- 6 years ago
It was clear from the start that I would be bring home most of the money.
I’m ok with that, since he is ok with that.
First year together, he was on unemployment for a while. I was ok with that, and got him into school.
Next year is good, he’s working full time and things are good.
Now, this last year, is like the first where he’s unemployeed, but fulltime in school.
I’m 100% ok with this. I know the importance of school, so I’m not concerned.
But HE IS! He’s older then I by a few years, so every day he’s all fustrated and depressed about not having a job. I understand that means a lot to a man, but if you have a plan in place, what’s the point of being all sad and depressed the entire journey???
So now, I’m starting a new job and will have training in a few weeks in another city. So I’m thinking this is great… good chance for us to get out…travel a bit. Since he’s in school, while I’m in training he can been out on the deck, or pool doing him homework and we can see the city in the evenings…
NOT SO SAYS HE!
He’d rather stay home. Rather stay home. I’ve accepted him feelings on the matter, but I’m still hurt and fustrated by it all.
I talked to another friend, who was in the same situation with her ex, and she said, don’t take him. He’ll get all depressed and mope about. Cause arguments, etc.
I’m just annoyed at this point, because I like to travel, and did a lot of travelingalone when I was single. So being in a relationship, I figured I wouldn’t have to do that anymore.
I guess I was wrong.
I’m all about making sure everyone has a good time and not do something just to make someone happy and be miserable.
But this it’s a stupid guy thing that just annoying. It’s like I can get over taking care of him in his time of need, but he wouldn’t enjoy a trip because he can’t be the man.