- 3 years ago
- Wedding: September 2015
I’m going to start off by saying that I think mismatched bridesmaids dresses can look really nice and it’s great to give them the freedom to choose whatever they want to wear. They aren’t dolls to play dress up with and have their own individual tastes and styles.
That said, personally, I like things that match. If I tried doing the mismatched thing, it’d be like, “Pick whatever dress you want in this exact color, fabric, length, silhouette, and neckline.” The difference would be so minimal that there’s almost no point. What I’d like for my girls and the groomswoman, is the same dress, but in different colors. That’s my idea of mismatching.
However, whenever I bring up the attire, someone always says, “Oh, but what about just letting them pic whatever they want?” “I know someone where they just said here’s the color you need, go get a dress in that color.” “It’ll be easier to just let them choose on their own.”
I know most people don’t frequent wedding websites and think it’s so unique and different, but I’m well aware that the option exists and I’m knowingly not going that route. For some reason, it seems like wanting the girls to match automatically makes you a bridezilla nowadays, though.
In some cases, it can be less expensive for them and I get that, but the area where we live has tons of options for dresses. I’ve gotten gowns for $50 for various functions that were good quality and looked nice. When we were looking for the damas’ dresses for my quincenera, we just walked up one street going store to store. It’s very simple and cost effective for them to match in our area.
The bridesmaids haven’t said anything about this oddly enough. They’re just like, “Whatever you want.” It’s mostly been random 3rd parties. FMIL was there when we asked FSIL to be in the wedding party. Immediately she says, “Are you picking their dress? Are you going to have them match?”
I just hate being made out as an awful person for wanting to have the girls match. Has anyone else received this reaction? I don’t ever really know how to respond. With FMIL, I responded honestly and said that I did plan on having them in matching dresses, picking the dress with the girls’ input. She still wasn’t quite happy about it, but I didn’t know what else to say. What do you say in that situation?