Post # 1
I have to admit, I can occasionally be over-sensitive when it comes to losing my cool. While FI and I never really ‘fight’ (to me fighting = yelling at each other), I can get huffy over the silliest things sometimes. I work a LOT and am trying to start my own business on the side. I bought a home not long ago and have that to keep up with now. Also, FI and I live about 40 minutes apart which means a lot of travel time for me at the end of already long days.
So I admit, every once in awhile I come home and have a snit about something inane. For example, the other night he says, completely joking, like ‘Hey, if you don’t like it, you can marry someone else!’ And I was up and off in huff-mode.
So fishing for verification that I am not a wack-a-doo, does anyone else find themselves doing this? What’s the strangest thing you’ve ever gotten mad at FI for?
Post # 3
I absolutely can not stand it if he starts laughing in an argument/serious discussion… I know deep down I can’t blame him, he’s a light-hearted guy, and sometimes a facial expression or something is cute to him, so he laughs… and it drives me crazy! So, I totally feel you on this 🙂
Post # 4
When we first started dating I got explosvely mad at him for untagging himself in a pic of the two of us on Facebook. I was like WHAT ARE YOU EMBARASSED BY ME ARE YOU HIDING THE FACT THAT YOU HAVE A GIRLFRIEND WHAT ARE YOU HIDING!?!?!? Turns out he just thought he looked bad in the picture 🙂
Post # 5
I got mad at FI on Valentine’s day because I sent a bouquet of roses and calla lilies to his work and when I asked what he thought of them, he told me he wasn’t a flower person, but he loved the thought and care I put into it. Of course, in my head I heard "I hated the flowers" which was totally not what he said, but I cried for a couple hours after that because he didn’t like my gift. I’m a bit over sensitive and take things personally that I really shouldn’t.
I felt pretty embarassed when he brought them home that night and I saw that they had arrived in a silly box not even put together and were pretty sparce looking. And the heart felt message I sent with it was typed on this cheesey little card.
Oh well, next time I’ll send him a chocolate bouquet. He’s SURE to love that!!
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2010 - Heinz Chapel Ceremony, Museum Reception
I remember two arguments we’ve had that were absolutely ridiculous, absurd, laugh-about-it-later type things. We don’t even fight much at all, and it makes me laugh now that we had these blowouts over such silly reasons!
1.) My FH is really into comic books. I am really not. He wanted me to read this Batman compilation that he had (it was like 100 pages long), because he was convinced I hadn’t given comic books enough of a chance and I would like it if I just tried a little harder. It turned into a real yelling, crying argument……."It’s just a stupid comic book! It will take you two hours to read! Why can’t you just do something just because it’s something I asked of you?!" "Why do you feel the need to FORCE me to try to enjoy YOUR hobbies?! Why would you insist that I do something you know I don’t enjoy?!"
2.) Once, we ordered some hamburgers from our grocery/farm delivery service. I had been working on eating healthy, and I discovered the hamburgers were like 80/20 fat percentage. So, I didn’t want to eat them. This made FH craaaazy–he thought I was being ridiculous–and so one night he made meatballs for dinner and crushed the hamburgers to use as meat. This turned into a big yelling argument, too: "You KNEW I didn’t want to eat the hamburgers and you FORCED THEM ON ME!"
In case you were wondering, more than a few of our arguments have resulted from my tendency to be, um, resistant when I feel like I’m being bossed around or told what to do.
Post # 7
FI normally doesn’t pick me up from work, but he was going to a store nearby anyway so he was going to on this one day. After not hearing from him for a while, he finally told me he couldn’t anymore. I got really mad, like why would you say you’ll do something when you won’t?! Turns out, he got distracted…he was picking up my e-ring.
Post # 8
Ok. I thought of it just now. It was soo silly … but since you asked! Lol.
I was completely hormonal … pms’ing … and hungry. So I went to the market and came back with a complete homemade Thanksgiving Dinner and a mini pecan pie for dessert.
Fiance was at the office and let me know he was going out with his friends for a drink, and so I put my food away, and jumped into the shower and put my jammies on and wanted complete relaxation since I was all alone.
WELL what happened? I come out to the kitchen, and the fiance had finished all of my food, and was eating my mini pecan pie with his fingers … like ruining it.
I was soo mad that I completely freaked out and locked the door to our bedroom for like 2 hours.
I felt so bad once I calmed down.
Ok. Lets never speak of that again.
Post # 9
A few days after we had moved in together, we were in the car talking about combining our lives (as in phone plans, not marriage). Apparently he hated his health plan at work, but rather than saying:
‘My health plan isn’t as good as yours, but since they cost the same, next year it would be great if we could both be insured through your office.’
He said instead: If we’re still together next year, we should go on the same health plan’.
In his mind he didn’t want to seem pushy – and ‘If we’re still together’, had the casual tone he was looking for. Oh, it was casual all right…
Needless to say I immediately burst into tears, he didn’t know why, and all i could think was ‘OMG, we just moved in together two days ago! He has doubts? This was a big deal for me…and he’s thinking that maybe we won’t make it?’
Of course, now it’s a big joke, and anytime he talks about the future (even if it’s a week out), he starts with ‘If we’re still together…’ Clearly he’s trying to keep me on my toes!
Post # 10
Well I have a type A personality and he has a type B personality so in the 4 years we’ve been together, I’m sure there’s several weird things I’ve freaked out about.
Last week I suddenly decided that I couldn’t find anything in main bathroom closet so I spent a couple hours reorganizing it. I seperated all of our medicines according to form (i.e., creams, pills, liquids, etc) and put them in seperate baskets, lined everything up with all the labels facing forward, etc. I’m not always that OCD but when I’m really stressed I tend to clean like a mad woman and the house was already pretty clean so the closet felt my wrath.
He went into the closet the other day to look for some tylenol for me. I heard all the rustling around in the closet and I freaked out. I told him "if you mess up my closet I will kill you!" and re-aligned everything. I know it’s crazy but I’ve been so stressed lately I can’t let all my closet work go just yet.
Post # 11
FI is a very calm, patient man, and with a psych major, he can talk me down from just about any ledge. A couple weeks ago we were going to bed and I was all upset over something pointless (which, while planning this wedding is becoming all too common). I threw a pillow at him "What’s wrong with you? Why do you suck today? You’re usually better at this!"
There was a pause…then I thought he would pee himself laughing.
Post # 12
Such an entertaining question:)
My fiance and I had a tiff just last night. Our wedding is three months away, and everything has just been going wrong lately, and we’ve had some unexpected car repairs and medical bills, so we’ve both been a little stressed. So last night, I said to him, "Let’s order a pizza tomorrow. I want to stress eat, and since I’ve been really good with eating well, I deserve it." He cracked last night when I said that because the thought of spending even $20 on pizza to him was the end of the world. "No, you’re not buying pizza! It’s just too much! It all adds up!" Then I got upset because it was like he was telling me how to spend my money (we’ll be getting one joint account for bills and such, and keeping our individual accounts for "fun money"). We got into a (mild) argument over it, and we both over-reacted about a pizza. When we woke up this morning, we laughed about it. Compromise: We’re making pizza because cooking relaxes us both and we really need to relax more than we need to eat a specialty pizza with everything in the world on it.
Post # 13
Buying instant rice instead of regular rice.
Let’s just not go there!
Post # 14
My now new husband 😀 .. finds it cute when I get mad so he starts pinching my cheeks (I still have baby cheeks even at 25) and laughing. It doesn’t help me get my point across because he’s all sorts of distracted and feels like a waste of time to talk to him. Its annoying and cute at the same time.
Oh and he uses a paper towels like no other for EVERYTHING and it drives me insane! He’ll wipe a small spot of something, throw the towel away then see another spot and grab a whole new sheet.
Post # 15
I sometimes get a little debbie downer- I seem to be paranoid about everything- I freak out at hime when he mumbles when he says "i love you." I take him mumbling as him not actually loving me and not saying it. He kindly reminds me of the ring on my finger. I know I have issues. Now he does, too.
Post # 16
I called in a to-go order for dinner for my hubby, his brother, and myself…and I was starving and couldn’t wait to eat! When he comes home with the food, mine was completely missing (he didn’t check the order when he picked it up) and all I could do was cry — I know, I know, craziness! He tries to share his food, but I wanted nothing to do with it. We ended up driving to another place to pick something up, but by then I was really grumpy hungry and I yelled at the poor guy the whole car ride and didn’t really talk to him for the rest of the night….needless to say I felt really bad after.