Post # 1
there are 9 threads in the board, 8 mention “young” as if too young in the title. the 9th is about college planning brides.
I’m 25 and have been running my own business for 3 years. I quite corporate america after 6 months. lol. My Fiance is 30. I’m a 20 something bride and proud of it! If Fiance didn’t get hurt at work, have to leave his job, and restart 7 months into our relationship we’d be married by now. I’m proud of being a 20 something bride. So let’s get past the “young” part, shall we? Awesome. 🙂
Post # 3
I agree. It’s stupid. I’m pretty pissed that we haven’t ditched the age boards altogether. I AM NOT A NUMBER!
Post # 4
I was thinking the same thing!LOL I’m 28, I’m nowhere near young, at least not on the 20something board.LMAO
Post # 5
I know, it’s a big debate on here about who is or isn’t too young. I am 22 and I don’t think we are two young but other people think differently I guess. And I guess people are going crazy with the board since it’s new in the reorg.
Post # 6
So glad it’s not just me.. haha. I agree with the age thing…. I can understand a 40s board because for my clients that were “encore” or older and in their 40’s there are some unique things about planning a wedding later in life when your not the “young” bride, lol. but the 20s and 30s at this point are one and the same in wedding planning and makes no sense.
eta: Really, I think we should just leave age out of it. Planning a wedding is planning a wedding…
Post # 7
I agree! I hate being labeled as a “young 20 some bride”. UGH! I feel 80 some days!!!!
Post # 8
I agree – I’m 20 years old and am already a nurse. I went straight from high school to nursing school. I work 48 hours a week and feel that I’m very mature for my age. I get sick of people stamping 20 somethings as “too young.” It’s all about maturity.
Post # 9
I’m young. I’m 23. I’ll own up to it and not be offended….you can’t get too wound up about someone else’s relative opinion!
Post # 10
Yeah, I feel the same way. I was so confused that just because I’m in my 20s I’m automatically a “young bride.” I feel like 25 is plenty old enough to get married!
Post # 11
I suppose constantly hearing that 20’s is “too young” is on the forefront of everybody’s mind. I think it’s good that there’s a place to go to for support for people that are upset by that, but I agree also that hopefully we can think of other things to talk about! I’m 26, so I don’t really get that. In my area I think that makes me dangerously close to spinster territory.
Post # 12
- Wedding: August 2018 - Oakland Manor
Am I the minority here? I’m in my 20s, I don’t have a problem with a 20 something board. It would have been nice to have a dedicated space where I could talk abotu things like the guest list 1.5 years after college – who do I invite?! The frustration of student loans v. wedding planning, etc. Things that tend to affect 20 somethings more often.
20 something covers a wide spectrum, those who feel they are young brides (or that people treat them that way) can vent, those who are in their later 20’s who have things to vent about age, etc. Why not post more about things that affect you at your age (whatever it may be) instead of focusing on the young posts?
Post # 13
Well, frankly, I’m just happy to still “fit into” this board (however technically it might be)…I’m 29 for 5 more months and I’m clinging to every last day 😉
Post # 14
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
I don’t have a problem with it at all… I’m just not sure that it’s a relevant category for me. 🙂 No one I know thinks I’m too young to be married (and no one seems to think I’m too old, either ;), and I don’t think of my age much in my wedding planning. Maybe in my life planning…!
Post # 15
We added the 30’s and 40’s boards on request. We felt it would be wrong to exclude the 20-somethings by not having a board for them.
If you don’t feel as if you need a place to chat with brides in your own age group, there’s definitely not any requirement to participate in the board. But please know that we’re not trying to “label” anyone, we’re just responding to requests from lots of other Members of the Hive
Post # 16
@dorsay – I think you hit the “I hope we can find other things to talk about” right on the head.
Myself and my fiance are 4 years out of university and definitely had issues being honest with ourselves about which university friends we’re still close enough with to invite to the wedding, and I totally cringe when I think how much of a dent in my student loan knocking even 10 people off the guest list could make!
I think so many of us went hyper-frugal through university, so all of a sudden seemingly gratuitous spending can be a major shock to the system.
It may not be exclusive to 20 something brides, but I think there’s also a bit more of an issue at this age, of really finding your own voice and standing up for your choices than other age groups, that makes wedding planning a real growth opportunity (amongst a million others at this age).