Post # 1
Okay, I’m going crazy hive.
The past few months I’ve heard a lot of talk about babies.
“when are you having your next child?” –a dozen or more people
“your son would be a GREAT older brother.” –a few friends and family
“we really want a grand daugther” –our parents.
We have a two year-old right now and all of our friends who had their first child after we had ours…now they have a second child.
So what does this do to me? It has me CONTSTANTLY thinking about babies. Cuddling with a newborn baby, going on walks with my baby bjorn front carrier and jogging stroller, ALL the cute clothing for babies that’s out right now. I have baby fever and it’s bad. Not to mention this pampers commerical that makes me cry.
All of that has just been on my mind but now DH’s coworkers have been talking non-stop about DH having another child (twins to be specific). Which has DH kind of wanting another one.
My question to you guys is: when do you know it’s the right time to start trying? And for those of you who are TTC, what has you certain that you want a baby? Do you have any doubts??
We aren’t that worried about money but then again who knows what could happen and we would definitely need to replenish our savings before we start TTC.
Post # 3
haha it’s called babies rabies. I know I HEAR IT 24/7 and I HATE it. :/
Post # 4
I don’t think there’s an easy answer to this…if you and SH husband both want more kids I think you should at least try to get yourself to a point where you would be comfortable having another child (savings wise) so if you did get pregnant you wouldn’t have added stress.
Post # 5
We have a total of 3 (19, 9, and 5) two are from our previous marriages (the eldest two) and the five is ours together.
We sorta just started TTC this past year with no success and will be trying again in March due to the wedding in April. (I’ve got the gown, so I AM gonna wear it!)
That was our choice and as disappointing as it is to not be pregnant, I’m thinking it’s a good thing I’m not due to a lot of stuff going on in our lives at the moment. (Wedding planning, the wedding in April, engagement photos, etc.)
If you aren’t ready for another, just wait. The last thing you want is another before you’re ready for it. 🙂
Post # 6
I get baby fever sometimes and miss having an infant. But for us, there are too many doubts going into having another child. I know everyone else would love it, but… the world is a very difficult place to survive and thrive in right now. Sometimes it feels like even one is just too much.
Post # 7
@Navy_Wife: I agree. My last pregnancy was so stressful but so much has changed since then. I know we are both good parents (I mean we have our times when we get frustrated)…DH has a very stable job, we have a stable place to live so I’m not sure if there is any huge “DON’T DO IT” factor. We don’t have a ton of debt and we are pretty responsible with money.
The only major thing holding me back is knowing I want to get my RN…I went back to school after I realized my job at that moment was terrible. But now I’m not working and I don’t plan to until my kiddo(s) are in school so I’m not certain I should finish getting my RN – just to be a SAHM. I’m trying to convince myself I can just finish getting my RN in 5 years then start working full time again.
I’m just not sure if I’m ready or not, or what would make me ready. Obviously, a ton of debt and unstability would be deal breakers for us but we don’t really have that.
Post # 8
I don’t think there is ever a “right time” to start thinking about a second. We are really scared when we think about how much work we’ll have when we add to our family… but given that there is never a right time, we’re just going for it assuming that good family spacing is about 2 years or so 🙂