Post # 1
Another bee posted about people making rude comments about how thin she is and how much that hurt her feelings and it got me thinking that we probably all have things we’re sensitive about that other people have NO IDEA offends us. Or maybe they do and just don’t care because they’re jerks?
For me, it’s my height. I’m barely 5 ft tall and people love to tell me how short I am. How cute I am. How tiny I am. I hate it. I got teased a lot for being small growing up, so it actually really hurts my feelings when people point out how short I am (especially in work or formal social settings). So, I’m curious, what is your achilles heel? Perhaps if we share them, we can be more sensitive to one another and learn what NOT to comment on in other people.
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
for me I guess it would be my weight, but I don’t let anything bother me so much that I would call it my achilles heel.
Growing up I was really self conscious because my family had more money than my friends’ families and they would tease me about it. But I got over that really fast after high school hahaha
Post # 4
So this isn’t a physical thing. But my achilles heel is definitely when people comment on what I eat. I am quiet petite but spent a lot of my life with an eating disorder and have had my weight be very high and very low. I’ve worked very hard to become comfortable with eating/my body. So, I hate when people say judgemental things about my eating choices like, “You aren’t eating anything!” or I have a boss who always comments on my breakfast… What I eat is nobody elses business and no one has any right to judge me!! Phew, good to get that off my chest 🙂
Post # 5
I’m an only child and my parents had this idea that they wanted me to be perfect (even if they never admit to it, trust me its there). My mom was really bad about my appearance and weight (I was never fat or even close to being overweight, The heaviest has been about 130lb and I’m 5’2 but I average 110lbs). So comments about my hair (I once had a guy tell me my hair was like a broom ugh that gets me to this day) or my teeth (hello rabbit) or my legs (I hate them) make me uncomfortable. Physical wise the worse is body hair, I mean its not like I have a fur coat lol but I have baby hair/peach fuzz that most girls have but it is very dark 🙁 I’m getting laser to get rid of it even though nobody has commented on it yet.
I am the most sensitive about other things though, I was once told I was too nice (wtf?) and gave to many compliments (WHAT???? Its not like I lied about any of it, just because I’m not a bitchy girl who evil eyes you but is happy you have gorgeous hair/smile/skin) and apologized too much (and trust me I dont apologize for things I dont do, but hey if ur day has been terrible I will say something like, I am sorry your having a rough time but on the upside you’re hair looks great! trying to be cheerful but apparently thats annoying) so that hurt a good deal. I study medicine and was a straight A student in high school, that of course changes in college, so comments from family like, you got an 80? I mean you just have to sit down and study how hard can it be? get me mad real quick. Or another one, you don’t know what your talking about you’re too young (I know I’m 20 but it doesnt mean I’m a moron or dont have the power of observation!)
Wow I had never listed them out…. I sound like a psycho insecure person I swear I’m not, mostly I’m happy but comments stick to you so after each one I took extra care with that specific area.
Post # 6
I put “other.” My weakness isn’t so much weight per se; even after gaining my birth control weight I’ve never been considered obese or overweight. My weakness is people pointing out that I’m not fit- as in, I don’t exercise and am a complete couch potato. I’ve recently started working towards losing the weight I gained on BC, and my SO made the comment that he couldn’t picture me running a mile. I wanted to cry and just quit right there. If he doesn’t believe in me, why should I?
Post # 7
I put weight. I’m not overweight by any means, but I have gained weight recently and it bothers me. I think the biggest problem is that I carry all my weight in my stomach. I think it makes me look pregnant… And it doesn’t help that I have been asked more than once if I was pregnant… Ugh.
Post # 8
Hmmm. I have gotten comments about being thin, having big teeth and being pale. While irritating I wouldn’t say it ever bothered me enough to be considered my achilles heel. People usually say those things as a way to compliment me, so they mean well. I guess I will have to say my hair, it is very thin and people will point that out. I can’t really do anything about it but I will try and tease it for hours without much success. I don’t think they mean to hurt my feelings or anything though.
Post # 9
My tattoos. I’m covered. I hate talking about them. I hate people commenting on them. I hate strangers grabbing me to look at them. I hate opinions on them. I don’t even notice they are there, why can’t other people?
Post # 10
I wish I could’ve picked more than one. The most obvious is weight. Being a plus sized woman, it’s never easy. The less obvious one is my teeth. I had really bad dental hygene as a kid, so now they’re stained and even though I take good care of them now, it really bothers me if someone mentions it, even nonchalantly.
Also, 3rd and not listed, body/facial hair. If I don’t maintain, I get a mini-stache and a unibrow and it kills when someone points it out. Unless I bring it up, just don’t go there.
Post # 11
@mrsgrant: I’m the same way. I am 4’11” and barely 100 lbs. People are constantly telling me how young I look how cute I am and how tiny I am. I have random people come up and ask me how old I am, how much I weigh, how tall I am. I had a bartender ask me if I was a humonculus once (a perfectly proportioned person? Idk.) It’s so insanely rude and I hate it.
Post # 12
@MissFemmeFatale: Oh, I’m sorry, you would hate me. When I see people who have visible tattos I gawk and ooh and aah because I wish I had visible tattoos!
Post # 13
Thanks for sharing ladies. Reading these reminds me of things NOT to comment on Or mention with others. Sounds like a good rule of thumb is to just not comment on most aspects of appearance unless you’re giving a sincere compliment like “you’re beautiful” or “I love your hair.”
We all have our sensitive areas. I guess we also have to do some work on ourselves to love ourselves more unconditionally. We are each unique and should cherish the things that make us different (easier said than done).
Post # 14
@miss comicbook – glad (but dismayed too) that I’m not the only one who gets those stupid comments. I had a former colleague/work nemesis ask me if my body was proportionate before (hinting that it couldn’t possibly be since I’m so short) and I have people ask me my height all the time. Ugh.
Do people ever pull up your pants legs to examine your shoes? This happens to me regularly and it is a pet peeve. They will ask to see my shoes and then say something about how I’m short even with heels on. So rude and unnecessary
Post # 15
I voted skin. I have been struggling with acne since I can remember. I’ve done every treatment under the sun. Now that I’m mid 20s and finally have a handle on it, I’m very sensitive to how it looks ( my skin) . I spend a lot on products and procedures to remove the scarring and redness.
Post # 16
For me, it’s been my round race! I’m finally starting to appreciate it now that I’m in my 30s, but man I HATED it! >:P Growing-up people would call me “chubby cheeks” or “apple face” (my cheeks were always red), and I especially hated how fat my face looked in pictures (because people always thought I was “fatter” in real life whenever they saw the pixs). Grrrrrrrr
Now after 30+ years I’m finally “growing into my face” and am appreciating (not gonna lie I’m also lovin’ it! lol) how young it makes me look! But I still do envy women with small narrow faces (Meg Ryan (Harry Met Sally), Jennifer Aniston) because they can have just about any type of haircut and still look awesome.