What's wrong with wanting my bridesmaids to match?

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: What do you think about matching bridesmaids?
    I love it. My girls will be matching. : (108 votes)
    51 %
    I like it a lot, but they'll be mismatched : (25 votes)
    12 %
    It's ok as long as they don't look like clones : (39 votes)
    18 %
    I don't like it at all, let them be themselves, not dolls. : (28 votes)
    13 %
    Other : (13 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
    2151 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    There’s nothing wrong with wanting your girls to match. Mine will match. I would just ignore what others say. If your girls have no problem with it, than I don’t see an issue! 

    Post # 4
    462 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Mine are going to match! You are not a bridezilla. I found a dress I loved that was universally flattering and very reasonably priced and totally matched the style of my wedding. Before that I assumed I’d pick a color, length and designer and let the girls choose their own neckline and silhouette,  but this dress was perfect. Luckily everyone likes it! I did ask for opinions first of course.

    Post # 5
    2169 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @HonoraryNerd:  …I don’t think there is ANYTHING wrong with wanting your BMs to match! I love it when BMs match!

    Post # 6
    1864 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    @HonoraryNerd:  It sounds like your FMIL was just curious and asking you a pretty normal question. I’ve asked people before if they are having matching or mismatched bridesmaids. And I meant no ill harm in my question. Just genuine curiosity. 

    And there’s nothing wrong with it, mine are matching and my bridesmaids have no qualms about it. 

    Post # 7
    1190 posts
    Bumble bee

    @HonoraryNerd:  as much as mismatched bridesmaid dresses are a trend, I have NEVER been to a wedding where the bridesmaids pick their dresses. 

    So, I definitely think that you’re not being a bridezilla 🙂

    Post # 8
    571 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013


    There’s nothing wrong with wanting your bridesmaids to match. I like it when they match! (provided it’s a nice frock 😀 ) The mismatched trend can be done beautifully, but I often find it can be distracting. I’m too colour sensitive and there is always at least ONE in big groups of BMs that just doesn’t fit the theme, or colour scheme and if that makes me a bridezilla, so be it! 😛 


    Post # 9
    7286 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    I don’t think that there is anything wrong with wanting your BM’s to match but I think this is where the BM pays rule can really be questioned. If all your close friends/BM’s have to buy the exact same dress it really limits if and when they can rewear it.

    Post # 11
    2167 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    Nothing wrong with that, all 10 of my girls will match (dress, shoes, hair, and nails). I actually explained that from the beginning. Either way I’m sure your girls will look great!!!

    Post # 12
    2581 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - UK

    @HonoraryNerd:  I’m like you – mismatching can look great, but it’s not for me. I’m hoping to have the same dress in different colours instead. Everyone I know seems to think this is brilliantly new and exciting, so  perhaps it’s good that’s as far as I’m going with my mismatching!

    I’m giving my girls lots of room for input on the dress though, so we can get one they’re all happy with.

    Post # 13
    970 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2017

    @HonoraryNerd:  There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting them to match. My bridesmaids will match too! The dresses are long and I’m giving them an option of a couple shoes – if they want to all wear the same one, that’s their choice. I just want them to be comfortable too!

    Post # 14
    122 posts
    Blushing bee

    There’s nothing wrong with wanting your girls to match. I personally hate the look of mismatched bridesmaids dresses. It just does not look neat/organized to me and I need things to look right. To each his own.

    Post # 15
    3249 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I think nothing is wrong with it.  It’s not my cup of tea, exactly, but my wife chose matching dresses, and I think they were great – better than I thought they’d look, actually.  Her original plan was one with a wrap top, that they could do up the way they liked, but that one was out of stock when they went to order, so she picked something different, and it was absolutely fantastic.

    Post # 16
    7664 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

    Nothing wrong with matching. If you get complaints, why don’t you pay for the outfits… they can hardly complain then!

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