Post # 1
I’ve been wanting to get married for almost three years, we have two little girls together, ages 1 1/2 and 6 months. He finally asked me about a month ago and I was thrilled, but now after the beginnings of wedding planning, I’m feeling panicked and stressed out. I’ve realized that there is no way I’m going to have the wedding I’ve always wanted, due to our budget, and I know it shouldn’t matter, but it’s very disappointing. All of a sudden I’ve become extremely jealous and making up things in my head that could possibly happen that would ruin everything. I’m starting fights with him. I feel insecure about a lot of stuff about myself. I’m overly emotional. I’m fearful. Why now, am I acting like this? It’s like someone else has taken over in place of me. I feel like I am going crazy and I KNOW I’m driving him crazy. Any suggestions?
Post # 3
It might have something to do with you not being able to fit the wedding into your prior expectations of a dream wedding. It can be an extremely stressful thing to plan but maybe you two should decide on a way to do a low key ceremony or talk to some friends and family that you know will help you with planning everything. Or maybe you should just wait a little bit to get married. Just because your engaged doesn’t mean the wedding has to be right away. If none of these options sound good then you need to figure out what is realistic for you. The best thing is to sit down with your FI and tell him your worries, stress, etc maybe you two can pick certain things that are important to you both about having a wedding and find a solution.
Post # 4
It sounds like you are stressed about planning your wedding. I think you need to sit down and realistically think about your budget and what your wedding will be like. Just because it isn’t you ‘dream’ wedding, doesn’t mean that it’s not beautiful and doesn’t accomplish the same thing, you being married to the man you love!
Post # 5
I had a similarly sad point some time ago about our wedding budget. For me, it was somewhat related to the wedding porn I was watching. I would say to try to do a lot of research on budget and diy wedding ideas. For me, once I did this research I fell in love with a whole new concept of wedding and was pretty much happy from then on. What is your budget? I’m having an 80 person wedding on 5k and honestly it’s really doable. Best wishes!
Post # 6
I think wedding planning is a very overwhelming and difficult time. Unless you have an unlimited budget, or a family member that is happily (and generously) footing the bills, it is going to require a lot of sacrifice. It is hard! I think the standards have become higher and higher, and it is hard to have your expectations meet with reality. I think it is normal to have a sort of “what are we going to dooo!!?” breakdown in all of the stress. Think about what matters, why you are doing this, and what priorities matter to you. Then, think about how to attain them.
Post # 7
I agree with the above ladies. There are SO many options when it comes to a wedding that you could literally go crazy considering all of them! Try to remember what this wedding means – a marriage and future with your wonderful husband! You just have to think realistically with respect to budget and prioritize what you want. You may not be able to get everything you always dreamed of, but try to find ways that will allow you to have what you really want while compromising on some of the things you don’t care about so much. When I first started planning my wedding, I had a bit of sticker shock too! Things are expensive! But the wedding means so much more than just a potentially expensive day and that is what I try to keep in mind. Good luck – and congrats on your engagement!
Post # 8
I really love “The 2,000 dollar wedding” I love it, not for the wedding itself, because that never would have been my “style” but I love what the couple asked themselves and each other, to determine what was important to them. I think that is what is sooo valuable with that story. IMHO, if everyone made their list about what experiences they wanted their wedding to have, and why (what’s important to them), no matter what the wedding cost, whether more or less, they would have the day be what they want, all about them as a couple. BTW-I know that different parts of the country (different cities, especially) have differing expenses, but I believe that most people can have “a wedding of their dreams” if they are flexible and creative in their approach and thinking, and are willing to focus on what is most important for their day. 🙂