(Closed) What's the worst wedding etiquette mistake you've encountered?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Wow thats pretty bad! My cousin eloped to Hawaii without telling anyone and then upon returning they sent out wedding announcements with their registry info on it.

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Just went to a “shower” this past weekend where guests were expected to pay for their own plates. Would’ve been nice to indicate that on the invite! 

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

MrsEdamame:  See this I find rude. The reminder about the registry doesn’t really bother me, I’m sure they thought they were being helpful in reminding people.

I once went to a wedding where they asked guests to help serve in the buffet… after the guests had arrived thinking they were just there to enjoy a wedding.

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I know a case where the couple invited some siblings in a family (related to the groom) but not others. (All lived together, all over 18).

The entire family declined the invite.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

We got a group e mail with the bank account details of the couple so we could all transfer them cash wedding presents.

 

We (along with many others) were invited to an engagement party which had a honeymoon registry insert in the invite – most of the people who attended and gave gifts were then not invited to the wedding itself.

 

And of course the usual no thank you cards ever sent etc etc.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

aussiemum1248:  This happened to me. My middle sister has a mental illness, and my cousin clearly didn’t want to invite her to his wedding out of fear that she would make a scene or something. So he invited my oldest sister and her spouse, but my middle sister and I were not invited. I’m still pretty offended about it, as I don’t think it was fair to exclude me just to make it less obvious that you didn’t want my middle sister there. People are really weird when it comes to invites.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

The phrase “no boxed gifts please” was on the invite:S They successfully offended me twice, first by mentioning gifts on the invitation and secondly, asking for cash!

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Lollybags:  Wow, they were considered close enough to get an engagement party invite, but not a wedding invite? That is seriously bad etiquette and very, very gift grabby.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

lanibug:  lol, I would’ve taken a wrapped gift, and made sure it wasn’t something they could return (like an engraved picture frame). 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

MrsEdamame:  No, they were even introducing one guy at the engagement party to people as their expected emcee for the wedding and not even he scored an invite! I think they realised that they didn’t want to pay for that many people at their reception in the end so slashed the list. Mind you after asking for gifts at their engagement party they didn’t even supply any drinks, we had to purchase it all ourselves at regular bar prices (not cheap here).

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Church

emilythehutt:  Oh man … That is so crass. I cannot believe that someone would do that!

The worst I have encountered was this girl put as her Facebook status “Save the Date becomes informal – save the date for [date]” and all 200 of her Facebook friends could see it. Let me say that just about everyone was wondering if they had an invitation. Then she sent an invitation to me for her bridal shower and our wedding invite had been “lost”. People were uninvited to her stag and doe by her MOH who had personal vendettas. The entire thing was a mess and caused hurt feelings/bad tastes in peoples mouths.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

emilythehutt:   One guest asked me what color would be appropriate for her to wear.  I told her my dress was a warm ivory color, so I’d prefer she wear nothing light colored.  She then announced she would be wearing white.  I have seen the dress in question and it is stark raving white.  Long, tiered, flowing, and as white as it gets.  She is the only guest to ask about what to wear!  Pretty funny really.  

Another guest announced she was bringing a plus one, and ALSO that they were coming because they want to see our venue as they plan to get married there (they are not engaged at this point). Yep, fine.  Good to know that.  LOL

 

 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Lollybags:  Terrible hosts. What happened with our generation? When did people lose the ability for basic etiquette skills?? I think weddings have warped their sense of “Acceptable” and “Unacceptable” behavior.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

laceydoilies:  I once had a friend post, on a Facebook status, “Thanks for attending our wedding! In leu of thank you notes, [groom’s name] is training to run in a 5K!” At first I thought it was a joke — it most definitely was not, as no thank you note ever materialized.

Since when did an investment in your personal health excuse you from properly thanking people for gifts? lol

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