We started talking about it one night and got into this huge argument about beliefs and science and blah blah blah. Either way, its a mute point.
Oh, some of these are pretty funny. When I'm tired or stressed, I can't handle the sound of (anyone, really) eating. I snap. It's so hard to describe because it bothers me so much ... but when I'm not in that mood it's funny to look back on it and get that same feeling.
Ferris Wheel- My guy does the same thing. It drives me NUTS!
Mr. F and I were at bingo (yeah, I'm the girl with a dedicated "dauber bag") we're playing and I dropped something so I go to pick it up (dauber in hand) and end up daubbing a flourescent orange circle right on my forehead. Then he just laughs and points it out to the rest of the table and doesn't help me. It was so embarrasing and I was so mad that I didn't talk to him for the rest of the game.
I'm such a loser.
I'm normally more easy-going than my FI, so I don't usually blow up little things, but the stress of final-stage wedding planning has made me a little twitchy lately.
A couple of days ago, FI was going to drive his brother to the next town over to renew his drivers licence. Since we haven't got our marriage licence yet, I looked online and found out that the town also has an office where we could get our marriage licence. I thought to myself, "when FI and FBIL leave, I'll tag along to town so that we can get it all done at once." Well, I went upstairs a while later (we live in the basement), and they left without telling me! I called FI on his cell and gave him an earful about how rude it was to leave without telling me, and how he never does anything to help with the wedding. That's right, I got mad at him for not reading my mind and knowing that I wanted to go along with him and FBIL, when I hadn't mentioned anything about it beforehand! 
I cooled down pretty quickly and apologized when he got home, but I'm sure he's wondering what happened to the sweet girl he proposed to and when she's going to come back. Wedding stress is making me insane!
The only thing we've ever fought about is strippers and whether or not men in committed relationships belong at strip clubs.
Turned out, he agrees with me that they don't and that such things would in fact be grounds for anger. I guess since we agreed it wasn't really a fight though.
We also fought one other time because my crazy a$$ ex bf mailed an entire seasons worth of sporting event tickets to my house. My ex is a whackbag, that is all you need to know. He claimed he "gave the ticketmaster guy the wrong address" Um?? right...lol
Anyway, I wanted to set the season tickets to his team on fire. Since he sent them to my house and all. I thought it would be funny. My two closest girls were all for it. But FI (then bf) and my BFF (also a guy) both freaked out and told me not to do it.
FI told me I was being childish and I'd probably get in trouble for tampering with the US postal service... I threw a tantrum and tore up the commemorative calender that came with the tickets and reluctantly agreed to just let BFF (who works in a mailroom) contact ex-psycho and send the tickets back to him.
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