Post # 1
My husband and I are renewing our vows for our fifth anniversary. Though our date is far away, sometimes we like to talk about details.
I think a cocktail reception is appropriate and trendy. I have read that many weddings are shifting away from offering full meals and having food stations and hor d’oeuvres instead.
My husband and my mother do not like the idea of cocktail receptions. They think that guests deserve a full meal and cocktail receptions look cheap. Since my husband didn’t have much of an opinion when we married and my mom wasn’t present at our elopement, I will agree to a full meal.
What do my beautiful Bees think? Are cocktail receptions bad?
Post # 3
I think they’re totally fine, as long as the timing is appropriate (ex. not over dinnertime). I think they would be good for a mid-afternoon reception or a later reception (starting at 7 pm for example).
Post # 4
@TakeTwo: Many traditional southern American weddings feature light hors d’oeuvres in lieu of a full meal. It’s not that uncommon around here. I don’t think they’re “bad” at all. If you wanted to go lighter, don’t have the reception around meal time. If you want heavy hors d’oeuvres, have it at dinner! I think with the creation of places light fondue restaurants and tapas bars, a cocktail reception is completely acceptable!
Post # 5
I actually think its totally fine, even around dinner time. As long as there’s plenty of food, maybe a combination of stations and heavy on the passed apps, I think it’s great. I would just make sure everyone has a place to sit and eat so everyone feels comfortable. It would be more of a mingling, talking, fun atmosphere as opposed to a very formal sit down dinner.
Post # 7
Food stations that are set up like a buffet can be fine anytime. Light appetizers or passed trays only are not really appropriate at a time when guests would ordinarily expect a meal IMO.
Post # 8
Nothing in my book.
We’re doing late afternoon cocktails with passed hors d’oeuvre and 5 differrent food stations.
Since we’re both a bit older (and this FI’s 2nd marriage) we thought it suited us better than the traditional evening wedding.
Post # 9
@TakeTwo: I have no problem with cocktail receptions as long as their is enough food I’m more than happy. I actually prefer it:))))))
Post # 10
I think the only problem is that people think they are cheaper, but they’re actually (often) not cheaper. So you end up paying the same or more for a sit down meal but you know there are those certain people who will look down their nose at it.
Post # 11
I love cocktail receptions! I think that they can be very nice if the timing is right and there is enough food passed around 🙂
Post # 12
I think because we eloped the first time and my family was very unhappy about it, my husband and my mom would like the vow renewal to more formal.
I agree with many of the posts on this thread. As long as cocktails are not served at a dinner hour and there is enough seating and alcohol for everyone, cocktail receptions are fine.
If we were going with a cocktail reception, I would serve substantial hor d’oeuvres.
Post # 13
I think it’s great. I would much rather get schwasted for free than eat some crappy food
Post # 14
I think they are a great idea!
Post # 15
I’d add to have sufficient seating! Cocktail hour often has no seating so I fear a cocktail reception wouldn’t either.
Post # 16
As long as there are enough seats, nothing is wrong with them.