Post # 1
I have had some serious issues with my FMIL while planning our wedding, from pulling thier contribution by puttint a stop payment on thier check, to telling me that she didn’t support us getting married because it wasn’t a “family desicion” to telling FH that god will not support our marriage because we aren’t getting married in a Lutheran church (I am catholic)
Whats the worst think your fMIL has ever said to you?
Post # 3
ummm…. i should give a different room a big clean once per week to keep on top of things – thats the worse shes done, good thing she does my weekly ironing 🙂
im spoilt – i like my MIL, she raised a great man who i swear must have been adopted
Post # 4
Wow! Um…mine asks constantly about how much different things cost for the wedding, in an obviously negative way like she thinks we’re spending way too much, when really I’m being quite budget conscious. But that’s just her way, she’s a coupon clipping bargain shopper. Nothing bad like yours.
Post # 5
Um, my FMIL hasn’t ever said anything to my face to horrible. She would rather be sneaky and bad mouth and try to turn people against me behind my back.
I kind of prefer the to the face comments.
Post # 6
My FMIL called me fat the other day and i am proud to say i just lost 20lbs and she asked me if i gained weight. for my birthday she got me a tummy sucker in thing and when i told her i lost weight not gained it she said “Oh you finally want to fit in your old clothes again” She isnt very nice…
Post # 7
Un wedding related but at christmas on unwrapping her present from FH and I she rolled her drunken eyes at me and slurred (very loudly) “I hope you kept the f***ing reciept!” This all for a present she picked herself (a slow cooker) but instead of buying the 2litre one, silly old me got the 2.5 litre one! how damned inconsiderate of me.
Luckily we since got engaged and she has become much nicer.
Post # 8
Let’s see. . . my FMIL told me about a conversation she had with a co-worker and how the co-worker doesn’t get a long with her DIL. My FMIL told her how she doesn’t have that problem with me, that we get along great, and then proceeded to tell her co-worker that if anything, I would be the one to leave FI. . . in other words, because I am too good to be true and that FI doesn’t deserve me. Gee, thanks. . . that’s something I wanted to hear 5 months before i get married. I mean Who says that! I just looked at her like she was an f-ing idiot, and told FI about it later that day.
Post # 9
FMIL told FI that he should never let me touch our money because I can’t budget anything. This came after we asked if she was going to be contributing to the wedding. We told her how much my parents were gifting us (we consider the wedding our wedding present) and she told him that if I can spend that much on one day I’m going to be a horrible mother/wife/person etc. And then denied saying it, even though it was through a text message and we have the proof. Since then, she’s made (not-so) subtle hints and comments about my spending habits…
Post # 10
I feel like it’s going to be a huge problem to ask FMIL for any support surrounding a wedding (currently waiting bee, not engaged)… She makes a lot of money. She spends all of it. All.Of.It. My SO had a car payment in his name for her since she has been irresponsible with credit. She could have paid it off in a month with her salary but instead took about 5 years, making only the minimum payment. She says things like, “You just need to hurry up and make me some grandbabies while you still can!” (I’m 26. We’re not married and I want to be at least 31 before trying). I wear a large-sized shirt, mostly thanks to the ladies lol… Yeah for Christmas, she got me a terribly ugly XXXL Shirt. I held it up. It looked like a dress. I wanted to cry. She has gotten much nicer lately, though. Not speaking to her for a few months probably helped.
Post # 11
Wow, that is terrible. My FMIL hasn’t really said anything to that extent, but she never does what she says she is going to do and it’s really very frustrating cuz I know I can’t rely on her to help out. The worst thing is she has agreed to pay for the reception so we have to consult with her on everything for that.
My FI’s aunt is a lot worse, however, she told us that it was weird that we want to invite Men to our wedding shower and that no one is going to come. She also placed blame on us since my FI’s sister booked a trip to Hawaii (when she knew the date of our reception) and she’s all upset cuz she can’t go now.
Post # 12
I feel incredibly lucky to have the FMIL that I have. She’s more of a mom to me than both my step-mom and biological. She did say last week in a joking way that since the grooms family was supposed to pay for rehearsal dinner that we should expect to go to Mcdonalds…. I know she was making an easy joke out of it – we’re paying for everything by ourselves – the worst thing about the comment was – I hadnt even thought about the rehearsal dinner,let alone budget for it… Sigh….
Post # 13
@Waves2: I don’t see how that is a bad thing for her to say? I think that is quite the compliment coming from your FMIL. She thinks of you as a really good person that no one, not even her own son can match up to.
@Tunacupcakes: Mine is just the same. I haven’t ever really given her a reason to talk smack, but FI’s entire family stands on the pillars of gossip, backbiting, deceit, unhealthy competition. I have NO idea how he is different. And a couple of other kids in their family are different. But everyone else is literally the bottom of the barrel. (if that!)
Post # 14
@Waves2: Wow, I definitely wouldn’t tell my FI if his mom said something like that/ WHy did he need to know? Obviously it’s just going to hurt his feelings.
Post # 15
The first time I met her she asked me if I worked out. Not knowing her I took it the wrong way. Knowing her now — she meant nothing by it. FI is Brazilian and his parent’s are physical therapists, working out is her life…she was just asking if I shared this hobby. But boy, at the time did it not sound nice!
Post # 16
Upon announcing our engagement to FI’s family, my FMIL turned to her DIL (FI’s brother’s wife) and said “you stole my first baby and now she’s stealing my other baby” as she nods her head toward me. I have to ignore his family’s behavior (they’re truly nuts- I don’t know how my FI escaped normal) or I’d be crazy by now.