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what's worse... (wedding faux pas vs. pet's health)

posted 1 year ago in Etiquette
  • poll: what would you do?
    go to the wedding--you rsvp'd yes and it's not an emergency pet situation : (33 votes)
    79 %
    stay home--don't make your friend take care of a sick pup! : (9 votes)
    21 %
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    finnaroo    August 7, 2010   DC (living in nyc now)

    being a no-show to a wedding that you rsvp'd yes to, or leaving your friend to take care of a sick pet?

    we're supposed to go to a wedding today that's a 2 hour drive away, and we're getting a ride with friends at noon. we're planning on staying the night and driving back sometime tomorrow. the couple getting married are friends of my husband, and traveled about 5 hours to come to our wedding.

    however, our dog refused to eat dinner last night--something that NEVER happens. he eventually ate about 3/4 of it, and around 11 threw up some. around 2am, he threw up a LOT more. we've been giving him ice to keep him hydrated, and will feed him plain rice and chicken broth in small bits to make sure he's eating okay. he's pretty listless this morning so far... :(

    i'll call the vet in an hour to see if we should bring him in, but i'm wondering if it's a horrible thing to do to my friend (who was a bridesmaid--she's one of my best, best friends) who has agreed to stay with him tonight to leave him when he's feeling badly. she's completely capable and responsible, and such a good friend, but i would feel awful if he puked again and she had to clean it up or deal with taking him to the vet :(

    so i don't know, what's worse? me not going (my husband would still go), or leaving the dog with my friend?

     
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    caszos    June 2010   Florida

    I would go to the wedding.  It doesn't sound like an emergency pet situation and like you said your friend is perfectly capable.  

     
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    UpstateCait    October 7, 2011   Upstate, NY

    I'm with caznos. I would definitely still call the vet and maybe try to get your pup in before you leave but I dont think you need to miss the wedding for it (if you do really want to go). Dogs are like people. Sometimes they get the stomach bug and don't want to eat. It wouldnt be the worst thing in the world if he threw up again and your friend had to clean it up. If she does end up having to do more than just sit on your couch and watch TV all night, get her a gift card or something as a "thanks for cleaning up puke" gift. I'm sure she knows what shes getting herself into. 

     
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    finnaroo    August 7, 2010   DC (living in nyc now)

    thanks ladies for your advice! we just remembered that the last time the dog got sick, a little over a year ago, the vet told us to give him a little pepcid, so we just gave him that. hopefully it'll perk him up...

     
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    egb    January 2010  

    Just think of it this way: how would you feel if a friend who RSVP'd yes to your wedding was a no-show because she decided to stay with her dog who is not having major issues?

     
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    nmsoonerbride    March 19, 2011   Live in New Mexico, wedding in Oklahoma City

    Poor pup.  I hate it when my furry guy is sick.

    Odds are, he'll be better by this afternoon.  I think going to the vet is a good idea since you won't be with him this evening....if the vet will give him fluids, then you know he'll be well hydrated and your friend won't have to worry so much about forcing fluids.

    Honestly, if he was still listless when it came time to leave for the wedding, I'd stay with him.  But, I really bet he'll be feeling better! 

     
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    artbee    February 28, 2010  

    Did he see you packing? Sometimes when our pup sees that we're packing and getting ready to go, he goes a little crazy.

    Either way, I agree with the others. I know that if my friend had a sick dog and asked me to take care of it so they could go to a wedding, I'd completely understand.

     
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    Miss Geek    May 27, 2011  

    @finnaroo: if the dog is bad enough, you may have to leave him in the vet's care to make sure he doesn't get dehydrated and he has access to medication. Then it won't stop you going to the wedding while knowing your dog is being properly looked after.

     
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    Gerbera    August 7, 2010   NY

    If you feel completely comfortable leaving your pup with your friend then I would go.

    I understand how you're feeling! I would feel bad about leaving my pup as well! But if the pup is in capable hands he will be fine.

    We're the same way but we know that if we leave her with BIL she will be fine.

    Hope he feels better!

     
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    finnaroo    August 7, 2010   DC (living in nyc now)

    thanks everyone!

    @artbee: haha no, we haven't actually packed yet so he doesn't know we're leaving ;)

     
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    finnaroo    August 7, 2010   DC (living in nyc now)

    @Gerbera: that's part of the thing--we used to live 10 mins from my in-laws, and i'd be COMPLETELY fine leaving him with them. i just feel bad putting that on my friend, even though she's so dependable. i know she'll take good care of him, i just feel bad burdening her when normally, he's really easy to take care of...

     
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    CorgiTales    February 1, 2011  

    I'd go to the wedding, and pick her up a nice gift card on the way back. :) 

     
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    ejs4y8    June 20, 2009  

    I'm sure your friend won't mind--it's what friends do =]

     
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    abbyful    June 7, 2011   Kansas City

    Go to the wedding.

    And don't feed the dog any more food. Usually a 24-hour fast will clear up puking/diarreah issues. (If he's puking, his body is trying to empty his stomach. So don't keep giving food to him.)
    Just give him water. You can also give unflavored Pedialyte if you're worried about him getting dehydrated.

     
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    mhartnett337    April 16, 2011   ny

    or it could have parvo the only reason my pup survived is because i took him to vet asap google it especially puppies sorry id take my dog and send a generous gift end of story sorry 

     

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