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I too came here from another wedding forum site. I've stayed here because I was appalled at how the members of this site spoke to me where this site seems so welcoming and more like a community. They were so condescending and rude and actually made me feel like crap for no reason. It felt like they got their kicks doing this. Like the mean girls club.
I've read that a lot of other brides on here have had this problem with the same site and they all say the same thing about how they were treated. What exactly is up with that board and why do they behave that way? More importantly, why are they allowed to behave that way. Is there something I'm missing that makes that site so snotty? What's the story with them? I was just in shock to see how many people said the same thing about how they were welcomed yet it seems to just be the 'norm' there.
I've only been apart of this site...but ohhh what's the other site...sounds juciy. *lol*
But I agree, this site is awesome! You get honesty from caring people. How awesome is that?
It doesn't really matter does it? It's like any other forum, some you jive with, some you won't. I've given up on trying to figure out why people do what they do!
That act that way because they are allowed to behave that way. They are "allowed" to behave that way because no one who own the site happens to care if they are welcoming are not.
I love the weddingbee....
I've never been on the forum of the other site, becuase when I was planning my wedding, I stummbled onto the Bee looking for tutorials on DIY invitations, which I found immediately, so I stayed. :)
I think you will find that this site is an excellent resource not only with planning the specificities of your wedding, but being able to discuss the emotional aspects that come with planning a wedding, in an open and respectful manner.
Welcome!!!
I think they act that way because they can. People can turn nasty when they're given a computer to hide behind and no one to call them out on it.
I just joined another forum recently (not related to weddings/relationships) and realized after one post that it's an awful place. The mods were nonexistant, and everyone was harsh and snarky. I know the mods here get crap sometimes for enforcing the rules, but seriously I think they're a huge part of what keeps this place great! Hatefulness and snark are really nipped in the bud here, which makes it such a nice place!
This is the only forum I've ever seen with a "no snark" policy and I wish everyone else would adopt it too.
I've never been on the other site and from what I've heard, I'm not missing anything. I think that weddingbee has a great team of mods and hostesses that are very on top of things and are able to keep people in check. Luckily, most people here keep themselves in check without help, but it's nice to know that the mods are there to help when it's needed!
uh yeah. I was there for a while. The vibe is completely different here. No one thinks they are the "queen of the boards".
Whoaaaaa I just went to read some of their posts to see what you meant. BRUTAL. It's like mean girls...
I've heard that at that forum, on Wednesdays they wear pink.
I say it's props to our TOC and our mods!! They do a great job of keeping it positive/honest/helpful on here.
@abby_mb: I assume it's the site that rhymes with "fought" hee hee.
But yeah I too have seen at least one post where every single person responding had something nasty to say to the OP that had nothing to do with giving her nice solutions or advice.
@sweetcrackers LIKE
Oooh I especially like where they have a sticky at the top of their etiquette board with be all end all advice on etiquette rules and you're not allowed to ask anything about those specific topics in the sticky or everyone jumps down your throat for asking such a stupid question. A shining example of etiquette...
I have tried the other site. I find some parts of it very useful! However, I too noticed their community was rather rude and liked to make others feel bad about their choices. :( I love weddingbee. but...really, I was almost in tears after using the other site once..which is dumb...not worth the drama
i haven't even tried to check out the boards on the other site. i hear they're bitchy and i HATE HATE HATE the format. i hate that entire site a whole, actually. everything is so hard to find! plus, i can't stand that they let people have cheesey tickers and weird .gif pictures at the bottom of their posts. myspace circa 2005?
I definitely agree with the problem lying with people being able to hide behind their computer screens. And this site is so different from others b/c snark isn't even tolerated. Makes a huge difference.
@September29: "plus, i can't stand that they let people have cheesey tickers and weird .gif pictures at the bottom of their posts. myspace circa 2005?" <-THIS!
I couldn't agree more. I am SOOOOOO happy there is none of that here clogging up the space. Thanks Weddingbee for being so simple, straightforward, clean, and nice.
I tried to get on there back in the early engagment days, but the format is sooooooooooooooooooooo annoying. It makes me appreciate that the Bee bumps posts, so it's not in order of creation time, but last post. SO.MUCH.BETTER.
That and the attitude.....not sure what's in the Kool-aid over there, but it ain't rum!
I thought the etiquette board would be helpful.....instead it had me wondering if all my guests were going to faint out of sheer horror at the many, many, unacceptable gaffes I was making.
ETA: I should add that many people do like it though, and that's why there are different boards for different types of brides. Some of the longer term members seem to be quite close....but God forbid you be a new poster or say something different!
If you're talking about the site I think you are, that is EXACTLY the reason I camehere!!
I like their articles just fine, some stuff is helpful, but as soon as I saw those forums, I was OUT! IT made me very nervos to lok anywhere else, I was afraid all bridal stuff was that uptight! Like someone said, "The end all, be all".
I am so glad people here are nice and only want to give helpful advice. Over there it was never "I'm happy for you! That's a great idea!", it was just cruel insult after insult. I was too scared to post. Here, everyone is encouraging, no matter if your ideas are "untraditional", they encourage you to enjoy your wedding and accept you. I wish I had found WB before them.
Thanks for ROCKING, Hive!
ETA: About tickers, what's worse is often they'll gang up on girls if they aren't "good enough". Can you imagine? People being cruel over your style of TICKER? ICK
@CaptainKH: me too. I'm sad I didn't find the Bee until two months before the wedding :(
@hisgoosiegirl: Awww :( Well, better late than never. I'm glad to have made your acquaintence, for sure!
I am so glad I found this site! I LOVE it. Respectful, responsive, caring, and FUN!
It's been that way for over 10 years. I joined it in 2000, when my first girlfriend was getting married.
I'm so thankful for the Bee! :)
Hey all! Me and the team behind the scenes (mods and hostesses alike) just want to say thanks for the love and support! We do work really hard here to keep this a positive place, and it's really nice to get some kudos for it :) We really do appreciate it!
On a side note, just please tread carefully because in the TOS it states:
xii. Please do not link to or reference other discussion boards with the intent to disparage their members, content, or staff.
So let's not name names or rhyme rhymes and just focus on the hive love :) I like this thread too much to have to shut it down! LOL!
I use both. I enjoy reading all the different threads, but if I actually want opinions I without a doubt come here. Everyone here likes helping each other out but you are still honest. It's a great place to be!
I am on both, but I find myself here a lot more now. I think there are pros/cons to both sites- just find where you fit in and get to posting :)
I honestly have yet to be able to even find or read a post on that site... the interface gave me a headache.
I completely know what you mean! I was so excited to be introduced here because one post on the other site and it was clear to me that they were out for blood! I like that people are accepting here and actually want to talk about real issues and help each other out. And not just about wedding stuff but life stuff!
I was on that site for about six months. One night I posted a congradulations for a girl who had just given birth, just to be told that I basically didn't have the right to comment since they didn't know who I was. I had over 1000 posts at that time. Um, hello, public form, if you don't want people commenting, then don't post at all. I came to the Bee about a month ago looking for DIY invite instructions, and absolutely love it here! I'm hooked now!
I've never been on the other sites forums but I've heard things about them. I LOVE the weddingbee and this is the first forum I've found that I actively read and comment on!!!
@SubmarinersBride: omg that is nuts....I did not like other site not because of mean girlsl but I just found the ladies here more helpful.
@danicalifornia: LOL! oh that one! I don;t use their boards...only read one and they were so mean to a poster. but i do use the site at times
I've been to the other forum and agree; it seems to have that sickening "high & mighty" air to it.
I wish I had found this site so much sooner! Everyone here seems so down to earth; I can't wait to become a more involved poster! Haha! :)
I'm a brand new Bee - this is my first post ever! And I'm here because of this "other site" - haahaa! I've been reading their boards for months now and I finally got sick and tired of their rudeness, so I posted asking people to stop being so rude. And got completely attacked for it. LOL I wish the men marrying those cruel women lots of luck, they'll need it. I hope the other girls being attacked on there find their way to this wonderful community. Thanks for being polite and nice on this forum, Wedding Bees!
their attitude is exactly why I am here..I feel that I belong here and that there isn't any rudeness...that other site thrives on meaness..
I've never been another wedding forum site because I also stumbled upon this one in a Google search but I stayed because I loved the vibe! After stalking other people's wedding posts I finally posted my own about a dress "nightmare" I was having and I really felt like this forum is about building other women up and not tearing them down (something our society needs a little more of). I also love that the rules are enforced and the mods and hostesses are considerate of their members.
The Hive is/was my first and only site, I feel like I would be cheating if I went elsewhere!
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