Post # 1
What happened to the wedding dress? It’s morphed from one into three: the cocktail dress, the reception dress, and the after-party dress.
When I bought my dress, I bought a dress that was so completely simple and elegant and uncomplicated, that I can wear it all day and go to the bathroom all by myself. I did some shopping before I bought, and now, a sales person from a major bridal retail chain calls me weekly to invite me to try on dresses for a reception and even an after-party.
Maybe it’s me, but I just don’t see the point.
What are everyone else’s wardrobe plans for the big day?
Post # 3
I’m with you, eurekaanchovies! I bought one dress, and have stuck to it! However, this is not to say I didn’t buy two pairs of shoes and two veils…but, they were affordable accessories ($40 total for two veils and $30 total for two pairs of shoes) that would slightly ‘tweak’ the look between ceremony and reception.
Post # 4
Eh, they’re trying make more money off of you. It’s not like you’ll return year after year to buy another dress if you get good customer service. They figure you’re getting married once, better sell you as many dresses as possible! I completely understand why you’d want to wear your beautiful wedding dress the whole night without leaving the party to change. Some people prefer the different looks and then spread their dress budget out over three dresses instead of one.
Post # 5
It’s The Wedding Industry at work! I can understandmaybe having another dress for the reception if your ceremony dress was a marshmallow, for sure. But since mine won’t be, and it sounds like you like your ceremony dress, I would politely but firmly tell them that you love your dress so much that you don’t want to take it off and to please stop calling. Those calls reaaaaally get me after a while.
Post # 6
it’s a marketing ploy. i did th same as you – find a dress that i could move around in on my own. but i’m still a 2 dress bride – partly because of tradition, and because my mum got a lovely dress made for my 2nd dress and i want to respect that
PS: wrt your bridal salon – you could tell them you’ve made all your decisions about your attire already.
Post # 7
I hear ya! I wish I had a second dress for my reception, as my first one is pretty BIG for dancing in, BUT! I love the first one so much, and I already feel like I’m not going to get to wear it that long so might as well get the use out of it. Plus … FI would NEVER in a BILLION years approve of me spending extra money on a second dress.
Post # 8
I’m glad to know it’s not just me. I know they’re out there. Apparently they’re just not reading this thread…
I can understand that there are certain cultures that have a tradition of changing dress. But here in America, for a white gal like me, I just think it’s impractical.
When I first tried on dresses, I tried on one at said major retail chain. It was a dress I never thought I’d want to wear: taffeta, rucheting, poufy skirt. I tried it on primarily for my matron of honor’s sake, because she thought I should try on a variety of dresses.
Well, I put this thing on and I didn’t want to take it off! I felt it was completely ridiculous in theory, but I felt incredibly princess-y with it on. And I’m 36, and so past the point of wanting the fairy tale wedding. I don’t know what it was, but I didn’t want to take it off. It had pockets, too, which was neat.
Post # 9
I’ve got one dress and one dress only. I love my dress and will wear it as long as possible on my wedding day!
Post # 10
i get so upset when i see a wedding show where the bride only wears the beautiful dress for a 30 min ceremony! sure, she changes into another beautiful dress, but the first one didn’t get a chance to shine! i’m a short dress bride and we’re not having any dancing, so it would just be silly for me to have another dress.
Post # 11
- Wedding: April 2010 - Marie Gabrielle, Dallas
I’m going to change into another dress after the reception so that I can go out with my friends and not wear my wedding dress! 🙂 But I am only wearing one for the ceremony and reception.
Post # 12
I’m doing a second dress, only because we are doing a small family ceremony followed by an informal cocktail party. I really want to have a wedding dress for pictures and the ceremony, but I would feel pretty silly walking around in a formal white dress at a laid back party. My ‘second dress’ will not be expensive, though, I’ll probably just grab something flattering from the mall.
Honestly, I think all the pomp and circumstances around weddings continues to grow and grow each year. We have gone from one dress to 2 or 3. Punch and cake in the church basement to ballroom receptions. One reception to a full schedule of ‘weekend of’ festivities. Etc., etc.
It’s funny, my parents say this is another example of excess in this country, but in this case I don’t agree. Throughout history, even ancient history, and many other cultures, weddings have traditionally been huge, elaborate affairs. I think there is a tendency for things to slowly return to that. I know in many countries several wardrobe changes throughout the wedding process are not unusual.
Post # 13
In the next couple years, the Wedding Industrial Complex is going to have brides buying 10 dresses at this rate!
Post # 14
The wedding industry promotes three outfits to twist the dirk a little further into the sternum of every bride who doesn’t have money for extravagance. 🙁
Seriously though, I’ll probably just have my wedding dress and whatever going away outfit I can scrounge up.