Post # 1
Our wedding is in 25 days. I love my Fi and can’t wait to marry him, but I find myself not so excited for the wedding. It just feels like everything is painful now – finalizing our numbers from the invites, working on our bridal party line up, good lord when it comes time for it the table assignments. And FI can see it in my every expression, in the tone of my voice. Is this normal? I spend as little time a day as possible doing wedding things, mostly leave them for the weekends. It’s just so much other stuff is going on in my life…three weeks ago my brother, mother and myself dropped my father off at a prison camp – he committed a crime and is now serving his term and is subsequently not going to be there for the wedding next month. My brother and his girlfriend (one of my BMs) are having problems, problems so big that four weeks ago I went with him to go look at engagement rings and now he’s put his plans on hold. My Fi just got news yesterday that in 90 days he may not have a job. Today is my mother’s birthday and she is all alone at home. I know I should be excited about getting married in less than a month, and I know that the least I can do is feign excitement for FI…but I’m finding it really hard. I don’t mean for this to be a sob story, everyone always has other stuff going on in their lives at all times, they affect us all differently…but is there something wrong with me that I am not thrilled? I know it’s not depression – yes there’s a lot going on, but I know the signs and I’m not exhibiting any of them. I know it’s stress…I’ve never loved FI any more than I do now because he’s been here for me, I just wish I could get over this funk.
Post # 3
Hi, date twin. I’m right there with you. I’m completely and totally over the Wedding thing, and desperate for the Married thing. This is literally copied and pasted from a gmail chat my fiance and I were having during the workday: “I’m tired of trying to check stuff of a to-do list when I don’t really give a crap anymore.” Hopefully, we’ll both work past this and decide again that the wedding will be fun and worth it. All of our loved ones, under one roof, united to see us vow to stay with one person forever. No matter what, though, you’re not alone.
Post # 4
There’s nothing wrong with you, looking at everything you have going on I’m not surprised you’re feeling a bit down. Be kind to yourself, don’t worry about not being super excited, and I think you will feel better soon. Lots of sleep, fresh air, exercise, good food, quality time with your FI, and forgive yourself for not feeling the way you want to at this point. Your wedding will still be beautiful and you will marry your wonderful man 🙂
Post # 5
I’m really really sorry you’re going through so much right now 🙁 It’s totally reasonable just in terms of planning alone to be stressed out, never mind all the other stuff that’s going on. I know it probably seems difficult for you to get excited thinking about a celebration for you and your fiancée when so many other people close to you are going through so much, but when it comes time for the day, it’s completely your right to relax and enjoy “your day”. When people in your family see that you’re celebrating and enjoying your new marriage, they’ll feel like it’s ok to do the same. It sounds like everyone could use a happy occasion to celebrate right now, think of it as a welcome breath of fresh air for everyone and a good reason for people to come together and be happy about something 🙂
Post # 6
I feel pretty much the same way! I’m over the planning thing and am ready to be MARRIED and on our honeymoon!